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Please tell me that having a 1st grandchild due shortly will take my focus away from.my general anxiety.

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silverlining48 Thu 12-May-22 09:15:50

I understand as I am a worrier but you need to focus on your anxiety because though small people bring joy they also add to anxiety.
Just heard my gs is unwell today, plans have had to change and will be glad to know when he is better.
Congratulations and good wishes

Grandmabatty Thu 12-May-22 09:09:57

It could make your anxiety worse. You would have another reason to feel anxious and might catastrophise. I started to have anxious thoughts about my first grandchild until I dealt with it. Like others have said, get treatment for the anxiety and you can enjoy your new grandchild more.

DillytheGardener Thu 12-May-22 08:51:17

Anxiety is a separate issue. A baby won’t make any difference to it. What you need is therapy or medication or a combo of it.
First thing to do is contact your gp. Therapy for anxiety is hard to access on the NHS, so if you can afford private do it, they often have discounts for those on low incomes so ask.
I arranged this for my mil some years back, which made a massive difference in her outlook and quality of life, but sadly she decided to go off the drugs and therapy and has reverted back to her severe anxiety again (which shows itself in her excessive calling us worrying about every little thing).
It will really open your life up and allow you to enjoy the new addition to your family.
Congratulations on your first gc.

DaisyAnne Thu 12-May-22 08:40:49

I think you already know that the answer to the question is "not necessarily". The new baby will be a distraction but it's not there to be a treatment for you. That something you and your doctors need to do together.

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 12-May-22 08:34:48

Good advice aggie.

aggie Thu 12-May-22 08:33:00

Please do not focus so much on the baby , it will not be your baby , the parents will be the main carers and you will be hovering in the background
I hope you enjoy the baby as a lovely new life , not as a cure for your anxiety
Please get help for your anxiety and love the baby

This2willpass Thu 12-May-22 08:27:22

Suffering from general anxiety and hoping a 1st grandchild due shortly will keep me busy and focused away from my anxiety. Thanks in advance for replies.