Why are we angry?

Cycling is encouraged but I get irritated when cyclists seem to have priority and I have to join a queue of other drivers needing to wait for the safe time to be able to overtake a cyclist at the required wide berth when they are seemingly oblivious to the difficulties they are causing.

Oh yes Mom3, I have to turn to mute and turn away if Trump appears on tv here…just a picture of him makes my skin crawl.

I live in California. I notice that none of you mention gun violence. We have that terrible problem and having to see Trump's ugly face on the news. Those things make me angry.
Otherwise, I'm fairly content.

To see an example of a first world country with a sinking birth rate which does not allow immigration or accept refugees look at Japan. The plight of the elderly in this increasingly aging population is frightening. Almost all first world countries are in the same boat now and are only increasing their population because of immigration.

Yes same I try but get irritated too easily these days by others eg if notice they are selfish, rude impolite these kind of things, they not brought up as old school manners so do get it
So why does it bother 😁🤷‍♀️

People are polarised, discussion has been shut down, question the Covid Vaccination and you're an evil anti-vaxer, that's that, and to be shunned. Same with global warming (even though it is not as hot as it was in Roman times) - don't question or you'll be a 'climate change denier, damn you'. No debates are allowed and that's dodgy. I think we are being encouraged to be fearful, and fearful people get angry. And as for the poor boat people, THEY have not caused the crisis with GPs, dentists NHS etc, but the 'tribe' aware of a lack (caused by their leaders, but...) turn against outsiders. Is it so hard to strive for open-mindedness, tolerance and kindness? I can't claim to be always like that but I do try.

MerylStreep

I couldn’t agree with GranyGravy & GSM more.
I certainly do shout of few expletives at certain politicians and now it’s certain NHS managers. 😡
But it doesn’t last. The usual glass full Meryl returns.

Cheers, my glass is full at the moment 🥂

Poignant observation. I agree and know my mental wellbeing would be better if I could remove myself from social media. I feel myself withdrawing from the outside world as most times I go out I find myself encountering bad behaviour from others be it driving or ASB in town centres. I work from home and miss the good old days of kindness and social interaction. I worry so much for my new granddaughter and wonder how her life will be in this battered world.

I couldn’t agree with GranyGravy & GSM more.
I certainly do shout of few expletives at certain politicians and now it’s certain NHS managers. 😡
But it doesn’t last. The usual glass full Meryl returns.

I have never heard anyone complain about people coming in boats to our country for help. Heaven forbid the complainers might have been born in a country that meant they were living in fear for their lives or at risk of harm.
I think people are more angry, less tolerant and everyone out for themselves. The first lockdown saw folk coming together but by the second one it was disappearing. I also think young people are introduced to violence and anger on screen from such an early age - sadly it becomes normal.

I am irritated by all the fuss about gender neutral toilets. All they have to do is stop creating communal toilet rooms and make every toilet into a separate lockable room with its own sink and room for a buggy or baby changing table and then everyone would have the privacy they need whether it be to change a colostomy bag or to be transgender or to take your kids in with you or whatever else. Same with changing rooms. Why does there always have to be some category of people under attack?

I totally agree with you!

I think that being permanently angry at things you have no control over must be extremely stressful, and not conducive to one’s wellbeing.

I agree. Getting angry about things over which you have no control is a waste of energy and life. Save your energy for things you can change.

growstuff

Since 2017, I've worked quite hard not to get angry about anything I can't change. It's just not worth it. If I can make a difference, I try hard to do that too.

👍🏻 A good way to be

Pippa22

Primrose 53, everyone I know is totally exasperated at the numbers of uninvited arrivals to our shores and by the politicians lack of action and even their unwillingness to acknowledge that this influx of people to our small island is causing problems. It seems as if when we state the obvious that doctors, schools, dentists, police, housing are at breaking point that we are racist. This is far from the truth but I think the majority of people are fed up with taking second place in our own country for services. If you are a wealthy politician none of the problems affect you. I get on with anyone and am supportive of people from other countries who arrive here legitimately but not the cowards who arrive leaving the women and children to survive alone somehow in their countries.

