Black DOG 13

Annie Hope you've managed to read some of the good wishes sent your way . Joane(Lavender) and Nadateturbe here on BD
HVDY It would be great if we all lived near each other. Hope you've been OK today.
Wyllow I read about Quakers from the link you sent. I haven't attended our local church for many years but if we come across an open church I like to sit in the peace and quiet. I'm glad you have some comfort in your meetings with the friends. It sounds very welcoming.
Doodle This type of bleeding is a continuous bleed rather than the type I believe comes with other issues. I have pessaries for that but Thankyou, I'll keep that in mind. I've only been given 3dys of antibiotics today by duty Dr so hope it will be enough. Enjoy your meal tomorrow. 😋

EllieAnne
Hope you're OK. How have you been today?

Wishing all a peaceful night. Whiff, VSky and anyone I've missed.

Scaredycat you have said much of what I was thinking about Annie. Leaving her beloved Wales would be a huge wrench but being closer to her daughter may be lovely.
I hope the dogs are being well cared for. Like you, I miss Annie on BD so much, not the same without her.
So pleased you enjoyed your meal last night and the pudding too.😊
Sweetpeasue I would have liked a doggie bag too. Sounds delicious. We are going out tomorrow but on past experience, I don’t think there will be anything left to share. 🤣
Oh I’m so sorry. Not another urine infection. Feel so sorry for you that so painful and uncomfortable. Hope the antibiotics kick in soon but it usually takes a couple of days.
I was reading some about post menopausal bleeding and they mentioned dryness. Have you thought about trying something like Replens to help?
Joane I remember a Lavender on BD. Is that you? If so it’s lovely to hear from you and hope things are going well.
HVDY. Your air fryer sounds so good I’m thinking of moving closer to you. Those roasties sound so good.
Yes I love Christmas so will put up decorations. Our tree is tiny ( so small that I pack it away with decorations attached 🤣)
Do you have decorations up too?
Wyllow I’m hoping for a better night for you. Do hope that paperwork is signed soon.
I’ve been to have my haircut today which pleased me a lot. Then got drenched on the way home so looked drowned and unkempt by the time I got home. Such a downpour.
Nice to be home and cosy now. DH has poured a brandy for us……..strictly medicinal to fight off the cold 🤣

Dear Annie. I’m glad you are somewhere safe and you sound pleased to be close to what you think of as home.
I hope you are being well cared for. I have emailed you but don’t worry about replying if you are not feeling up to it.
Much much love and cwtches xx

Wyllow Your ex sounds like a manipulative type. Sociopath? Wouldn't it be great if we all lived near each other? I'd try different air fryer recipes for us all. Your Quaker meetings sound very friendly and helpful.

Doodle I hope all is well with you and your husband. Do you put up a tree and/or decorations at home for Christmas?

ScaredyCat Glad you had a nice meal out. That was a lovely gift from your son. What did you have to eat?

SweetpeaSue I hope the antibiotics take effect very soon. UTIs are horrible.

Anniebach Sorry you're in hospital, but it's good that you're being properly looked after. Nice that you're in familiar territory. I love a Welsh accent. I expect your daughter wants you near her so that she can keep an eye on you. Big decisions. You're very wise, so you'll do the right thing. xx

I hope all on BD has a relaxing evening. x

Annie, I thought I should post here, so you don't have to look for private messages.
I felt very emotional for you, reading your post.
At least you'll have some company in hospital and it's lovely hearing the familiar accent.
Perhaps there would be positives in moving closer to your daughter. You'll always have Wales in your heart wherever you are.
Thinking of you often and remembering you in my prayers.
Loving hugs xx,

Hello Annie
Just seen your message. I am glad you are getting some treatment and things are being sorted out for you.
You are very much missed on the BD thread and you have been a huge help and comfort to me in the past with your wise words. I think of you often.
Sending love and hugs and get well soon thoughts to you.
Love "Lavender" Megan xx

Scaredycat So glad you enjoyed your meal out. Its nice to know you thought of me 😊. Was there a doggy bag(I could have given you my address)? Hope it won't be too long before you can see your son again. I know how much you miss him.

Hope everyone has had a decent day.

Had bad pain from this morning.Took urine sample in and just had call its definitely another urine infection. Got antibiotics.

Its good to hear from Annie and I'm pleased she's being looked after. I hope she will be OK.

