HowVeryDareYou. Yes I have people to go out with. I have looked at the Black Dog thread. It us helpful and I sympathise that people are going through much worse than me.
Kate1949 Have you got anyone to go out with? If so, are you better when someone is with you? Have you looked the Black Dog thread on here? We've all got anxiety and/or depression on there, and we empathise with each other.
The thinking is that once a behaviour begins to take hold, your brain naturally goes to that setting when dealing with the fear of shaking (for example) It then becomes a kind of default setting and is hard to stop. I suppose it's like a master reset of your brain. Only regards that behaviour though.
Emdr is supposed to create new pathways in your brain (or something!) Meaning that it sets up new ways to react to situations- essentially, it trains you out of damaging thoughts.
I have had it, and despite being very very sceptical it seemed to work!
These must be deep-seated anxieties and I imagine the only way to tackle them is through hypnosis or counselling. We have our conscious mind and our subconscious mind and it's the latter which controls us. So when the conscious mind says you really want to give up smoking but the subconscious says you really don't, it's the latter which will win. The two have to be in harmony. Sounds like your subconscious is in control here and you somehow have to make it realise you have nothing to fear and are not ill. Only when your subconscious mind believes that will you feel better.
No I haven't MissA but I've heard of it. I will look it up. I've been nervous all my life, unsurprisingly, but I assumed things would improve. They haven't. Thank you both.
Have you tried something a bit more alternative than counselling, such as emdr therapy, Kate? Or any self help techniques?
I had "nerves" when I was little. I can't remember anything much about it, other than a rash, which needed cream every night, but "nerves" is what caused it, apparently. (I was very timid)
I suffer really badly with what I believe was once called 'nerves'. I can't relax, am on edge all the time waiting for the next horrible thing to happen. I have been given beta blockers by my GP which didn't help. I have had a bit of counselling, hypnotherapy, tried Kalms, rescue remedy, self help books etc. I am now at the point where I am starting to fear leaving the house. I can't go for a coffee or drink with anyone as my hand starts to shake and the drink goes everywhere. I'm not ill. I just convince myself that I'm going to shake and I do. I am truly fed up with living like this. Does anyone else suffer this way?