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Good evening everyone. I'm catching up (as much as possible) from Thursday so it will take me a bit of time. I've had the funeral and visitors on 2 days for my DHs birthday and have had to socialise far too much 😁. Lovely but more tiring than physical work. I'm shattered.

Whiff a lot of good advice for Wyllow3 on Thursday, much of which we could all take on board.
I got confused and thought you were already on holiday. I can understand you not going back to places you went with your DH. Better to keep those precious memories as they are.
Your craft group sounds very enjoyable. Thanks for telling us all about it. Your zebras are very colourful.
I will try your thumb exercise tomorrow.

Sweetpeasue I loved your story about watching the lambs being born with your husband. I could picture the whole scene but it must have been awful to watch one struggling. No wonder you were in tears. I didn't realise they normally come out feet first. I thought that the farmer would be helping.
Egg mayo sandwich is a favourite. I see no point in giving yourself a lot of work when you're on holiday. M&S do some good ready meals with few additives. I like their haddock or cod mornay with potatoes and peas.
I too feel a little envy when I see people doing things like hillwalking I used to do but then I remind myself to be grateful I got to do it. Many people don't.
I haven't read Scaredycats post yet but I agree, when I find myself envying young people, I also say it's their turn, we can't be greedy. And wish them well, for life is not always easy.
Thanks for the compliment. The colours in my painting are mixed, to achieve the right shade, not easy. There are many books that help with ideas, very useful. I hope your DH finds one he likes. Maybe it would distract him a bit.
I can't believe you're home already, where does the time go??
And I can't believe you wrote that looong post.
I'm sorry you're both not well. I'm sure the drive back has really tired you too, and you might feel a bit better tomorrow.
But at least you have the lovely memory of your holiday, and knowing you were able to do it.
I hope the GP can see you on Monday. xx

And thanks for the photos!.

Sorry everyone, I will catch up more tomorrow.

Doodle I am praying so much for strength and healing for you both. Sending love.xx

Wishing all on BD a peaceful night.xx

My gardens big and sculptured and I just try to avoid looking at it it needs so much - and was one of the good things re ex did do - but when nurse took me to the park that was easier as I dont like leaving the house for "outdoors" alone.. Still in yesterday's nightie. Cant force myself.

thinking of the Doodles in hospital and Sweetpeasue just back and nadateturbe's busy time and Whiff's super craft group, waves to Candy and Scaredycat I hate home invasions too and Ellie-Anne and all others.

SweetpeaSue Hope you enjoyed your holiday. You've come back to some dull weather, though (it's rained since about 5am here). Did you take any nice photos? How are you both feeling today?

nadateturbe Did your husband have a nice birthday? How are you today?

Doodle How are things with you and your husband?

Wyllow Hope you have managed to eat something - fruit would be good, and is easy for something on-hand.

Hope ALL BDers are ok today x

Scaredycat It sounds so uncomfortable trying to walk with continual AF. I think you do really well. Honestly I'm continually amazed at what people on BD cope with so well.
I agree about it's their time now regarding young people. And really I hope they enjoy it because I feel it's harder for them nowadays. Lots of opportunities but difficulties too.
Our GC or GGC grow up so quickly, don't they. One minute you're pushing them in a pram, and next they're in Senior school, or like mine, who had his first 'date' yesterday. Just a friend he said. .
I agree too about other threads. It does take your mind off things. I often do quordle etc for that reason.
My aunt has been out for trips and visiting. Unaware of her husband not being there, looking so happy. What a strange thing dementia is.
My husband is like you, everything is done to a routine. I think it's harder to cope with interrupted routines as we get older. And spontaneous activities are rare, in our case anyway.

