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Wyllow3 Fri 09-Jun-23 22:50:32

For the support, understanding and sharing of mental health issues.

For newcomers, there are some people who post regularly, some occasionally, and some like to read.

All are welcome.

wishing all the best nights possible

and bests for an important appointment for Sweetpeasue tomorrow.

nadateturbe Tue 18-Jul-23 12:47:28

My mouth is watering thinking about Doodle's and HVDY's dinners.

Sweetpeasue you're not sinking, you've had a very bad day. I think you should have insisted on speaking to the practice manager. In any case you can say the appointment is for one thing and when you get into the surgery tell the doctor both problems and ask him to choose which one will wait. I am so angry for you, and I know it's difficult to be firm with the receptionist when you're feeling so low.
In our surgery too there has been a 10 min rule for each appointment for a long time. But doctors are a bit flexible once you're in the room and sometimes people book double appointments.
I hope the MH appointment helps you. Sending love and hugs.x
Don't worry about posting or to whom you post.x

Back later. Husband in bed, I'm the fit one today!

HowVeryDareYou2 Tue 18-Jul-23 11:03:51

SweetpeaSue Best of luck with your MH appointment.

Wyllow3 Hope your appointment goes well, too.

Doodle 53 years! That's quite an achievement. Your dinner sounded (and pudding, especially) tasty. You're 10 years ahead of me (we're on 43 years). Hope you and your husband had a lovely time.

Candy Oh, so hot! I don't cope well in hot weather. It must be a shock to the system to come back here to all the rain. You'll have a lot of washing and ironing to do.

Hope ALL BDers are alright today x

Whiff Tue 18-Jul-23 06:21:28

Wyllow hope everything goes well seeing your GP today.

I haven't forgotten you all just need to get in the shower as going out today and until yesterday evening hadn't got any hot water since Saturday. So couldn't shower on Sunday as usual. 🤗

Wyllow3 Mon 17-Jul-23 23:43:01

Very, very, bests for tomorrow Sweetpeasue
and sorry its been such a bad day.

Sounds like a good meal there Doodle

Phew Candy that is hot. So glad your holiday had lovely times in it. Needed and deserved. btw yes I did look up some stuff about waking.
I expect you have a shed load of washing to catch up on now.

Candy6 Mon 17-Jul-23 23:13:50

Evening. Back from holiday. Had a lovely time but was very hot. I’m sure you will all have heard about the extreme temperatures. We had one day of 40+ degrees but the other days were very hot too. Spent a lot of time sleeping as the weather made me feel more tired but I did manage to do some nice things too. I’ve read and caught up with everyone now but it’s taken a long time!
Sweetpeasue I’m sorry you’ve had such a bad day. It’s awful you have to go through all this. It’s one thing after another for you. It’s a shame you couldn’t get to see a GP today but I understand what you mean about not wanting to see one you believe just isn’t good enough. There’s a few like that in my practice too. I hope your MH appointment goes well tomorrow and like others have said, it’s a good idea to be upfront from the beginning about your worries of not being believed. I hope you are feeling a bit better now and manage some sleep.
Nadaterturbe I hope your upper body soreness has eased. What a coincidence meeting that lady like that? Maybe it was meant to be. I know what you mean about finding it difficult to exercise when you’ve got health issues. I’ve put on some weight too. It’ll be partly because I’m not exercising as much but it’s either time restrictions or tiredness that stop me. I’d love to be one of those people who get up at the crack of dawn to exercise but I’m not unfortunately. I need to work out a plan.
Doodle sorry you had problems after your short bout of exercise. It definitely knocks us when we can’t do what we’re used to. Your energy could come back but maybe very slowly. I hope so. Hope you’ve had a nice anniversary and your DH’s back is better.
HVDY glad you had a nice time away but sorry it took it out of you. It’s good the original diagnosis was wrong and I hope you are more comfortable soon. What a lovely dinner! I think roasts are my favourite. I was brought up on “meat and 2 veg* with good quality meat from the butcher and veg. From my dad’s garden! Lovely! Your fox friend is lucky too. Hope the baby is still doing well.
Wyllow sorry your break didn’t go as well as you would want it to. It must have been so hard for you not being able to ring your crisis line. I hope you feel more settled now you are home. I’m glad you’re pleased with your decorating. Re. Your low mood on waking - I was once told by my counsellor that a spike in cortisol occurs whilst sleeping and is worse in the first hour of waking so that could be the cause? Especially in those that are stressed. I’m no medical expert but perhaps it’s a possible explanation. I definitely feel worse first thing but I try to remind myself of that.
Ellie Anne I’m sorry you’ve had a bad time too. I walk in the woods too. It’s close to where I live and I feel safe there. Please don’t beat yourself up about the past. Like others have said, we all reflect and think that maybe we could have done things differently when in reality we couldn’t. I wish there was a way out of your domestic situation for you.
Whiff what lovely needle felt animals. Your SiL does so well given her condition. I know someone who makes them and it is a very time consuming craft.
Scaredycat sounds like you had a nice visit from your DD and SiL. It’s nice that they live close. My DD lives less than 10 mins away too. Glad you had a nice visit to your local cafe too.

