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IUD’s….Caitlin Moran article

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MayBee70 Sun 27-Jun-21 13:50:32

I’m just catching up on a lot of old articles and one was about IUD’s and the fact that, with most other painful medical procedures we’re offered pain relief but with IUD fitting it’s a case of ‘well, m’dear, this is going to hurt a bit’. She said she’d had no end of letters about it: I think at the time I thought it was just me. And, when you’re young you don’t think to complain about things. It took me back to the only time I had one fitted and it totally traumatised me. I felt violated and when, after weeks of pain and bleeding it fell out anyway there was no way I was going to have another one. I had forgotten about it till I read the article but I know it had quite an effect on me at the time. I guess smear tests as we get older are almost as bad. Do you think, as women, we’re expected to put up with pain more than men are because we have been through or will at some point go through childbirth.

henetha Mon 28-Jun-21 10:08:30

A good friend of mine had one fitted, this would be the 1970's I think. It was so difficult and painful that she had an epilectic fit. She had never had one before , nor any since.

TerriBull Mon 28-Jun-21 09:50:30

I think the fitting probably was painful, but I think that was overshadowed for me by what happened later on as stated in my previous post.

Shandy57 Mon 28-Jun-21 09:17:17

How interesting some people didn't experience pain, I found it very very painful and remember the doctor rushing off for the nurse. I couldn't live with the pain and had it removed about a month later.

Savvy Mon 28-Jun-21 09:09:25

I was offered one when I had an unexpected period (we think it was caused by stress) and when I refused as there's a long family history of breast cancer, the gynaecologist yelled at me, saying that there was no proven link, and I was being silly.

I'd done my research and found loads of medical papers saying there was an increased risk.

I hasten to point out that the gynaecologist was male!

TerriBull Mon 28-Jun-21 09:01:33

I had one fitted when I was pretty young early 20s, I don't remember the procedure being painful, but it had an awful outcome for me, I became pregnant, obviously unplanned, but that resulted in the un born baby dying somewhere early on, a lot of bleeding and being in hospital for a d and c. After that it was found that sometimes the device I had fitted renders some women infertile. Luckily that wasn't the case for me.

SuzieHi Mon 28-Jun-21 08:49:31

I had one fitted after my 2 children were born. Very painful during fitting, husband could feel string during sex, and then I got terrible cramps when I got a period. Had it taken out after one month. Dr told me I hadn’t given it a chance!! DD has one now- no problems at all, though I hope she won’t get pregnant with it as she’s already got 3 children.

BlueSapphire Mon 28-Jun-21 08:47:31

Had one fitted in 1979 after our first baby, as the consultant said at my age (mid thirties), I shouldn't be on the pill. Don't remember it being painful at all.
A different matter when it came to removal, (had decided to try for another baby), my GP could not get it out, so was referred to the hospital and had to have it removed under general anaesthetic.
Probably my worst experience was when I was being investigated for fibroids; had a womb biopsy with no pain relief. Nearly passed out.

dragonfly46 Mon 28-Jun-21 08:27:27

I had one fitted and removed in the Netherlands by my GP and no pain at all.

OnwardandUpward Mon 28-Jun-21 08:21:03

Getting an IUD was a good thing for me as well and although I had some cramping at first, that was a very long time ago now! It was due to be removed as it had been in there so long, but I was told that due to my age it would not be replaced! Since I am still fertile but feel unable to carry a baby I agreed to leave it there.

I feel very sorry for Britney Spears who has an IUD fitted against her will.

Scribbles Mon 28-Jun-21 08:08:56

I must have been one of the fortunate ones because I had a succession of IUDs fitted for about 25 years with no pain or problems. Getting my first one fitted was one of the best decisions I ever made.

nanna8 Mon 28-Jun-21 00:32:56

I went into shock when I had an IUD put in and had to lie on the doctor’s couch for 30 minutes after vomiting. When I came to have it removed I was terrified but that was all fine. My husband hated it because he said it was like a needle going into him so I guess from that point of view it would have been very effective!

BlueSky Mon 28-Jun-21 00:26:57

What about the simplest method, which incidentally protects you from STD as well, the good old Durex? Apparently a lot of men don’t like wearing them.hmm

GrandmaKT Sun 27-Jun-21 21:17:32

Sorry to hear all these bad stories.
I used IUDs from the age of 19 to 50 (the pill didn't suit me). They were never painful to insert or remove and I only got pregnant when they were removed so we could have our two DC.

Ladyleftfieldlover Sun 27-Jun-21 19:56:57

I couldn’t take the pill so asked about a coil. This was nearly 40 years ago and I was informed they weren’t suitable for women who hadn’t give birth. So we used condoms until we had our family and then OH had a vasectomy.

MayBee70 Sun 27-Jun-21 19:41:52

My friend had what she called a copper baby He was ok.

AGAA4 Sun 27-Jun-21 19:37:18

That's awful. I was worried about where it was but it came out with her not attached.

Sparklefizz Sun 27-Jun-21 17:54:30

AGAA4

I had an IUD fitted. A bit painful but totally useless as I became pregnant about 4 months later.

My sister-in-law became pregnant and her IUD was embedded in the baby's forehead and had to be surgically removed the day after she was born.

annodomini Sun 27-Jun-21 17:04:54

I don't remember having any pain when it was inserted - in the 1970s. It worked well for six years until I started having very heavy bleeding which my useless GP told me was because of my age! I was 37. Then we moved and my new GP said it was my IUD causing the trouble, took it out - painlessly - and bleeding went back to normal.

AGAA4 Sun 27-Jun-21 17:01:01

I had an IUD fitted. A bit painful but totally useless as I became pregnant about 4 months later.

fevertree Sun 27-Jun-21 16:37:30

I've not read the article, but I had an IUD fitted in the 1970s. It was a painful procedure and continued to cause severe cramps and discomfort. I hated it and had it removed within a month of it being fitted. I remember ranting at the young doctor about it being "barbaric" and him looking quite sheepish.

vampirequeen Sun 27-Jun-21 15:48:28

I had one fitted in the 90s to control heavy bleeding. The pain due to insertion was so bad that I shot up the bed, hit my head on the wall behind me and had to be kept under observation for a head injury. After that it seemed OK and did it's job but having it removed was just as bad although I didn't damage my head that time.

Then a couple of years ago I had one inserted for post menopausal bleeding. Again agony inserting it. This time the side effects were horrendous. I managed to live with them for 4 weeks then begged my surgery to arrange to have it removed. They sent me to an emergency clinic the same day. Oh the relief.

Jaxjacky Sun 27-Jun-21 15:36:33

I had one fitted, probably 1981/82 no problems, I also have no issues with smears, both are momentarily mildly uncomfortable. Perhaps I’m fortunate, I do totally relax when smears are done.

Sparklefizz Sun 27-Jun-21 15:21:05

I tried an IUD because I didn't want to put hormones into my body with the pill.

I passed out on the doctor's couch, and when I came round it had been taken out again, so I went through all that for nothing.

MayBee70 Sun 27-Jun-21 14:49:51

There seemed to be a lot of scare stories about the pill at the time which is why I thought I’d try a IUD.

Kali2 Sun 27-Jun-21 14:41:52

Must say I am so lucky I never had one fitted. In the late 60s, we all went on the pill. So lucky too that after 2 children, my OH just said 'you've done your bit- my turn. And chose to have a vasectomy'. Takes a real man to do that.