Black Dog 19

I hope all BDers had a good sleep last night. I slept from 10.30 to 6! That was great for me. Seeing my friend for lunch and a good old yap, and giving her her birthday presents. Hope ALL BDers manage to have a decent day x

Sweetpeasue So sorry bladder pain getting worse.
You’re right, might be an idea to change the times of your meds to see if that helps to ease some of the effects
Pleased you managed a nice beach walk with your DH Sunday. Nice and peaceful sounds good
Glad you managed to spend time with family despite the pain. My mum made good sausage rolls too
Scaredycat will you have another cat do you think? My DGD loves cats and can’t wait for her own home so she can have one. Family home has adorable dog but he wouldn’t like to share with a cat.
I love miniature daffs. Made me laugh when you said you’d bought fat balls. I could let you have some of those
Crumbs, Christmas shopping. Bet you had a nice time with your DD especially with coffee and cake
Mind you, with all those children and their children I’m not surprised you have to start shopping early.
HVDY so good you get on well with your son’s partner. Didn’t know you were into steam punk 😀 bet you had fun. Lovely to reminisce looking at photos
Your son’s GF obviously wants a relationship with you. Good you had a nice meal together
Your poor SIL. It’s sad to see when they get confused about where they are and what’s going on.
Jury duty could be interesting. I’ve never been called?
Hope they check that lump on your DHs neck soon. Could well be lymph nodes.
EllieAnne are you planning a trip to your DD? I do hope you can go by train it would take a lot of the stress off you
Sorry your Christmas doesn’t sound much fun. DH and I have spent a few on our own but I know that’s not the same for you. Shame your church aren’t doing the lunches. You are a caring person. Even though you’re not happy with your husband you still care about leaving him on his own.
Just a thought, as it will be just the two of you and you don’t feel happy leaving him on his own, could you book a meal somewhere for you both where perhaps there’s some entertainment going
Your problems aren’t, and never have been trivial. Most of us would struggle if our home life was like yours. Just wish things could be better for you.
Nadateturbe thanks for your kind thoughts. Did you get your IT problem fixed. You’re right it’s good to listen when you’re new at something and you can get to know others by listening to what they say. Perhaps give it another go it might get better. So sorry you’re not in so much contact with your DGC. I know a lot of people who don’t like Face time. We hardly use it either. Have you done U3A before ? I know some people who go. Glad you had a seafront walk.
Whiffthank you for your lovely post. Yes it’s easy to get caught up in things and forget meds etc and especially drinking water. Good advice
You always write such caring posts and have such insight into others problems.
Candy pleased you are coping better being apart from your son. the ADs do help but take a while to kick in.
Daily dog walks will do all of you good. Your older dog sounds like he is well cared for even if he can’t manage the romps off his younger years. Made me smile when you described him as grumpy
Bet you felt proud watching your DGS playing football
Your son’s Gf sounds really nice and so good for your you.
Wyllow as always thinking of you. I do so hope you can feel better soon. X

My apologies all. My post probably makes no sense now as it’s out of date.
Thank you all so much for your kind thoughts and caring manner. It really does help.
DH is certainly feeling much better, I can’t tell you how relieved I am. Still got a way to go but on this time last week it’s so much better.

HVDY have nice lunch with your friend. What a worry about your DGDs and their half sister. I know the older one has bad issues but with her own father not being supportive to her like your son is to his girls and without having grandparents as caring as you it seems the poor girl is left with her mother who isn’t taking good care of her at all. What a distressing time for you. Nice of you to include her when she was younger. Not surprised she didn’t say thank you if her mum has never taught her or how to be polite or caring. The mum sounds a danger to those children if she’s throwing things at them and swearing at them. Good job your girls have better influences.
Ellie Anne hope you get your railcard soon. Closing ticket offices is a bad thing. People need help from other people not machines.
Scaredycat being in court after your DH and son’s deaths must have been a traumatic time for you.
Sweetpeasue you are on big doses of painkillers, I can’t understand why they’re not doing more to help you, (docs I mean not the tablets)
Sorry for such rambling posts. The noise level here is full on and constant interruptions and things happening. Hope some of it makes sense. Thinking of you all .xx

