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Managing your anger

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AGAA4 Thu 18-Nov-21 11:12:24

Rarely get angry but I find singing at the top of your voice helps and walking. Don't do both together as I would look barmy.

MissAdventure Thu 18-Nov-21 10:34:59

thanks

love0c Thu 18-Nov-21 07:24:13

Bless you Miss Adventure.

MissAdventure Wed 17-Nov-21 18:38:53

Don't suffer alone.
Come on here.
There's always someone to argue with!
I do hope you start to feel better, little by little thanks

love0c Wed 17-Nov-21 18:22:10

Thank you for your help. Today has been pretty hard. I know there will be many more to come unfortunately as well.

henetha Wed 17-Nov-21 10:25:46

I tend to get upset rather than angry. With me, reading a good book, or going for a walk, helps.

M0nica Wed 17-Nov-21 09:40:34

I usually go for a good long walk, think the whole situation through and what, if anything I can do about it. if I can do nothing, I let out a deep breath and let the anger stream out of my bo1dy and then dorce my mind into more productive channels.

It is a matter of pride. I will not let anger be my master.

rosie1959 Wed 17-Nov-21 09:10:15

I have a very laid back personality inherited from my dad not a lot makes me angry and especially things that I have no control over
I use the serenity prayer makes so much sense regardless of any religious persuasion

Georgesgran Wed 17-Nov-21 08:33:33

Why are you so angry? (No reply necessary of course). Is it a situation that can be resolved, or might it be permanent? If it’s just a letting go - then shout and scream and punch the cushions, but if it’s affecting your health - I’d explore counseling and why not speak to the Samaritans if you feel overwhelmed? When my DD2 was struck down by a life-changing illness at 12, I was so angry, I thought I’d explode. I soon realised that anger was useless, it didn’t help anyone and I channeled it to getting the help for her she’d need for a different life. Hope things improve for you.

MissAdventure Wed 17-Nov-21 08:19:51

There are mindfulness apps you can get on your phone, too.

JaneJudge Wed 17-Nov-21 08:18:09

Also after being really hmm whilst doing my mindfulness course, it has actually been quite helpful. I accessed it through the wellbeing service.

Jillyjosie Wed 17-Nov-21 08:12:24

If you can be calm enough to allow it, breathing helps in the short term. A rhythm that makes the out breath longer than the inbreath, eg 5, in 7 out or I discovered 4 in, hold for 7, out for 8.
Or a walk in the fresh air, or something physical as others have said.
It does depend what is driving your anger. We are an unequal, unhappy, anxious, divided country in the wake of the pandemic with scarce resources especially health and mental health services.
There's a company called Benenden who run something called a health plan from £11 a month. It gives you access to private referrals but it also offers 24 hour free counselling for an hour. I've only used the latter a couple of times but it was very helpful.

JaneJudge Wed 17-Nov-21 07:57:14

If you are retired you could get a dog or a cat who can become your counsellor? They are great at this. My dog really understands or at least pretends to

JaneJudge Wed 17-Nov-21 07:55:45

well, people where I work tend to follow one another around with their hands in the air tutting and shouting at one another grin

I tend to switch off. It is better if you can switch off. Listen to some music, go a quick walk. Anything that regulates your mood again. Put a trampette in the spare room and jump on it. Buy a yoga ball for the same room and do similar.

Hetty58 Wed 17-Nov-21 07:48:55

I rarely get angry these days as I usually see the funny side of any situation.

I do remember being regularly hopping mad when I was grieving, though. My sons had a gym in the garage, so I'd go and give the punchbag a good beating - then take a brisk walk.

CafeAuLait Wed 17-Nov-21 07:41:44

It depends what is driving those feelings. Is it something I can address and change? Then I would do that. If not, I redirect my energy to something happier.

MissAdventure Wed 17-Nov-21 07:29:18

Music, a bath, a walk.
Allow a time slot for the anger then pack it away, put it where it belongs, and where it can do no harm.

love0c Wed 17-Nov-21 07:21:27

When anger consumes you and is affecting your daily life and you feel your head is going to burst with it. How do you deal with these feelings and how do you cope?