Hi all.
I don’t feel too good today. Saturday I had my Covid booster- up till now I,ve only had Pfizer and Saturday it was Moderna. I didn’t bother as I thought it would be Ok. Well it was til later on in the day and then my arm started to really hurt and continued all night. I,m so tired and feel a bit weird. It’s still hurting but I guess it,ll be ok tomorrow.
SweetPeaSue- I think your holiday has done you a world of good. Hopefully it,ll give you the confidence to have a few more breaks this Summer. Beautiful scenery is so healing. It’s amazing how the sheep take it all on their stride- such an uplifting experience.
Nadateturbe- hope your DH had a good Birthday. You have had a lot of emotional stuff to deal with. I suppose it’s better for your Aunt to just carry on as she is. You are right Dementia is so complicated and strange. My 2 best friends are dealing with it and I find it so sad.
Ah your GS is spreading his wings a bit- so sweet . Hope she’s a nice person and they enjoy fun together.
HVDY- hope you’re having a good Sunday.
Wyllow- do you get to the park with the nurse very often? Maybe when the weather is warmer you will be able to sit outside for a while. Dont worry about the nightie- you,ll get there.
Sending a Sunday hugx
Doodle- thinking of you both and hoping DH will soon show some improvement. Take care of yourselves xx
EllieAnne- hope this weekend hasn’t been too stressful. Have you spoken to your DD lately?
Candy,Whiff,Nanny,Allsorts and those I have forgotten wishing you a peaceful evening

HVDY I think it's lovely that you were visiting your son1's ex. It sounds like a lovely relationship.
I'm still really upset about my sons partner.
The sun shows up all the dust and any smears on windows, doesn't it?. So annoying. I just try to ignore the windows and flick a feather duster round. I used to polish and dust religiously.
I hope the inhaler is starting to help, not very good service getting it. What a palaver! I hope you don't wait long for the xray.

Sorry I still haven't caught up with everyone. Can't do screen for long.
Back later. x

Doodle Do hope you have both had a better day and your DH's breathing is improved. I'm sure you'll both be happier when he is allowed home.
Scaredycat Ooh that sounds painful and must have been awful sleeping. Don't know if you're left or right handed but hope it wasn't the one you move most for things. Hope it feels better tomorrow. My DH has been called for his covid injection as he's on the steroids.
Nadateturbe Not sure which way lambs usually come out , I should google it but it looked as if the first ones were all feet first and the other was headfirst. The sheep that was troubled kept bleating and standing then lying down rocking with her legs flailing. Went on for a long time and I actually prayed for the poor thing. What made it worse was another 2 tiny playful lamb's kept coming over to her and she was mithered and nudging them away all the time. It's a messy business and I soon learned why there were so many crows coming into the field. Yuck!
Oh I get the Haddock Mornays Count on us too - they're lovely.
My DH has lots of acrylic paintings and some oils so he's been cleaning some of his trays today to make a start but he's still on with his carousel. I was never much use at Art at school. I remember in primary school I didn't want to get involved with the finger painting (looked too messy) and teacher forced my hands into the cold slimy paint. It was horrible! She moved my hands over the paper too!! Hope you're not as tired today and getting energy back.
HVDY How is your breathing today and is the inhaler starting to help at all? Yes weather been atrocious today with some roads flooded. Was sunny every day in Cumbria. Were much the same -I had pain during early hrs and bladder really uncomfortable but concerned about DH as he got dizzy standing up in bath and fell again last night. We seem to be always ringing GP surgery as we get older don't we. Took some photos on our phones and the sky was beautiful most nights. Some of lambs ,obvs, and one actually got into the garden. You might see the head of one poking through fence if you can enlarge it.
EllieAnne Hope your weekend hasn't been too bad. Have you been walking lately? It seems so cold for nearly May.
Wyllow I can understand why you don't want to look at the garden if it needs a lot of attention. It's amazing how resilient some plants and shrubs are though and will sprout up anywhere in strangling places. Don't worry about being in the nightie. I'm glad the nurse can come sometimes to go out with you. I wonder if some Agoraphobia has set in. Everywhere can seem so vast when you've been inside for a long time. Hope you can sleep OK.
CandyAllsorts**Whiff**Nanny Hope you are all OK.

Been out to get some fresh groceries and rain been unrelenting. I'm glad we went away. I don't think I could have decided to go without starting the ADs ,they make a difference. Wish they could take pain away too but can't have everything. I know I'm in better headspace than I was so that helps.
Hope everyone has a peaceful night.x

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Photo not very close but first 1 is lamb that got through fence into the garden.

Sweepease glad your holiday did you good, I would have cried I think at that poor lamb, yet all was well.
So many of you with bad health problems which you bear well. I am down, don’t want to go out as I can’t be bothered to look the best I can, which gets harder, sure no one notices but I know.
Wyllow I should have gardened as well but blame it on my arthritis, but again it’s too much bother as only I see it and
That’s the nub of it.