HVDY Your GD's home with mum sounds terrible and so chaotic. You must get so worried about them and also angry at their mum. You will feel helpless as you have no control over their situation at home. Your GDs have the security and love that you have always given them and I'm sure that will count for a lot in their lives. Hope you have a nice time with your friend.
Doodle I'm so glad your DH seems to have turned a corner and is recovering from such a bad time. Everything seems to have come all at once for you, with the Pacemaker amd your DH being so poorly. Hospitals can be so busy and noisy so I hope there's a coffee shop there where you can sit and just 'be'. You really need to look after yourself. I too am relieved your DH is improving, even if there's still some way to go. We may only 'know' each other as people on this thread but there feels an invisible bond and strong connection in our support for each other.
My pain meds are strong but I'm not going to use them to the fullest dosage as the last GP said. Pain is guaranteed early morning anyway but Ive had a good day today and been for a nice drive out down open country roads to a favourite coffee shop. It's sunny and all the leaves from the trees were swirling like autumn confetti. It was beautiful. I drove as poor DH is still suffering in spite of raised steroids. Another appt for Mon.

Hoping all are having a decent day. Take care. X

*Sorry by'fullest dosage' I meant 4 times a day whether I have pain or not.

Doodle I'm glad your husband is on the mend a bit now. Hospitals are so noisy and busy, and not the best place for relaxing or getting proper sleep. I hope he won't be in for too much longer. How are you with your pacemaker? Are you feeling different now?

EllieAnne Did you manage to get a train ticket?

*SweetpeaSue. Glad you got out earlier. The leaves look beautiful, don't they?

I met my friend, gave her her birthday present (it's next Thursday but she'll be away). I got her a set of 3 very nice hand creams, a book by the Supervet about his dog Keira (she died recently), and a Sanctuary Spa bath/shower set. She paid for lunch as I paid last week. We didn't stop talking the entire time .

Hope ALL BDers have seen a bit of sunshine today.

DH's GP just rang, they want to "discuss the ultrasound" he had the other day. She's going to ring him on 21st. I'll be sure to be in and give him a list of questions to ask.............

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Thank you doodle for caring about me. I’m so glad md d is improving. Make sure you look after yourself.
I couldn’t go out for Christmas dinner. Even with entertainment we would be sitting in silence and I’d be so stressed I wouldn’t want to eat. We never go out together unless very occasionally to see one of the family.
Hvdy I’m so sad about those young girls. Your two are about the same age as my gds and you just want a safe and happy life for them don’t you.
Thank goodness they have you and their dad.
How sad for their sister. Life isn’t fair is it?
I’ve not done much walking lately but have been busy with other things.
But I did go down the beach today.
Haven’t got my railcard yet as the train tickets are still too dear. I think I will have to drive.
Thinking of Wyllow whiff sweet pea sue and others.

Doodle- such good news to hear your DH is feeling much better. I can imagine how you must feel after watching him so poorly.
Today we bought boxes to post some gifts in for those that live far away. We have just about finished shopping now and online has helped a lot.
I don’t think we will have another cat although we talk about it quite a lot. I do miss the life that a furry friend brings to a house and of course furry cuddles.
How are you getting on with your pace maker- I hope it has made a difference for you. Don’t apologise for your post it’s so good that you feel able to do them. I remember how noisy it was on ITU all those bleeps day and night amongst other things.
Take care and rest when you can and hope today DH is maintaining his improvement.
HVDY- Good news about your SiL- it sounds a much better place she is going to. Hope she will feel more calm and settled there.
Those poor girls to have such an erratic and unstable Mother.
What terrible things to say and do to her daughters - she doesn’t deserve her lovely girls. No wonder they don’t want to go home - it must frighten them.
At least you got a better sleep - that must have done you good.
Hope you enjoy lunch with your friend.
SweetPeaSue- so pleased to hear you have been out today. It sounds a lovely drive you had- Autumn is so beautiful when the sun shines . Does the coffee shop have nice views ?
Pleased too you were able to drive - hope DH wasn’t too uncomfortable .
It seems a bit much to have to take the meds 4 times a day whether you have pain or not unless perhaps they are accumulative .
Wyllow - thinking of you as always