Annie- I,m so,sorry you have had to leave your home for the moment but very glad you are in a safe place with people to look after you for now.I would think it is very comforting to hear that beloved accent around you. Your daughter too must be happy you are in safe hands. You have much thinking to do - it would be good for you to be be near your daughter as I know you love her very much and she you. But you love your country too so it will be a massive decision for you. You are a very wise lady so I know you will make the right one but it will take time. Thank you for letting us know what is happening - we have all missed you so much and just want what is best for you. Sending much lovexxxx
SweetPeaSue- Hope you,re ok today. I thought of you when I ordered my desert last night. It was yummy but I don’t know how I fitted it in after eating a whole small lobster !! What a treat that was.
HVDY- Really enjoyed our meal thank you. I think the meal you served up for Son2 sounded pretty good too. That air fryer is a sure winner!! Glad your DH got to see the football in between construction work.
Wyllow- you are sounding stronger - good to hear. The sooner those papers get signed the better as I,m sure you will feel less troubled after.Security is so important to us for peace of mind isn’t it.
Doodle- Hope you have a nice meal tomorrow,We don’t eat out much either so it was a real treat and special because it was my sons Birthday present for me. The delivery turned up today - we made sure someone was here!! I expect you like me were so pleased to hear from Annie and know she is safe.
Love to all BDGxxxx

Annie I am glad you are back posting. Sorry I cannot post longer, I am in a coffee shop waiting to collect my Grandson from School.Take care.

Oh Annie. I'm so sad to hear this. You will miss your little dogs. I hope you will get everything sorted soon and you can see them again. Perhaps, if it's safe of course, they will think again and allow you back home and provide the carers necessary. It would be very sad for you to leave your beloved country but might be nice to have your loving daughter's company and she obviously wants to have you very much. Whatever you decide it will be a huge decision and you need to be safe.
I'm pleased you have your home valley's accent around you. Thankyou for letting us know what's happening. We all miss you. Sending love and a gentle hug. x 🌻

Oh Annie! I hope it is comfy and not too noisy and the valley accents comfort..
I'm sad it's come to this but you weren't happy with matters at home, lots of hugs ...oh dear, big decisions...xxxxx

Annie I have sent you a private message. xx,

Hi all x update

In hospital, waiting for assessment by ‘Stay Well At Home Team ‘. The hospital said I live in unsafe conditions.

A positive- I am in a hospital near Aberfan, so I have come home, love hearing the valleys accent again 😀.

You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Keep sharing, Black Dog was started so no one who joined us would feel alone and unable to share joys and fears. Will post more when I know what they decide. My younger daughter wants me to move there, leave Wales 😲 , Cymru am byth, 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿.

Keep walking x

Thanks Wyllow. It looks peaceful. I can understand how you would find comfort there.
I like the quiet times in my church when we sit with no distraction too.

Doodle - just peep in here, simple thoughtful description
www.quaker.org.uk/about-quakers/our-faith/how-quakers-worship

Evening all.
Been to church this morning and said a few prayers for all in BD.
Sweetpeasue I do so ageee with you. Annie is BD and we all miss her so much. I do hope she can be back with us soon.
You certainly are not alone here. We all care for each other and support each other and you do your share being there for others too. You always write such kind things. Whatever it is that causes you stress you can write about here if you want to share. Yes, we all have our own problems but can talk about them here so you shouldn’t ever think you can’t say how you’re feeling.
Just wish we could make things better for you.
I’m glad you told your Gp about the bleeding. It should be recorded on your notes and taken into account when you see the next consultant.
HVDY I expect the new people in your sons place will be very grateful to move into somewhere clean and tidy. Not everyone is so thoughtful. We once moved into a house that was so filthy that the only place I would put things in the kitchen was inside the fridge we brought with us.
Not surprised you slept well after all those hours cleaning. Hope you like your new dressing table. I’ve never had one either just a mirror in a chest of drawers,
Your meal sounds lovely. Hope you had a nice evening with your son.
My DH isn’t keen on shopping but does like the atmosphere of a Christmas market. I just like the fairy lights and Christmas carols.
Wyllow I do hope you are feeling a bit better today. Glad you slept well. I am curious as to what happens in a zoom Quaker meeting. I must admit to being quite ignorant but thought Quakers sit and think or pray to themselves ( it actually sounds quite nice, quiet contemplation) . Hoping your Ex signs soon and you’ve had a better day.
Scaredycat I find shopping exhausting too. But you’ve made a good start. I do hope you enjoy your meal out tonight. Such a treat. We are going to the local Thai restaurant on Friday. Don’t often go out for a meal so looking forward to it.
Nice idea from your son. Our deliveries always happen when we’re out too. We are lucky in that our neighbours often take things in for us.
Ellie Anne Annie Whiff Joce thinking of you all in my prayers today.
Sleep peacefully all x

HVDY, good to treat yourself like that. As regards food, I think I’ll head rung to yours asap.just to “test” your air fryer…

Glad to here if a slight improvement, SweetpeasueE

* Scaredycat I hope its a lovely meal.

