DD putting herself at risk, its giving me sleepless nights

I wonder, SuperTinny, if she was/is worried about the pregnancy and C-section and so wanted to plan something "normal" to look forward to.

I'm pleased she's changed her mind!

This could run and run 🙂

SeaWoozle this was updated.
She's not going now.

She's making unwise choices. But she's an adult. She would have to live with the consequences should, God forbid, anything go amiss. At 37 weeks pregnant all I wanted to do was sleep as I could barely move! Maybe now you've planted the seed she'll see reason and change her plans.

🙂

Ah, thank you

Hope she gets to go another time

VioletSky

There are hospitals there too, This could happen if she were at home washing up. Try not to worry

SuperTinny updated.
She's not going now.

There are hospitals there too, This could happen if she were at home washing up. Try not to worry

I'm glad she's decided not to go, SuperTinny and hope all goes well with the rest of her pregnancy and birth.

Good. Common sense has prevailed. What a relief for you SuperTinny. I’ll keep my fingers crossed now that all goes well with the birth and you will soon have another lovely gc.

Glad to hear you’re happier about your daughter, SuperTinny.
My daughter and family went to the Harry Potter exhibition yesterday.
She said it was busy, but not overly so, possibly because London schools weren’t on half term. She said there were plenty of benches to sit down on, but it was a long day.
Hope all goes well with the pregnancy and birth.

SuperTinny glad she realised herself she can't go yet. As much as we want to say something we have to let our loved ones reach the decision on their limitations their self.

I am guilty of being stubborn and not listening to my daughter sage advise. I know this isn't the same . I have been widowed 20 years and after losing 7st my wedding ring which I still wore was lose so usually wore a plastic spiral ring tightner but forgot one day and after shopping went into my favourite cafe. When I got home took my gloves off no ring . I screamed and was in tears and phoned my daughter in a panic which she rightly told me off about because I scared her. I have help problems and she thought I was seriously ill and needed to go too hospital. Phoned the cafe they had it and knew it was mind. I won't have it resized as I want to keep it as my husband put on my finger.

I learnt a frightening lesson so wear it on a snake linked silver chain . My daughter had been telling me for a year to put it on a chain. As usual she was right .

We are all guilty of pushing ourselves to far and hurting ourselves and frightening our loved ones.

I hope your daughters pregnancy goes well and has a safe delivery and the joy of a new baby.

I'm glad the situation has been resolved without any upset.

I think this is right Elrel.

SuperTinny
Please calm yourself and spend the remainder of your daughter’s pregnancy in a state of mind which will not add to the stress of her present condition and the future birth. We all worry about our children, grandchildren, and greatgrandchildren. Sometimes we see them making what seem to us to be unwise decisions. Best to explain our misgivings calmly, once, then avoid the subject unless asked to discuss it further. Surely you understand that trying to frighten your daughter was not an appropriate reaction. Wishing you and your family all the best during the next few weeks.

I think she has finally come to her senses.

I saw her at the weekend, she complained of being exhausted, uncomfortable and a bit breathless. She is about the same size at 30 weeks this time than she was at term last time.

I didn't say anything but gave her a look and she said she knew and she wouldn't be going.
She is looking for a cancellation slot a bit sooner but I think both of us know it's unlikely to happen this side of the birth. She can move her tickets and has up to a year to use them so I think its OK.

I know so many of you thought I was an interfering old witch. I think I surprised myself with the strength of emotion I felt about this ill thought out trip.

Very little phases or shocks me, I'm am normally very chilled and relaxed. On a day to day basis I have no anxiety. I am not prone to extremes of emotion: I rarely react to anything in the extreme. Most people describe me as pragmatic and I'm usually very 'up' for facilitating a mad scheme.

But this scared me so much that I recognised I needed to say something out loud, and to anyone who would listen. And keep on saying it until it was resolved.

i think you are over-thinking if you think she is a target for attack or assault. Attacks and assaults on pregnant women finding their way through the British train network and around London to a new destination are vanishingly rare. She will be as safe as she would crossing the road at home.

Whether she should be doing this journey in the last few weeks of such a fraught pregnancy is quite another problem. But , as everyone says, just keep quiet but be prepared to pick up the pieces if everything goes wrong - and do not say 'I told you so'

Op

Your daughter is an adult, she doesnt need you to approve of her decisions

Stop telling her off

If anything, you do need to deal with your anxiety urgently.

Goodness - she must be a desperate Harry Potter fan if she wants to go so very badly! Sounds pretty unwise, but it's her life.

Forget about this for the time being. She may well change her mind as pregnancy progresses and mobility decreases.

I don’t understand why you think she would be a target for attack. Many people travelling will be looking at phones or notice boards. I think people would be more inclined to offer help than assault her.
However I do agree that she is being unwise at that stage of a difficult pregnancy. Hopefully she will realise that nearer then time.

Well, it will probably be all right but if not my sympathies will be solely with the medical professionals who will have to deal with an emergency that is entirely avoidable.

Your DD is a health care professional.
Your DD is a grown adult.
Your DD will have weighed up the risks.
Your DD has the right to make her own decisions.

My DDs have occasionally made decisions that I would not have done - but my thoughts are irrelevant.

If she goes into labour, she will immediately phone for help, and will be capable of explaining to the doctors her history.
If she does not feel up to it on the day, she will not go.

I would stop talking with her about it and expressing your opinion - I am sure she has got the message that talking with you will cause you worry so will take steps to make sure she does not worry you in future.

What a way to talk about your sil. Your poor daughter. I’m afraid she shouldn’t put up with it. I take it you must think your daughter stupid to be with him. I wouldn’t want you involved. You are a disturbing example to your grandchild.

pascal30

well you obviously have nil respect or liking for your SIL.. how dismissive,, you need to let them live their own lives

This.