About 12 years ago DH was diagnosed with prostate cancer, two years after a diagnosis of throat and neck cancer. The first cancer was a terrible shock but the treatment was successful. If there had been an Oscar for putting on a brave face, I think I'd have walked away with it. But following the news about the prostrate I could feel myself going down as I didn't think I could go through it again. I started swimming at a local health club, having never been to a gym/pool before. I can only say that it saved my life. It was like having time out from what was going on. Mentally and physically. DH had the hormone/radiotherapy treatment and I was able to be his "brick" again- his description! He's fine and I'm still swimming. If you can find something to take you away from your situation, you'll return to it refreshed. Best wishes to you both.