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Do you sleep alone? ?

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LaraGransnet (GNHQ) Tue 16-Mar-21 09:21:51

And does it help with insomnia? We’ve seen countless conversations over the years on Gransnet about partners disturbing a good night’s rest, whether that’s from snoring, stealing the duvet, being restless, or insisting on either tropical temperatures while you swelter away, or leaving all the windows open when it's freezing outside.
Is sleeping alone the answer?

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Whatarethechances Fri 19-Mar-21 19:25:08

I sleep with DH but occasionally I will move myself to the spare room if I can’t get off to sleep.

SuzC Fri 19-Mar-21 18:37:55

I've slept alone now for about a year - DH was always restless and disturbed me. When the pandemic hit and he was still out at work every day we decided that it might be safer for a while. What we actually both found was this worked much better for both of us anyway - he doesn't have to feel bad about fidgeting and I get some sleep!
A weighted blanket has been my best purchase to keep me warm & snuggled.

lexigran Fri 19-Mar-21 18:22:11

I sleep with DH but have considered sleeping seperately as he gets up to go to the bathroom at least once a night and also talks in his sleep. He has been known to fight in his sleep so when he starts twitching I move to the edge of the bed to avoid getting thumped! Not easy to get back to sleep.

ykellock Fri 19-Mar-21 17:35:09

I sleep with my other half but sometimes his snoring keeps me awake. I sometimes dream so he often gets woken up with me thinking we have a burglar downstairs!

daisybeebee Fri 19-Mar-21 15:52:48

I sleep alone because I have terrible insomnia and I’m such a light sleeper. I also get terribly hot and think I would be a nightmare to sleep with.

Lorelei Fri 19-Mar-21 14:21:44

Yes, I sleep alone (but don't sleep very well!) I have had many hospital visits over the years, more as a child and they have lessened as I have aged, from accidents incurred whilst sleep walking! Apparently I have always talked in my sleep too - and snored (if I hadn't woke myself up a couple of times I wouldn't believe that!) I've also been told I'm restless, get up and sleepwalk to the loo - all the things that must make me a terrible person to try and sleep with, so maybe it's a good thing to spare someone all these horrors and continue to sleep alone.

Katyl Fri 19-Mar-21 13:52:36

I sleep with my husband who snores like a wild boar on heat. Doesn’t help my insomnia.

IamaWallis2 Fri 19-Mar-21 13:09:32

Yes, I do sleep alone and sleep better due to this. No pets allowed on bed or in bedroom. Less disturbance. Ex-husband used to snore terribly and I am so happy not having to put up with those sleepless and disturbing nights.

ottypotty Fri 19-Mar-21 13:01:38

I sleep with my husband, and would not dream of not - I love his presence - he makes me feel safe and secure, we have a super king bed - which gives us both ample space to sprawl out - goodness knows how we slept in our tiny second hand bed we had when we were first married - it was tiny and the springs 'pinged' every-time you moved.

Holidayenthusiast Fri 19-Mar-21 11:25:42

My DH sleeps in the spare room so I currently sleep alone. I must admit that having the whole bed to myself is a luxury. However, occasionally the dog comes up and he is a terrible “space invader”.

Alexa Fri 19-Mar-21 10:20:02

After the days of my husband I took in a dear friend as sleeping companion. When he died I already had dogs so that was a big help.

jollo Fri 19-Mar-21 09:37:00

I sleep alone, husband snores. It was a difficult decision to make but I sleep so much better.
We do sleep together on holidays though

cathyov Fri 19-Mar-21 09:13:41

I sleep with DH and find his deep breathing and warm presence reassuring even if I cannot sleep. On the occasions he is away my sleep is worse - think I am worrying about things going wrong or maybe even burglars!

Happygirl79 Fri 19-Mar-21 08:14:38

I live alone and I love it. Particularly having my bed all to myself. Such comfort. Married twice and didn't sleep well sharing the bed but now I sleep very well indeed. Every single morning I wake up and first thing I luxuriate in stretching and enjoying the blissful feeling of freedom and independence
A peaceful sleep is the absolute tops

Harmonypuss Fri 19-Mar-21 03:55:47

As i live alone, of course I sleep alone.
Also being the worst insomniac I know (10hrs sleep per week if I'm lucky), it's probably a good thing because I'd only keep someone else awake and that wouldn't be fair.
I also have MS and am heart intolerant so my bedroom window is open all year round but open or shut, it makes not a scrap of difference to my ability to sleep, I just prefer not to be thrashing around because I'm overheated.

farview Thu 18-Mar-21 16:49:46

7.30 a.m not p.m ?

farview Thu 18-Mar-21 16:49:18

Separate bedrooms here...H goes to bed 8p.m till 7.30p.m........I go to bed at a more adult time ?....I make both beds in the morning..He's doesn't even looked slept in...he must lie like a plank all night...my bed haha...somehow pillows flung around the bedroom....duvet often turned completely around so that the buttons are near my chin ...but I sleep through all the tossing and turning...

zulianilord Thu 18-Mar-21 15:55:20

I sleep with my husband of 47 years.

cookiemonster66 Thu 18-Mar-21 11:36:14

hubby kicked me out of our bedroom over a year ago now as my snoring, and my sleep apnoea - gasping for breaths kept him awake and he works long days. So the spare room is now 'my' bedroom' have enjoyed turning it from the junk room to my own personal space, I can 'star-fish' as much as I want, read all night, munch bikkies in bed with a cuppa cocoa and no-one is moaning! LOVE IT!

Silvergran59 Thu 18-Mar-21 11:17:16

I have chosen after 33 years of marriage to sleep in the spare room which I have made my own, it has really helped my marriage as we have our own routines for bedtime and getting up and now have a much better relationship - it's so hard being in the same house for someone 24/7 we all need our own space to come to terms with what's going on in the outside world.

montydoo Thu 18-Mar-21 11:01:00

I sleep with my husband, and he is the most patient person to sleep with, I wake multiple times, being uncomfortable with pain, be never complains, and I love that he is next to me at night. He brings me a cup of tea and my tablets every morning.

Livvie21 Thu 18-Mar-21 11:00:59

I sleep with my husband. We have a small double bed but we are both quite small and we like being next to each other at night.

DUDY Thu 18-Mar-21 10:49:56

I sleep with DH.
He usually falls asleep before me as I like to read for a while before going to sleep.

Lorraine379 Thu 18-Mar-21 10:15:28

Sleep with husband, with his snoring and my tossing and turning I don't think it helps either of us sleep well!

Kate54 Thu 18-Mar-21 07:15:24

No and much as I love him, I am looking forward to resuming my occasional solo trips away although that doesn’t always guarantee a better sleep.