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DrBenjaminMc Sun 26-May-24 08:46:58

I can only imagine how worrying it must be to receive that kind of news, especially when it comes as a surprise. It's completely natural to feel anxious and uncertain in a situation like this. From what you've described, it sounds like your husband's doctor is being thorough and proactive, which is definitely a good thing. While a soft nodule might not always indicate cancer, it's understandable that the word "cancer" on the information sheet would spark concern.

It's great that your husband is glad to be checked, as early detection can make a big difference in treatment outcomes. Remember to lean on each other for support during this time, and don't hesitate to reach out to the medical professionals involved for any clarification or additional information you might need. Wishing you both strength and positivity as you navigate through this process together.

Aldom Sun 26-May-24 07:21:12

Aonk I am so sorry to read of your husband's cancer diagnosis. I am hoping for the best for him. Thoughts are with you. flowers

Whiff Sun 26-May-24 07:00:41

Sorry for those waiting and dealing with loved ones with prostrate problems.

But hope this might make you smile.This goes back 35+ years ago and uncle of mine when to the GP and needed his prostate examined so he took his shirt off. The doctor said not trousers and knickers down and lie on your side and knees to your chest. My poor uncle went home shell shocked he didn't know where his prostrate was. Thankfully men know nowadays.

But they should also check themselves weekly for lumps in there chests as men can and do get breast cancer and because of lack of fat it can kill them quicker than women . My dad was in the St John's ambulance brigade for 30 years so instill it into my brother to check his chest and testicles. And I past that on to my husband and son.

Woman are more aware of what we have to check .

OldFrill Sun 26-May-24 01:23:09

mae13

Hello Nans56 - may I tag on to your Prostate thread?
I've offered to pay for my brother to go private for an enlarged prostate op but the fancy websites will tell you everything except an approximate cost.
I have faith in the NHS but the waiting lists are currently too long for my liking.
But why do private clinics avoid hard finance like the plague? Show me the money!

The consultant should give you the cost. Ask your brother to ring his consultant (via his secretary) and ask him. Will also give you estimated date.

Nana56 Thu 23-May-24 15:39:38

Good luck. My DH started by having examination at Dr's. Feel free to tag onto thread , not sure what that measns!!!!

mae13 Thu 23-May-24 12:51:08

Hello Nans56 - may I tag on to your Prostate thread?
I've offered to pay for my brother to go private for an enlarged prostate op but the fancy websites will tell you everything except an approximate cost.
I have faith in the NHS but the waiting lists are currently too long for my liking.
But why do private clinics avoid hard finance like the plague? Show me the money!

OldFrill Thu 23-May-24 12:29:42

So pleased to hear this Nana50

mokryna Thu 23-May-24 12:23:38

I pushed my ex to have the test and it finished with him having the operation to have it removed, great. A few years later he wanted a mortgage and was refused because he had had cancer. I think medical issues should not have to be shared, if the all clear has been given. We are in France so maybe the UK have different rules, however one of my DSiL put off being tested before he had his loan from the bank.

Kate1949 Thu 23-May-24 12:22:38

Great news Nana56. Good wishes you your DH aonk.

Smileless2012 Thu 23-May-24 12:18:25

That's good news Nana you must both be very relieved.

Nana56 Thu 23-May-24 12:15:50

Update. I just wanted to let you know that mri scan results show no cancer present.
Thank you all for your support, it really helped.

aonk Wed 15-May-24 19:31:17

My DH was sent for an mri in January because the GP thought his psa was high. He had a phone appointment to discuss the result and was told that he needed a biopsy as there was one area of his prostate that didn’t look normal. He had the biopsy and then a call to say all was well. Of course we were very pleased he didn’t have prostate cancer but ironically this was short lived. Just over a month later he was diagnosed with another type of cancer which is far less treatable. He’s now having chemotherapy ahead of major surgery in the Autumn.

Kate1949 Wed 15-May-24 17:18:38

When my DH was diagnosed with prostate cancer, his consultant told us that most men will experience prostate problems in their lifetime, although not necessarily cancer. It has proved to be the case in our family. My husband and one brother in law have prostate cancer and another bil has an enlarged prostate. Wishing you well.

bikergran Wed 15-May-24 16:34:20

My dad has recently had the same test/s. had examination and was found to have enlarged prostrate and nodules.

They wanted to do the camera up and down (hes 87 with other illnesses). I explained it would be far too much for him to have the bowel and throat camera etc.

So had CT scan which showed enlarged prostrate and also 2 spots they had found on bottom and top of spine.

They started him straight away on Hormone injections, he had 2 into his stomach.

The drug is called " Degarelix". He will go for and injection every month and also regular blood tests to check his P.S.A levels.

OldFrill Wed 15-May-24 15:54:28

I'm glad the scan has been done. The phone consultation is to discuss results, if anything untoward is suspected an appointment will be made for a biopsy to diagnosis purposes, otherwise treatment (or not) for anything else will be discussed.
Hope all goes well.

Nana56 Wed 15-May-24 12:17:22

Thought I'd share an update. DH had MRI scan within the 2 wk pathway.
He's receive a letter with a telephone appt to discuss the results.
Is this usual?
I'm hoping as it's a telephone appointment it's good news.

luluaugust Wed 08-May-24 10:11:45

I think you will find this is what usually happens, DH and DB went down the same route, both were found not to have cancer but received other treatment which has helped them a lot. Good luck

OldFrill Wed 08-May-24 10:05:36

There are guidelines GPs follow to fast track/urgently refer certain test results/symptoms that could indicate cancer, the vast majority of referrals prove not cancerous. Your GP should have forewarned you. The screening for prostate cancer is not reliable and symptoms ambiguous so you husband is lucky he's getting an MRI so quickly.
All the best.

LadyGaGa Wed 08-May-24 09:52:44

DH went through all this a couple of years ago - and most of his friends are also going through it. It’s very common with old blokes, and it’s good that he’s getting all the checks. DH now has a PSA blood test every 6 months. It came back very high a few months ago but turned out he had an infection. He does suffer from symptoms of an enlarged prostate but medication helps so far. Can’t fault the NHS - they are very thorough. Once in the system he found it very reassuring. It’s no good saying don't worry - cus I know I did! But hopefully things will turn out fine.

Nana56 Wed 08-May-24 09:35:43

My DH went to GP last wk and during consultation, for another issue, asked if prostate tests were still done.
The GP said not routinely done anymore but was happy to do examination.
He found slight enlarged prostate,normal for a 70vyr old, and soft nodule.
Said he would refer. Next we know a 2 wk cancer information arrived.
I thought a soft nodule was not cancerous. DH been for MRI.
I know it's good to be checked but such a worry. DH glad to be checked.
Any thoughts very welcome