Wishing everyone a peaceful, restful night and love to those not personally mentioned too. Take care all.

Doodle Mon 17-Jul-23 22:33:36

And thank you to you too nadateturbe.

Doodle Mon 17-Jul-23 22:32:21

Thank you for your kind wishes. Sweetpeasue x

Doodle Mon 17-Jul-23 22:31:44

Just got in from nice meal out. Too full to type too much.
nadateturbe I think ideally BP should be below 140/80 but yours seems to be well under control if it’s normally much lower. You are right it’s not just eating too much it’s lack of exercise that causes us to slow down.
Wyllow so glad you’ve got your F2F. Hope it helps., glad you’re home safely. Thank you for your good wishes.
HVDY thank you. 53 years. Had nice steak and sticky toffee pudding (not on the same plate though 🤣) Came home and had a brandy. Full now.
Foxy will be glad to see you back.
Sweetpeasue just had to come in and post to you. Sorry you’re in such a state. How ridiculous to only be able to talk to a GP about one thing. Sometimes there is more than one thing that needs treating at a time. I Hope you get some joy out of your MH access appointment. Sending another hug. Hope tomorrow goes well.

Sweetpeasue Mon 17-Jul-23 22:28:28

A sincere Happy Wedding Anniversary to Doodle. Wishing you both many more. 💐

Sweetpeasue Mon 17-Jul-23 22:14:52

VV bad day. Couldn't come in because didn't want to leave anyone out and couldn't type as extreme tiredness and feeling unable to function. Will explain tomorrow at MH access assessment. Calling surgery was disaster. Receptionist told me not allowed to have Drs appt for more than 1 thing! Had awful itchy rash thats not responded to Hydrocortisone cream that I chose to use over 6 weeks a.nd spreading. Told to go to Pharmacist. My preferred Dr not on today so in the end cancelled appt with a Dr I dont believe is good. Im sinking fast. So sorry. Thankyou to Nadateturbe, Doodle, just can't post. Love to all. x

nadateturbe Mon 17-Jul-23 21:20:12

Thanks for helpful comments HVDY and Wyllow3 re BP.
Glad you're safely home Wyllow3. Talk tomorrow.
Goodnight all.x

nadateturbe Mon 17-Jul-23 21:13:33

Excuse the typos.

nadateturbe Mon 17-Jul-23 21:13:00

Sweetpeasue Glad the drama at your aunts was nothing serious, it's good she has you two close.
Perhaps your GP should organise a scan of your knee. Did you speak to him?
Yes, I think about chocolate a lot! But I still manage to keep to 2 squares a day. But I have to have a biscuit (or 2) too every day. I can't believe people go a whole day without eating anything sweet.
My mum and I were similar, strong characters, both always right🙂 in an argument, But I loved her so very much, and as you say, we are still that child. When I'm feeling really bad I just want to cry, I want my mummy!

Such a strange dream to have. It must reflect the despair you feel at times about being so alone with all your pain. So hard to cope with. I hope you've beennok today, and your GP has helped.

I've put on 3 lbs in 4 mths according to my Nintendo Wii. I think lack of exercise makes a difference too, not just overeating. But it's difficult for those of us who have health issues to exercise regularly, even a daily walk. And food becomes more important as a comfort. I do try to be careful though, I weigh myself everyday..

HowVeryDareYou2 Mon 17-Jul-23 19:59:17

Wyllow He/she certainly is smile. I think wild animals (including birds), in general, have such a tough life, so I will help any, if possible.

Wyllow3 Mon 17-Jul-23 19:49:18

Very lucky Foxie.

HowVeryDareYou2 Mon 17-Jul-23 19:37:33

Doodle The GP doesn't want me to have diuretics at the moment. I'll see how I go on, but my legs/ankles have been ok today (The Vasculitis is a separate matter).

I've got the house to myself for a bit - Son1 came here straight from work. DH did a lovely roast beef dinner, so we had that, then Son2 and 2 friends came here, and they've all gone for a pint, to "wet the baby's head". They won't be long - they've all got to drive back to their respective houses. I'm just cooking Foxy's dinner - 5 chicken thighs (and some beef left from dinnergrin)x

HowVeryDareYou2 Mon 17-Jul-23 19:32:27

Doodle Happy anniversary - how many years? Hope you and your husband have had a good day.

Wyllow3 Glad you're home ok, and good news that you've got an appointment tomorrow. Hope that goes well.

nadateturbe Thanks. Your BP reading during the night sounds fine. BP fluctuates throughout the day/night. The other reading was low. If a person hasn't had much to drink, it can cause a low reading.