Sweetpeasue your drive sounds lovely. So glad you enjoyed it. There are plenty of coffee places but I go into the prayer room for some peace and quiet.
HVDY. Yes I have noticed a difference with the pacemaker. I can walk further and quicker without getting out of breath.
Glad you had nice lunch with friend.
EllieAnne what beautiful pictures. That’s really cheered me up. So nice. I love the sea. Hope you manage to sort out a cheaper ticket. DH sometimes gets a good deal for individual trips by looking online.
Scaredycat wow you’ve done such good shopping.
I know what you mean about missing furry friends although in our case it was small dogs. Trouble is they need a lot of care and looking after if you want to go in holiday.
Wyllow take care.x

Sorry, had flu jab yesterday, feeling out of sorts, just want to say, Doodle I am so relieved about your husband feeling better. I was so worried, praying continually. The prayer room is a good idea.
Maybe feel like posting tomorrow.
Have a good evening everyone.

Nadateturbe So sorry you're not feeling well after your flu jab. Having ME must leave you more vulnerable when having these jabs. Look after yourself and take it especially easy for a couple of dys.
Doodle I'm glad there's a quiet place for you in the hospital. There is a little chapel room in our main hospital and I think they're good to go to for anyone who is troubled about a loved one and just need some calm. There was also one in the hospice my mum was in and it was very peaceful.
EllieAnne Those are such beautiful scenes - are they photos you've taken? You have such a gorgeous country. I hope you can get a train ticket afterall. Wish I could resolve your situation at home. I don't know how you bear it. x
Scaredycat You have made a start to Christmas gifts. I haven't thought about it all yet. The coffee shop is in a village behind the high st so no real views I'm afraid but nice atmosphere and people. DH's arms and shoulders still painful and stiff and he's v low. We are trying to be strong for each other I think. Hoping you have a nice weekend. I'm hoping I'll be ok tomorrow morning to take out my aunt as not seen her for a couple of weeks.

Thanks Sweetpeasue thinking of you and your husband. Fingers crossed you see your aunt tomorrow xx

Thinking of you all BD's. xx

Sweet pea sue I took them this afternoon with my phone.
Glad you like them.
I was at my friends tonight. She’s 82 and exhausted. Her 23 year old gs was kicking off tonight after taking street Valium. I wasn’t comfortable with the stuff that was going on but obviously cdnt stay all night. Came home about half ten . I worry about her but nothing I can do.
My children may not think much of me but they’ve never been like that. The oldest one was a horrible teenager!
I’m a bit wound up now . Having a drink 🥃 and watching coronation street and being thankful for a quiet house.

EllieAnne What beautiful beach photos. It must be really lovely to be so close to the sea. Your friend shouldn't have to put up with that. Is her own son/daughter aware of it? My sons weren't like that, either. There's a lot to be said for having a quiet life, no matter how boring it seems at times.

ScaredyCat You've done well to have finished your Christmas shopping! Some of us have barely started. Like you, I'd love another cat, but DH says no. I worry about a stray I've seen, but he only passes by a couple of times a week and it's impossible to get near him (someone must be feeding him, but I'm going to find out).

Doodle I'm glad you're feeling better with the pacemaker. They're amazing little bits of technology, aren't they? I hope your husband is still making good progress.

nadateturbe Hope you soon feel better. Rest up and drink plenty.