I've read, but in bed exhausted.
Hope you all have a peaceful night.
Thinking of you Doodle.x
Hope you feel better tomorrow Scaredycat.
Sorry to not speak to everyone. xx

Hi all, hope you’ve all had a good day. I don’t like Sundays very much. I used to think it’s because of work on Monday but I don’t have that anymore! I finally got my room sorted and things back in, just waiting for new sofa to arrive now. Like some of you have said, I understand about the invasion thing when having jobs done. I hate that too. Luckily DH is very practical and can tackle most things and this was one he did. He does a very good job too, but of a perfectionist even and he’s cheap! 🤣.
HVDY sounds like you had a lovely visit to your son’s ex. She must think a lot you and its nice you keep in touch. Hope the inhaler has started to work and you’re feeling better.
Doodle hope your DH has been treated for his possible infection and can continue with his recovery so you can get home. It’s quite surprising how the time goes on the ward plus I don’t think you get much sleep which is so important to aid recovery I think. He’ll improve quicker at home I’m sure. I hope you’re managing to keep warm too.
Whiff your craft group sounds lovely. It’s always a bit daunting to start these things but it sounds like you have found the right one for you. It’s nice you’ve got a little holiday to look forward to too.
Nadatertuebe hope you’ve recovered from your busy time. Sorry for your loss, rest and recover now.
Sweetpeasue lovely photos. Looks
Like you had a nice time which I’m sure will have done you both good. Hope you’ve been pain free today.
Scaredycat sorry you’re unwell after your jab and I hope you recover very soon. Perhaps you will feel better tomorrow as these things tend not to take too long 🤞. Hope you have a restful night.
Wyllow good to see you posting a bit more. Don’t worry about the nightie thing, you’ll get there. I’m glad you get out with the nurse. Perhaps when the better weather comes you’ll be encouraged a bit more. Baby steps but keep going, you’re doing well and we are all behind you.
Love to Ellie Anne Allsorts and everyone else. Restful night all xx

Scaredy-cat I spoke to dd today but didn’t get much back. Think she is really unwell but nothing I can do.
It’s really getting me down.

Caught up with all - (hello re gardens Allsorts (and being looked at)

Just lots of love to all BD's its been a particularly bad head day xxx to all

SweetpeaSue What gorgeous views you had. I love to see animals out in the fields. I'm still coughing a lot, but not as much as I was, thanks for asking. Hope your husband is better this morning. It sounds as if he might have postural hypotension, where the BP drops when he stands up. A bath board (Red Cross loan them out) would help. It's rubbish getting older, isn't it.

nadateturbe I understand you feeling upset about your son's split from his GF. When my son split with his GF (the one I saw on Friday), it didn't help that he came back here and she lived 3 doors away! I'm having a chest x-ray tomorrow morning.

Candy6 It's lovely to get a room all fresh and sorted, with new furniture as well .

ScaredyCat Hope you feel better today. I hadn't realised booster jabs were still being done.

Wyllow3, EllieAnne, Whiff, Allsorts and ALL others - hope you see a bit of sunshine today. I've just put 2 loads of washing on the line, and it's lovely and sunny here. x

That was very awkward re ex living close*HVDY*. I hope your xray is OK tomorrow. At least it's not a long wait, surprisingly.

Back later.

nadateturbe Son and GF lived together there, 3 doors from us. It certainly did make things awkward - especially as he got with the girl next door to the ex (long story), the one he went on to have his 2 girls with. I'm sure my x-ray will be fine, thanks. I had some scarring of the lungs, apparently, after Covid (almost 3 years ago).

I did aqua aerobics (very popular, 35 of us), then had brunch at the pub with my friend. Just done some ironing. That's about it for the day x

