Premature Grandson

Go. It’s only one and a half hours away. You will come back the better for it and you can support your daughter and grandson.

Do go, your daughter is happy for you to do that. It seems you badly need the break and it will give you time recharge your batteries - You will then be in a stronger position to support your DD on your return. An hour and a half away is not too far for you to return if necessary.
I can well imagine your heart aches for your DD and her tiny son. It's a double whamy for you. Go and have a well deserved break .
I wish your DD and your precious little grandson the very best . 💐💐

Congratulations

Please go and your DH will keep in touch.

Sending good wishes and thoughts to you all xx

I would go on your break as it is not too far away.

I lived over two hours away from my parents and when it came to it I was able to be there within a reasonable time frame.

You are not neglecting anybody if you go. Your DD and GS are in good hands.

Go, then you will be fit to help when the new little family need it! Congratulations

to you and your husband and daughter. Fingers crossed for your grandson. All the best.

Go you ll still be near enough to get there if necessary anyway your daughter wants you to go so do as she wants
Good luck with the little one he ll probably grow to be a 6 footer

Mandy45 my heart goes out to you and your family
If I put myself in your situation, I couldn't enjoy a break away from home at this time but each of us is different. At that weight and gestation, this is going to be a very rocky road indeed.
I'm sure you'll find your way to the right decision

As others have said do go you will be able to get back fairly quickly if needed.
I send my very best wishes to you, your daughter and your precious grandson

Your daughter and baby will be well looked after. Take that break and when you return you will be ready to look after them .
Congratulations

Take the break, it is 90 minutes away, and your daughter is happy for you. Congratulations.

I'd say take the break. 90 minutes away is nothing at all and your daughter and the baby are in the best possible place - you can still be in touch and support your daughter with messages and, if she is up to it, calls (but not constantly.)

I am holding you all in my thoughts and send all my best to you, your daughter and the precious little one.

Oh what a worrying time for you all. I wouldn’t go, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t. It all depends if you’re going to be able to relax away from home.
I know when I’m worried I’d rather be at home on call. Your daughter may need your support too. Hope the little one grows big and strong. Take care.

Having been in your situation most contact is by text or face time which can be done from anywhere. You need to be strong for the road ahead so having a break will help with that. Try to relax and build up some energy reserves. Sending my best to you and your family.

Like everybody else I would say Go. Get the break you need - and if you really can’t settle there by all means come home again.
You can be back in less than two hours but it does sound as if you need a break.
When your lovely little man is home with his Mummy and Daddy you will have plenty to do.
A worrying time but congratulations on your precious tiny miracle

My boy was in special care for 10 weeks and came home nearly two weeks before he was due.He,s the 36Year old father of three lovely girls.Medicine has moved on since then and I,m sure your wee one will have the best of care and come home as a happy healthy baby.The baby,s mother and father will be living their worst nightmare,it was the worst time of my life,have your break and come back ready to give the support they will without doubt need.I wish you all the best for this stressful time and for a happy future.

I hope that you take the advice here, Mandy, and take your break. Support can be via loving text messages and you will return home ready to offer any help needed. There's, potentially, a long road ahead for you and yours so a bit of R&R now seems a good idea.
Congratulations on your new grandson and lots of good wishes that he makes good progress and comes home soon.

Thank you all for your kind messages, we have decided to go away, as it's not too far away if we need to come home in an emergency, and my daughter wants limited/no visitors at the moment.

Good decision Mandy45

As others have said, you need to take care of yourself so that you will be able to help out when the time comes.

I feel for you, as I remember the shock of seeing our tiny GS in the special unit. Almost five years on and he has just started school. Tall for his age, full of confidence and absolutely full of energy!

I hope you and your family have the same positive outcome.

What a worrying time for you all.
It’s good to read that you’ve decided to go.
Every good wish.

Take the break. My twins were prem and my parents left for a six week trip around the USA the day before they unexpectedly arrived. We were all looked after so well and mum and dad really couldn’t have done anything to help. I appreciated them later when the babies were home. Best of luck.

Go. Your daughter and grandson are in the right place and will be there for some time and you won't be far away. Our 4 year old granddaughter was born 3 months early and they were in the baby unit for weeks during the pandemic. She's just started school this week even though she shouldn't have been 4 until October 6 and she is just fine. Good luck to you and yours

Dear Mandy. I'm so glad you've decided to go. Staying at home wouldn't help - you can do nothing at the moment, except pray, brood and worry. My great-grandson was born at 25 weeks and was in the Special Care Baby Unit for almost 5 months. He had surgery on his bowels and a heart valve plus monitoring of various functions. I saw him a few minutes after he was born and frankly didn't think he would survive. The day before his heart surgery, I had to drive to Manchester for a residential meeting for work. I told my granddaughter "My body is going to Manchester but my heart is here with you". Let this be true for you on your getaway.

He was born a few weeks before the first lock down so no visitors other than mum for quite some time. I held him for the first time in mid-August - a very special birthday present!

He started school this week - a delightful 4-year-old, physically perfect, as bright as a button and you would never know what a traumatic start to life he's had.

The staff were wonderful - as I'm sure will be those looking after your little grandson. And what they can do medically and surgically is quite remarkable - I will never forget how much we owe to those wonderful, skilful, dedicated people. And also just to say that my granddaughter, who was very young, proved remarkably strong and positive and dealt with everything admirably. I'm sure her strength also contributed to the progress her little son made - mother's instinct is very powerful and this will likely be true in your case.

So hold your little man in your heart and mind but be kind to yourself too. I don't pray, but I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and hope you are as fortunate as we were. Xx

I actually can’t understand your hesitation about going such a short distance away . Some people live much further away from their families than that and travel very regularly for contact.
Your daughter is being well looked after as is the baby, what could you do anyway at this stage ?
I’m sure you will be needed and much more useful further along when hopefully they are both home but will still need a lot of help.