SweetpeaSue I hope your husband starts to feel better soon. You, too. Hope you'll be able to get out and see your aunt. I bet she loves your visits.

Hope ALL BDers manage to see a bit of sunshine today x

Hvdy my friend has a very big heart and fostered then adopted a family from a very difficult background. Sadly 3 of the 4 have had addiction problems . She’s been guardian to gs all his life but he’s going the same way. When he’s not taken anything he’s a nice lad but has seen too much tragedy in his life and is definitely psychologically damaged. Has already been in prison a few times. Doodle hope your dh is still improving.

EllieAnne How sad that he has turned out like that. Sadly, some kids who have difficult upbringings go on to lead very troubled lives. Prison isn't the best place to get help, I understand drugs can be got easily in there.

Hope all BDers have been ok today. We've been very lazy all day. x

EllieAnne Your poor friend must be so thankful for your support. You are a good and brave to be there
when she needs someone. It's awful that the lad can't break his addiction habit even though your friend gives him unconditional love. What a kind lady your friend must be. Its so sad she is having her heart broken when she's given her all. Be careful EllieAnne. You must have needed that drink. Hope you managed to sleep after that.
HVDY I was able to take my aunt out and she enjoyed it. Been a sunny day here and a good one, just wish DH was better.
Doodle Hoping your DH has stayed stable and you are ok. Its wonderful that you have noticed an improvement with the pacemaker. You really needed it to cope with everything this last week.

Wishing everyone a good weekend and thinking of Wyllow and hoping you are getting the help you need. X

nadateturbe I know many people who say they hate the flu jab as it always makes them feel poorly.
Do hope you get a good sleep and feel better tomorrow.
Sweetpeasue your coffee shop sounds nice. We haven’t really got anything like that round here only the one in M&S.
Hope your DH feels better soon. Is he still on the steroids? So pleased you managed to see your aunt.

Wyllow thinking of you as always. Hoping somehow you can keep up with Quakers a bit as I know it used to help you x
Ellie Anne they are good photos and such a beautiful place. You must find some peace walking there.
You’ve mentioned your friend and her grandson before. She sounds a very special lady adopting that family. You are understandably worried. Those drugs don’t do anyone any good. I hope he just settles down and sleeps it off without harm, I remember you mentioning him being much nicer off the drugs.
HVDY I was horrified when I found out today it’s only 6 weeks till Christmas. No idea what I’m getting for anyone this year.
Scaredycat now you’ve finished your shopping, will you do mine please 🤣. Do you have to hide everything away now till Christmas?
Have a good weekend all x

Thinking of you all xx

Just a quick hello to everyone. Been looking after things today here. Not much time to myself.
Talk more tomorrow, hopefully!
Doodle Glad your husband is making progress, great news about your pacemaker helping so much.
I didn't expect a reaction to flu jab. So annoying. Was feeling a little better but husband in bed very weak today so I had to do my best.
Sweetpeasue Glad you managed to take aunt out. I'm sorry your husband is so poorly.
EllieAnne you're a great support to yourfriend.
Scaredycat well done on your shopping. So organised!
HVDY you had a great sleep on Thursday night. Probably tired from all the chat with your friend. 🙂
Whiff very interesting about drinking too much water. You have a great relationship with your surgery.

Thinking of Wyllow3 and Candy and others on BD.
Wishing you all a peaceful night.x

It's a grey day here. Both GDs have messaged me (one is with Dad, the other with Mum) this morning. Both ok. DH and I are going out later, to a surprise 40th birthday party for Son2's friend. (he will absolutely hate it, doesn't like surprises but his mum's organised it). Hope ALL BDers manage to have a decent day x

Have a nice time HVDY. So nice that your GDs keep in touch.
It's blowing a gale here, husband in bed not feeling well. I feel really guilty I won't make it to our local Remembrance service.