Quakers was good, a natter followed by half hour silence together. And I didnt say anything that made me feel, “should I have said this or that” ie kept it light.

But Big Thing was I needed to ring Ex re a divorce detail, and in the end we had a long talk. At first it was OK, in some ways good, but as soon as I started challenging gaslighting, sexism or put downs…and then, TMI to give detail...... but his descriptions of how he charms and manipulates others - was really, really laid bare as I listened. Very glad I have done a lot of reading on aspects of abuse in the last months as its given me a framework. .

There are other GN discussions on similar experiences in families which have helped me realise how common some things can be, I think they have helped….I think also..I am just fed up of “making nice” and not confronting EVER.

I’ll see how it plays out - whether this was a positive or negative thing to do. I can do self punishing things, but maybe sometimes I can do the right things, it may or may not rebound but for goodness sake - one cant "never" take risks.

Best wishes for absent BD's xxx

SweetpeaSue Hope things are settling down a bit for you now.
ScaredyCat It's great to go out for meals, isn't it? Hope you had/have a lovely time. Tell us later what you had.
Wyllow3 Hope you're ok today
Doodle How are you and your husband?

EllieAnne, Anniebach, Whiff and others - hope today has been ok for you all.

Son2 came round for dinner. I did honey and mustard salmon (pan-fried) with Mediterranean vegetables and garlic potatoes (all roasted in the air fryer). DH started constructing the dressing table (it's all flat-packed, from Wayfair) but is now watching tv . Hope everyone on BD has a relaxing evening x

Scaredycat Sun came out here this afternoon too. So changeable. Oooh you're going out tonight for a lovely belated birthday treat. Great to have a nice restaurant in your own village. Hope you have a good time. Don't forget dessert (my favourite part). 🍰

Good afternoon friends
Wyllow- glad you had a better sleep - enjoy your Zoom meeting. Fingers crossed your papers will be signed soon.
SweetPeaSue- yes it was rainy and dark this morning here too . We went Christmas shopping to the nearest big shopping centre in pouring rain when we came out the sun was shining- weird weather at the moment. Feeling really tired now- but got a few nice things. Good thing is no cooking tonight as we are off to our favourite restaurant in the village to have a very belated dinner for my Birthday- it’s a present from my Son who lives abroad.
I,m sorry you are still so worried hope you have a pleasant evening.
HVDY- That was a good sleep- you certainly earned it yesterday. Hope the dressing table arrived safely and it looks nice in its new home. We had a non delivery today ‘cos we were out- so got to wait for it tomorrow!! Why do they always come the few hours you,re out😩Never mind eh!
See you tomorrow all- take carexx

Morning all.
Wyllow Glad you had a decent rest. Good you have your Quaker meeting later. You are still fragile with so many uncertainties. Not the time for your ex to pull your strings. Wishing you all the strength you can muster and hoping he will co-operate.
HVDY Rainy and dark here too all morning.No wonder you slept after 5 hrs cleaning. You must have given yourself a real good work out. Hope your muscles aren't sore. Enjoy your dressing table.

Still same with a bit of nausea but calmed down, though worried. Hope everyone has good day. x

How is everyone this morning? It's dark, raining and miserable here. I slept from 11pm to 6.30, then went back so sleep until 7.45! Not going out today. I ordered a dressing table and it's arriving today - in the 31years we've lived here, I've never had one! Hope all on BD has a decent day x

Have the best days you can BD's, I slept a little better (so didn't appear at 5.30am) and its a quaker Zoom around lunchtime.

Sweetpeasue exactly what Doodle has said. Never worry about keeping on sharing. xxx

5 hours, wow, HVDY.

yes, extremely run down, hoping the rest of the week picks up, Quaker zoom tomorrow,

and I will be " in on the night shift it I am up cos we can "Wave" and someone just might come in.

((((((((*Annie*)))

waves to the "not in todays" from BD.

Scaredycat Thankyou Scaredycat. Your very kind thoughts mean a lot to me. x