I am having my second Prolapse (vaginal) repair op next month my first having failed within 4 years.
My dilemma is I currently travel from Kent to London (2hr journey) every Sunday evening and stay until Tuesday evening to care for my 12 month old grandson while my son and his partner work full time. I have gs from 0630 on the Monday morning to 530pm that evening and then same again the following day. I love having him and we have such adventures together! However my DH is left at home alone and if I’m honest he isn’t thrilled about it.
I have now been told that my op is next month, I do need it done and I’m so so lucky to have only waited 4 months from consultation to operation. BUT the consultant has advised that I will be unlikely to be able to lift anything over 15kgs (1stone 8lb) for the rest of my life due to the very serious likelihood of a rupture. DH AND the consultant have both said looking after gs going forward is a no-no because of the amount of lifting required. As in lifting into out of cots, car seats, pram, highchair. Lifting gs up when he has fallen, up and down stairs etc etc. Common sense and my head tells me they are right, my heart says I can make it work.
My son is devastated that I will no longer be able to look after his son, we have such a close bond and are very close. He has suggested that I continue to go but that I look after gs at the in-laws house as her dad is retired and says I’m welcome to spend the days there as there are no stairs etc etc. Apparently her dad will help with lifting etc but is this really do-able? His wife still works, she says she doesn’t mind but would she really want another woman in her home two days a week? Would I feel comfy, I’ve only met them twice. Would I be better having gs in his own home (maisonette so two lots of stairs) and adjusting how I care for him, ie. feeding from a little plastic table and chair rather than high chair, naps on cushions on floor, teach him to scoot down stairs on his tummy etc etc.
Or do I need to face the truth perhaps that is I cannot continue?
My other children (I have 5 all grown) all want me to stop as they say if I use all my care and health on first gs I’ll likely have nothing left for when others come along.
I’m so upset and cannot think straight.
I would appreciate some honest to goodness opinions please xx
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