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How can I help her?

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Moonwatcher1904 Sat 23-Sep-23 11:57:00

My daughter sent me a message at 00.48 this morning to inform me that she has a lump on her breast and has had it for 2 years. She hasn't had it seen to so I've told her to get an appointment with her GP. She is 44 years old and can't get a mammogram without a referral. I've tried to ring her this morning but not had a reply yet. I don't know what else I can do.

dragonfly46 Sat 23-Sep-23 12:00:48

If it hasn't changed or got bigger in 2 years it is unlikely to be anything serious but she must get it checked out as soon as possible.
Not sure what else you can do apart from advising her. She must be ready to see someone as she has told you about it.

Marydoll Sat 23-Sep-23 12:01:22

When I found lumps on separate occasions, my GP sent me right away to the breast clinic, where a mammogram and biospy was done.
I don't know what has been like since Covid.

Your poor daughter was probably too afraid of what it might be. Please encourage her to see someone.
On each occasion fortunately mine turned out to be cysts and on one occasion, scar tissue.

VioletSky Sat 23-Sep-23 12:02:14

She knows what she needs to do

Send her a message, tell her to make the appointment and you will come with her for support if she would like you to

Galaxy Sat 23-Sep-23 12:05:52

It's very difficult I went through this with my mum. All you can do is encourage her to go to a Gp. We still have no idea how long my mum had a lump. It was cancer, she had treatment and was fine. Some people find it hard to seek help.

AGAA4 Sat 23-Sep-23 12:13:35

When I was recalled after a mammogram there were 12 women in the waiting room with breast lumps. Out of those only 2 had cancer. I was one. All the others had breast cysts which were easily treated.
Your daughter needs to see her GP as soon as possible.
Either her mind will be put at rest or she will have treatment which is very good these days.

Redhead56 Sat 23-Sep-23 12:14:37

I think here the Walk In is more efficient than our doctors. Send her a text to go to nearest Walk In the doctors may not be available at the weekend. Hope your DD is seen straight away and it turns out to be not serious as it often is not.

buffyfly9 Sat 23-Sep-23 12:23:53

What a worry for you both. Dragonfly is probably right, if it hasn't changed in two years it might well be ok but she must get it checked asap. This happened to my daughter several years ago, she had a bit of a wait to have the mammogram and see a Consultant so we paid privately, she was seen within 48 hours and given the all clear. You shouldn't have to do that but sometimes it's worth not having to sit and worry for several weeks. Things may have speeded up since then, I think we paid £400. Hope all goes well.

Moonwatcher1904 Sat 23-Sep-23 12:37:35

Thankyou Ladies. I told her it is probably a cyst after all this time. I have one but never had treatment on it. I will keep you all posted if we get to know what it is. xx

crazyH Sat 23-Sep-23 12:49:29

Moonwatcher - I doubt it’s anything serious but she should see her GP about it. A couple of years ago, I had blood coming out of one nipple. Was referred immediately, had the biopsy /operation. Thank Heaven it turned out to be a benign cyst. Hope your daughter sees the Doctor and gets the reassurance she needs x

Moonwatcher1904 Sat 23-Sep-23 13:27:40

I'm glad it was ok crazyH

Moonwatcher1904 Mon 13-Nov-23 14:30:33

Well I've been to the hospital with her today and she had a mammogram and a scan. All clear just nothing more than tissue probably because of her age. What a relief for us all.

Marydoll Mon 13-Nov-23 14:59:28


Well I've been to the hospital with her today and she had a mammogram and a scan. All clear just nothing more than tissue probably because of her age. What a relief for us all.

Great news!

Germanshepherdsmum Mon 13-Nov-23 15:07:51

A huge relief for you all. Now you can look forward to Christmas!

Ziplok Mon 13-Nov-23 15:26:22

Such a relief for you and your daughter Moonwatcher1904.

Smileless2012 Mon 13-Nov-23 15:29:30

Wonderful news Moonwatcher smile.

Moonwatcher1904 Mon 13-Nov-23 15:32:23

Thankyou for all you kind thoughts. xx

M0nica Mon 13-Nov-23 15:56:39

and, no doubt, the good result means she will be less worried about seeking help quickly if she has any other odd lumps or bumps.