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Relative diagnosed with Alzheimers

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SueDonim Thu 22-Feb-24 19:03:17

Does your relative have carers coming in? I’ve recently learnt from someone I know with a relative in the same situation that carers can refuse to go into a home that’s very dirty or unhygienic so possibly that could be why there’s a difficulty.

I hope you can resolve the issue.

Nanatoone Thu 22-Feb-24 18:24:52

My mum and dad and in laws all lived in increasingly dirty homes (please don’t let it happen to me). With mum and dad we would periodically get someone to take them out for the day then run in and clean. A cater used to keep the kitchen reasonably clean. MIL’a once lovely home decayed and became awful. A consultant psychiatrist was called out by the outreach nurse and he stated that she was capable of managing. The outreach nurse was horrified and persuaded her to go into hospital for assessment. Sadly she died within a couple of weeks as we discovered cancer and she fell out of bed and broke her leg. Pneumonia set in. No one offered to help her in the home, although my husband and I both paid for a gardener and meals on wheels and she rejected both. No one offered to help her at home. We lived hours away so could only do a small amount. I think if a SW had tried to get a cleaner in MIL would have refused. I’m sorry for you as I think this is an impossible situation.

kittylester Thu 22-Feb-24 17:54:20

Has the person still got capacity if it is moderate Alzheimer's?

To be honest, I would consult CAB, Alzheimer's Society or AgeUk?

V3ra Thu 22-Feb-24 17:37:30

Is her house badly unhygienic now, has the social worker visited?

The only experience I have had with a social worker was with my Mum, who had Alzheimer's and was in hospital after a fall.
Dad hadn't been coping at home, despite what Mum said.
The hospital refused to discharge her until she agreed to have carers to help, Mum refused.
The social worker told me that as I had power of attorney I could overrule her.
Fortunately it didn't come to that.

Madgran77 Thu 22-Feb-24 17:29:39

fluttERBY123

I don't understand why my post about relative with Alzheimers is blocked. I've done it twice and left out a "name" the second time but it stays green.and won't go pink.

Its green because you are the original poster. Other posts in thread will be white

fluttERBY123 Thu 22-Feb-24 17:27:17

I know that if you are mentally ok and choose to.live in.a filthy house with half the roof missing that is your right. But does that change if you are diagnosed with moderate Alzheimers? I.will contact the SW, this is all very new. I am.hoping to.hear from grans with some experience in this area.

fluttERBY123 Thu 22-Feb-24 17:19:57

Thanks, NotSpaghetti. It must be the OP stays green.

pascal30 Thu 22-Feb-24 17:17:09

If you have POA could you request a meeting or phone call with the SW ,yourselves and the widow? I'd be very surprised if the Sw has any powers of enforcemnet.. However I do think that it is good that she has a SW. Someone we know has recently been given a diagnosis of Alzheimers after one meeting with an A nurse and since then, months ago.. absolutely no support or followup with anyone..

NotSpaghetti Thu 22-Feb-24 17:00:13

It is here now. I can see it.

fluttERBY123 Thu 22-Feb-24 16:59:49

Can a social worker force anyone with Alzheimers to have a cleaner? If so how might they do it?

fluttERBY123 Thu 22-Feb-24 16:57:09

I don't understand why my post about relative with Alzheimers is blocked. I've done it twice and left out a "name" the second time but it stays green.and won't go pink.

fluttERBY123 Thu 22-Feb-24 16:50:05

Recent diagnosis. She lives alone, widow. Family not near but in touch, we have POA.
SS have become involved. They say she must have a cleaner in for cleaning and food safety. She is very resistant to to this. SW says that if family can't talk her into agreeing she will have to force the issue.
My question is how would she do that? Widow has some capacity surely as moderate Alzheimers. I sure she needs a cleaner. I want to be able to say to her that if she persists in refusing xyz might happen. All very confusing. She says she'll force the issue but it's us who have to find the cleaner.