GSM & Annie please encourage them to consider adoption. My niece went through many years of IVF failures but is now 53 and Mum to 2 adopted pre-teen brothers and wishes she was younger.
I know what infertility does to your mental state having been told in the early 70's that we were unlikely to be able to have children. As a forces wife living in married quarters I was surrounded by babies and expectant mothers. We wanted children desperately so we applied to adopt but were turned down because we were fostering 2 young girls. It had started off as private foster arrangement but the mother had vanished and the adoption agency felt that we would keep the girls. (By this time Social Services were funding their care.) Six months later their Mum made contact and arrangements were made for the girls to go back to her and we were back to square one except that we were now regarded as foster parents and Social Services asked us to take short term placements. We fostered 6 children in Plymouth then moved to Portsmouth where we continued fostering.
Several years later we had 4 children living with us. A teenage girl, 2 teenage brothers and a 17 month Chinese girl when I discovered I was pregnant. (Must have been all those raging teenage hormones flying round!) 14 months later my 2nd son was born. Just before his 8th birthday his sister arrived.
IVF gives hope which is something I didn't have but hope can also prolong the agony. It's easy for me to say now that I possibly wouldn't have tried IVF but I was more focussed on having children than becoming pregnant. If we hadn't been turned down for adoption we would have had at least one adopted child. Fostering gave me children in my life and took the focus off the infertility.
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