SweetPeaSue- your photos were beautiful- such a wonderful sky. So glad the weather was kind to you - it’s not always so in the Lakes is it.
Hope your DH has no problem with his booster - I think HVDY could be right about his BP dropping on standing.
Ads have helped you deal with Life better - I,m so pleased for you. The difference they make is remarkable isn’t it- my children say they have their Mum back again.!
Nadaturbe- it,ll take a while to get used to your Sons situation especially after such a long time. The trouble is that you really liked her and now you miss her too.
I,m a feather duster fan as well- life,s too short to do too much polishing!! I shake it out of the window too like a Victorian maid!!
Allsorts- you sound as if you feel lonely as well as down. That can’t be bothered feeling is horrible. The important thing is to try and get out and don’t worry about how you look.
It’s hard sometimes to get motivated to make an effort isn’t it.
Could you get someone in to do a bit of a garden tidy up and then you may enjoy it again. Do you have family nearby ?
Candy- your room must look lovely now- hope the new sofa is comfy.
I didn’t like Sundays when I was little as we lived with my Nan and Grandad and they didn’t turn the lights on til you almost couldn’t see. I still love the lights going on- any lights.
I feel better today thank you- it made me feel so poorly like a mini Covid.
EllieAnne- you must be so worried about your DD- the only thing you can do is keep talking or texting- let her know you are always there for her. Maybe you could visit again soon.
Wyllow- sorry yesterday was a bad day. Today is another day and hope it’s kinder to you. If the sun is out could you sit outside just for 5 minutes to feel the sun on your face?
So glad to see your posts - you WILL get there.x
HVDY- that’s a lot of people at Aqua Aerobics. You must have a good teacher. Does being in the water help your legs?
Pub Brunch sounds good- is it an Aqua friend?
Hope you’re having a rest now.Hope too the XRay goes well tomorrow.
Doodle- wondering how you are today. You must both be so sick of the inside of hospitals. Hoping this week will see the start of some improvement for DH and getting home in sight.
Wishing you both a peaceful night.x

ScaredyCat ADs certainly do help. They're quite literally a life-saver for many people. All the aqua aerobic classes are now virtual - a large screen at the poolside, with lots of different sessions. Yes, I go to the pub with an aqua friend (she lives on my street). She has a huge full English, I had pancakes with fresh fruit and maple syrup. Thanks, the only concern I've got is where to park (a bit easier having a blue badge sometimes).

HVDY It does sound to me like Postural Hypotension too but I don't know where the headaches fit in to it. Anyway the GP has given some tablets for the dizziness but I'm not really happy about treating a symptom without knowing the cause. If still bad in 2or3 weeks he's being referred to a specialist. He has Rheumatology appt in July so maybe they can shine a light on headaches. Not happy about this ongoing problem at all.
Glad you got out to Aqua-aerobics. Those pancakes made my mouth water.
The views were beautiful- photos don't do justice.
Doodle Hope you are both OK and your DH is breathing better. Sending lots of love and thinking of you.
Nadateturbe Hope you've got more energy today and slept better last night.
Scaredycat Glad you're feeling better after the injection. DH goes next week. He's got skin like leather- the actual injection never shows on him either- whereas my arm is usually painful and stiff for a few dys.
The ADs have helped a lot though being able to release so much angst about what happened has also been invaluable too.
Wyllow Hope your day has been better, even by a little fraction. The feeling of being looked at is always a problem with me but much worse when I'm very depressed. I feel more comfortable on a beach where there's lots of space between people and they can't see you close up. I hope you're managing to eat something even if its a little now and then.
Allsorts Thankyou -the holiday was a big gamble for me and it certainly helped my confidence just knowing I can be away from home with my pain. I'm so sorry you're feeling so down lately. It affects being able to go out and I understand where you are coming from, I think. The last few yrs have put yrs on me and I hate looking in the mirror. When you feel low your pupils go tiny and I think it makes us look more tired than usual. As you say, no one probably takes any notice but it's what we feel inside isn't it. I hope you're feeling a bit better today. Sending you a hug and we all care here.
EllieAnne It affects us so much how our AC feel and makes such a difference to how we cope with every day. I find I can write( text) much easier and clearer than I can talk on the phone as I've more time to think about what I want to say. I hope you can get your DD to open up a little to you- I think you would both feel so much better. Take care.
Candy You are drawing my attention to so much that needs doing in our living room. We sorted bedrooms out a few yrs ago so they're not so bad but our living room carpet needs changing too. There's always something. I have put lots of things off because of the invasion of privacy with strangers in the house. It's good when things are sorted though.

Love to all BDs and those not mentioned. X

Sorry all not much wi fi connection. Don’t feel like posting much. DH and I both miserable. He’s ok but poorly.. take care all xx

Sorry you are both feeling so bad Doodle . Hope things are better tomorrow. Much love.x