Wyllow3 Mon 17-Jul-23 17:57:58

Had to share good news - after posting above I decided to ring the practice even tho only 10 mins to go. I stressed urgent MH, not wanting to take MH meds as tummy effects t, taking so many meds didnt know coming or going, the doc I want to see knows me really well, not happy seeing male doc

...and I've gt a F2F tomorrow afternoon. I was *so grateful to receptionist (I got the senior one - she acted quickly) as you can imagine. I felt a weight off.

Wyllow3 Mon 17-Jul-23 17:46:46

I'm mostly glad to be home, tho it still says "Ex" when walk in door a bit: painter done smashing job, but there is a ton of stuff to be moved back: nothing immediately to be done tho the decorator left everything moved back as they should be, but I'd had to clear clothes and drawers out so they could move larger furniture around and if it gets too much may phone my cleaner for Friday see if she has an hour spare as I dont have the car/cant go out that day (repair after the night when the AA came out)

V bad tum and other bits after the stress, different food (not fair to insist on this or that with sister)
and long journey: vv good chat with brother on journey but pretty intense:

same as you HVDY and probably a lot of us - negative effects of not moving enough (all with our different outcomes!) not good is it: its hard to do what one should when low and can become a vicious circle.

Not feeling the intensity of yesterdays mood but it lurks, but will see how it goes: it feels a long time until counselling on Friday, its been a 2 weeks gap.

I haven't heard from GP's yet as to changing a F2F appointment to more suitable GP, (ie the one who actually knows me and is MH and MH meds aware) have to get onto it tomorrow as original one wants changing is Thursday and not heard a thing.

I dont think upheaval does me a lot of good atm looking at things as a whole - its enough to cope with daily routines and the holiday was ultimately very stressful despite + bits - head is really in bad space - see how it goes - but easier to manage at home

What a relief re legs, HVDY - something you can manage, tho tough.

nadateturbe "" I was sorry I had checked it, I've never checked during the night before" Oh, know what you mean! Please keep an eye on it though.

Doodle may I wish you love xx and the best evening out you both can manage for you anniversary - what a year you've had!

nadateturbe Mon 17-Jul-23 17:44:57

Doodle thank you so much, that is very reassuring.
Happy Anniversary, I hope you have a lovely evening. 🥂

Doodle Mon 17-Jul-23 17:15:38

nadateturbe BP changes all the time and 140/80 isn’t too bad at all. 100/62 is quite low. Perhaps if you were feeling a bit faint it could have low sugar or lack of fluid. My BP is often higher than your nighttime reading so I wouldn’t be too worried.

Doodle Mon 17-Jul-23 17:12:06

Wyllow just wondering if you’re home yet, hope the decorating is finished and there’s no clearing up for you to do.
Hope you can make contact with crisis if you need to.
nadateturbe you probably made that lady’s day by stopping to chat with her. How funny she lives in the same street as you. Nice to chat to people when we’re out.
HVDY what a shame the leg problem spoilt your holiday.
So relieved it’s odema and not lymphoedema. That’s what my
DH’s legs used to get like when we went away. Could the GP give you some fluid tablets to take if they swell up again. DH has been on them a while now and his legs are really slim (unlike mine) .
Sweetpeasue do be careful on the stairs with your knee. A fall is the last thing you need. Hope you managed to get in touch with the Gp.
DH and I are going out for a meal tonight. It’s our Wedding Anniversary. We don’t often eat out but thought we would for a change. I just hope it doesn’t rain.

nadateturbe Mon 17-Jul-23 17:07:13

Doodle the lack of energy and no definite cause is puzzling and worrying isn't it? I sometimes wonder too, is it my heart. I'm due a checkup for a mitral valve which I'm told is not serious and I think I'll try to hurry it up. Strange thing my BP on average is 100/62 and during the night I checked it as I felt faint and it was 140/80. I was quite shocked. I was sorry I had checked it, I've never checked during the night before.
Anyway, I'm sorry you didn't get out at the weekend, hope your husband is soon feeling a bit better. It's just as well you have an interesting view from your window.

nadateturbe Mon 17-Jul-23 16:57:23

Wyllow3 best wishes for a good safe journey home, and hope everything is as you want it when you get there.
HVDY Such good news that its not lymphodema. And told to ting again, all very reassuring.

HowVeryDareYou2 Mon 17-Jul-23 13:51:03

Wyllow3 Hope your journey went/is going well, and that you feel differntly once home and settled in again.

My legs were normal this morning (so swelling) but I rang GP anyway, and she asked me to go - she examined me, said I haven't got Lymphodema (thankfully, the GP in Isle of Wight was wrong), but that I've had Oedema - swelling due to being in one position for too long (hours on a coach). Told to elevate my legs, drink plenty, and move about regularly (all things I knew and have been doing), and to ring again if things get bad. I'm relieved. Hope ALL BDers are ok today x

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