Ear problems, feeling pathetic

You aren't a bore or a bother real life or otherwise

I can see why you are anxious about this.

I hope your procedure goes well with the best possible outcome

This is exactly the right place to write down all the above! You certainly are not self pitying in any way. I have no idea what you are going through but others may have ideas or experience to assist. Gransnet is the perfect place for such support.
I think you are incredibly brave and have shown great fortitude. I will cross my fingers that the procedure goes well. Do keep posting.

You’ve every right to be miserable. Especially as a musician. Some consultants have no bedside manner whatsoever. I do hope the treatment works x

You have done the right thing Musicgirl by coming on here to share. Many people do and gain support from this friendly bunch.
I can't imagine the hell you must go through. Even 'simple' earache is the worst type of pain when you are suffering and just don't know where to put yourself.
I know nothing of living with hearing aids but I am certain someone more helpful will be along very soon.
In the meantime, my thoughts are with you.

I’m sorry you are having such a horrible time.

You know what they say a trouble shared is a trouble halved
I hope it’s helped writing it down You sound as if you ve had a pretty rough ride but have done so well to overcome it
I always think it’s scary having things done that involve your face so teeth ears eyes etc always scare me

It’s a shame the consultant didn’t have a bit more of a ‘put you at ease’ manner but some doctors and consultants just don’t but it doesn’t mean they are not good at their job
Could you change your mind about the treatment and go for the bigger one is it worth a phone call
I m sure some on here will have much more knowledge than me but I wanted to wish you well and send you some ?

So sorry to hear of your problems. Here, I'm feeling sorry for myself with just a blocked ear (I think some water entered my ear, while taking a shower)
Feel free to come on here and offload your worries. I'm sure there won't be any pain during the procedure. Won't there be some sort of anaesthetic ? Good luck

Sorry that you are having such a time of it, I empathise, I have sciatica (again) and 24/7 pain has me at my wits end.

You are showing great fortitude, and don’t shy away from sharing here, as you will have seen from previous posters you can receive quite wonderful support on GN.

I hope your procedure goes well, make sure you vocalise your anxiety to the doctor, and ask if he could try to keep you calm, as you are feeling frightened. I find that sometimes makes the tough ones get off the conveyor belt and be a bit kinder.

Thank you all for your very kind words. I am feeling much better. I would honestly far rather go to the dentist than hospital; the ENT department in particular. The Tetracycline damaged tooth has a porcelain crown on it (my only crown) and looks much better than it did previously with a bad stain and large filling. I would sooner go through that procedure again. I know l will be fine though. When I was a little girl, my Dad used to say that earache was worse than toothache because you could have a tooth out but you couldn’t chop your ear off. It always made me feel better. CrazyH, it is horrendous when your ear or nose are blocked, isn’t it? It makes you feel as if you are in an echo chamber.

My dh had had similar problems with constant infections over many years. In the end he had a cholosteatoma operation which took 7 hours but he no longer has infections, Two hearing aids though which he can manage.
Hearing and lack of it is seriously underestimated as an issue until it happens to you. It can be really isolating and as it’s invisible less understood.
If you are not happy can you ask for a second opinion?

Although the consultant was not encouraging, he is the senior consultant and I trust his expertise. I truly sympathise with your husband, silverlining48. I only learned the word cholesteatoma last year but it seems the mastoid problems l had were caused by this. I think it is very common for hospital consultants to be rude/offhand. The one I had as a child was a master of the art. Thankfully he did a fantastic job in the first mastoid surgery l had. I first saw him when I was three or four. My mother well remembers taking me to see him when I was this age. She could not drive at this point so we went by bus and my younger brother, who was a toddler at the time, obviously had to come with us. When we went into his surgery, he took one look at my brother and said: “if that’s not the patient, get him out!” My poor mother. Many times afterwards we saw red-faced mothers with small children running out of his surgery. His receptionists were expected to look after them. This was the late sixties. Imagine that now!

You poor thing - I hate that echo chamber effect.

Talking of intolerant consultants. I took one of my DDs to an ophthalmic consultant when she was about 18 months (she had had problems from birth). Unsurprisingly she kicked off when he approached her with drops to go in her eyes. He got really angry and flung the bottle of drops across the room!
Needless to say we did not see him again - another consultant offered to see her at his rooms for free - he was lovely.

Hope the treatment goes well, musicgirl.

I am sorry, hope you get some improvement

Poor you, I’ve ‘suffered with my ears’ since I was a child, it’s annoying, painful and depressing, I now have BPPV just to add to the mix and I’m sitting here with earache once again today,
So I can understand how you must be feeling and my troubles are nothing compared to yours.
Vent away here on GN.
You have my sympathies and I hope you feel better soon.

I had an operation a few days ago and as. The surgeon was marking my leg he sudden got came out with a very rude comment which shocked and upset me. There was no need fir it at that moment and though he was hauled up by a. Itse present and do d apologise the. NExt day he was sorry I was upset rather than what he said was so wrong, so rude.
Yes they can be very rude, it’s not acceptable.

Hauled up later by the nurse present.. typo

The consultant is new, poor bedside manner, and uses clinical language. I was an experienced nurse and I know most patients appreciate a consultant with friendly manners. I can also reassure you a brusque consultant may be as good as if not better than one with pleasant mannerisms.

What has happened with you is these recurring infections have depleted your energy and natural optimism. no wonder! You have been exceptionally brave and good. As others have said you did well coming here to express your fear.

All the actual information you give us sounds good for the outcome of your treatment and you will be okay. It seems that this is an occasion for you to take the advice of the experts and hand over the decision to them. Once the infection and the operation are dealt with your good spirits will return and you will be able to get on with life.

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Musicgirl you have my complete sympathy as I’m a total wimp when it comes to ear problems. Your stoicism does you credit and I truly hope that the procedure has the desired result. ?

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Oh er mark OB again

Whoops that was meant to say marknob

Thank you all once again for your help and support. It means a lot.