End of Life Care a decision of Home Care or Hospice

I haven’t read all the replies to your post but I just want to say I’m so sorry about your situation and I feel for you. I have had close relatives who wanted to be looked after at home but in the end it was easier and better for all concerned for them to go into the Hospice as the nurses and doctors there were much more experienced on how to care for them, and keep them as comfortable as possible. I know that they originally wanted to stay at home but were so grateful the decision was made for them to go into the Hospice so please don’t feel have a second thought about putting him in a Hospice.

My husband died a fortnight ago of prostate cancer which had spread everywhere. I cared for him in his last 4 months.

I received fabulous care from the local hospice in including carers twice a day and the community nurses can’t be faulted as they arranged the equipment, sorted out the medications, etc. I had no night help, neither Marie Curie nor McMillan offered me any.

Like you I had promised DH absolutely that he’d die at home and I kept that promise.

DH had been to two of the local hospices for palliative care and their care was beyond reproach, but they weren’t home.

I’m afraid you have to make the decisions yourselves but perhaps occasional respite care would be the answer.

All the best.❤️

I may be too late to suggest this, but would at Hospice at Home work for you both? www.nahh.org.uk/about-hospice-care/what-is-hospice-at-home

1summer, sending love to you. It’s good to see you’ve agreed with your husband that hospice care is needed. Our hospice also has hospice at home care, which enabled one of our close friends to die at home. Others have gone into the hospice as their care needs meant that was essential. All best wishes to you all ?