Well said! I'm not angry, I'm tired, I admit i'm depressed, I feel as if I have to worry about everything, because mum says it doesn't matter, just pay the bill. Mums knees are shot, she's constantly in pain, for years, when she was able, they wouldn't replace them due to poor circulation, now, because of long waiting lists, she's suddenly able to get them done, but has been warned that the risk is higher she's told them no thanks, she doesn't want to die! (Still in pain though!) I've unexpectedly lost 2 dogs, 7 months apart, the 1st we had to let her go, it was cruel otherwise as her legs kept giving way, the 2nd, fell ill and we lost her April 21st 5 days later and I still can't get over it, to say I'm heartbroken is an understatement. My eldest sister seems to think I'm angry, I'm not, i'm not allowed to be. In the first few years of looking after mum all was well but since 2006 I've had to bite my tongue due to above sister (oldest so knows best and mum doesn't like conflict!) Basically I've had to suppress everything and now at 49, I suppose my hormones are changing and it's getting harder to not let rip! Pressure cooker I know! Not angry though, just tired, so tired and grieving!

I think there's a difference between anger and aggression, the latter being far more harmful even on SM.
I have a dog, so a few minutes stroking stops me feeling angry and lowers my blood pressure!

You enjoy making those passive aggressive 'attacks' don't you. Anyone who is sad, angry, disappointed at what has been happening to the country in past 14 years, are either 'bored' or 'angry'.

Nothing of the sort - we who are as described above have positive, fun, active and interesting lives- totally irrespective of our anger about those events and disasters.

GrannyGravy13

The angry people I come across are on GN along with vox pops on news bulletins and politicians (difficult to tell if politicos are angry or just shouty)

In every day life family and friends are just living their lives the best they can, taking things in their stride.

Same here😄
SM is awash with angry people it’s the ideal medium for them.

Coco 12 I have said exactly the same , I thought coming out of the pandemic we would be kinder but it’s the opposite😪

NotSpaghetti

I live in a relatively poor area M0nica - and, strangely enough, no one has mentioned people coming into this country in rubber dinghies here either.

I don't know where the poster can be living if they know a lot of people who are very angry about the daily influx of hundreds of people on rubber dinghies..

People where I live, are also waiting for social housing, dental care, operations, school places etc. I don’t really think they are seen as related issues here.

I don't hear people talk about it much openly in our relatively affluent area either, I think they don't want to be seen as racist. Some people I know very well do mention it in relation to waiting lists and A&E attendance, which they have observed, perhaps it's something they wouldn't speak about to someone they don't know well.

I don’t know if it’s anger or despair I have, despair about people not being able to get an appointment with a GP, or a GP who actually takes the time to get to the bottom of the problem, or be dismissed because I’ve “retired” nowadays treated as “expired” and not worth the effort to find a cause never mind a cure. Strikes everywhere, foodbanks that are being abused by some people who have enough but want freebies, charity shops who are now charging almost same prices as buying new, supermarkets who are putting out inferior fresh foods, some even past sell by date. Political parties ( Begins with S ends in P) wasting thousands on hopeless projects and contracts to the detriment of the people in the country, also giving freebies for votes, other parties squabbling with with each other with the same goal in mind ( become a leader) … none of them fit to tie the meekest person in the lands shoelaces… and you know what I’ve learned from all of this….. that sheep have votes.

I think perhaps as we get older and have more time on our hands we notice more things, for instance that there are a lot of belligerent people around.
Social media is a breeding ground for them. In the last week I have found myself embroiled in a debate with quite angry people over a book for heavens sake.

Primrose 53, everyone I know is totally exasperated at the numbers of uninvited arrivals to our shores and by the politicians lack of action and even their unwillingness to acknowledge that this influx of people to our small island is causing problems. It seems as if when we state the obvious that doctors, schools, dentists, police, housing are at breaking point that we are racist. This is far from the truth but I think the majority of people are fed up with taking second place in our own country for services. If you are a wealthy politician none of the problems affect you. I get on with anyone and am supportive of people from other countries who arrive here legitimately but not the cowards who arrive leaving the women and children to survive alone somehow in their countries.

MOnica Very well said