When to resume sex after hip replacement

I couldn't possibly comment. I am a virgin. Any of my four children will tell you so.

Each to their own!

that's in reply to Jaye 's pass the sickbag

Isn't it good that we are all different?
As Iris Murdoch, philosopher and author, said in one of her novels: "anyone can love anyone and anyone can prefer anyone to anyone else"
I paraphrase

LucyAnna2

Jaye53

Pass the sick bag

Interesting (revealing?) comment….

Why that reaction?

Perhaps Jane is 53 and thinks anyone over 70 should sit be the fireplace and knit socks for the grandchildren (that will be thrown away after a hot wash!).

Sick? why?

Anyhow, back to the subject in hand (perhaps wrong turn of phrase here)... depends on how fit you are and the morphology of your partner.

Jaye53

Pass the sick bag

Interesting (revealing?) comment….

Why that reaction?

Pass the sick bag

I wish I'd asked on your behalf at my pre assessment for THR appointment yesterday but I'm only reading this thread now!

I think I was warned I'd be on crutches for 6 weeks and it would be about 9 months before the hip would be totally healed.

I have a friend in her 80s who is writing a book about sex into old age. Her current boyfriend is in his 90s.

Some people don't know when to stop 😂🤣

Oreo

PamelaJ1

Seems that the kitchen table might come in handy!…….so sorry everyone I couldn’t resist🤦🏼‍♀️

But make sure you clear the tea things off it first in the case it gets extra lively🤭

Possibly close the blinds

I wish I could ask my late mum! She had two hips replaced (knees as well) over the years. Sadly she passed away 7 years ago. Bearing in mind she had rheumatoid arthritis really badly, and she could hardly move (but the bedroom door was firmly closed on a weekend), I guess they might have used a curled up spooning position.

Seems like a logical question to ask on a health page, it’s normal and natural! Your physio might have some suggestions.

Agreed 😂

OMG ! That is my favourite response . Made my giggle 🤭

I'm new to GransNet and this is the first post I read! 😂😂😂
Brilliant! 🤣🤣
I'm so glad I joined now!
Thank you! ☺️

I really enjoy gransnet . Interesting insightful and sometimes helpful . But some of these answers are the funniest things i ve read in a long time esp the one about clutching pearls . That s just class .

Anyone shocked by this should never go on Mumsnet. Please! An orderly queue!
I note this thread goes on 1 - 8..

It's too soon love. Keep doing your exercises and your joints will loosen up.
There is also a hip support group (private group) on face book -lots of useful info and very helpful members.

It's too soon love. Keep on with the exercises.
Your joints will loosen up eventually and you will find a way.

This should have been part of your information pack . I had a hip replacement in my 40s but was single then. Even so , I was given advice on this - with diagrams ! My daughters , who were still at home , thought it was hilarious. Ask your physio’ or occupational therapist.

No posset, you are not the only one! I'm 73 and my husband is 76, and sex is a very important part of our relationship. I met him when he was 68 and he was far and away the most virile, sexually active man I have ever known (in the biblical sense!). Until then I thought 'all night long' was a myth! I think it is sad, and misleading, to think that older people aren't interested. Some are not, of course, but each to his own, I say (I still love a book and a mug of cocoa too! :-) )

Yes you may be right Iam64 but someone up thread asked why the post wasn’t screened, intimating it was unsuitable.

Probably women are generally more matter of fact about sex because of childbirth experiences, but in my experience in the NHS men in general are reluctant to discuss anything below the waist, such as sex or prostate problems for example. Not many men on this site I assume 🤔

netflixfan

Come on! Has no one got genuine advice for this woman?

Of course we do.

Many have said ask your consultant, you're an adult, just ask. I ask all my many and varied questions after any procedure. Why not?

Sex is pleasurable, however also personal, not many want to discuss.

Remember how it was difficult for your mum to tell you? This is the same. Perhaps similar to the talks with our children. No thanks, done and dusted.

I assume she asked on here cos not everyone's doctor is elderly or has had a hip operation, whereas more of those on GN are likely to meet those criteria.

Farzanah

On a serious note there has been a big rise in STDs in over 65s particularly men, so it’s a pity if older people are too coy or embarrassed about sex, causing a reluctance to seek treatment if they have any symptoms.

Some attitudes on here show that there is still a bit of a taboo around sex, which is after all a normal bodily function.

Unsurprising that there’s a rise in STDs , particularly in older men.
I’m not convinced some posts are about a taboo around sex. There was some genuine surprise that the OP was asking random grannies rather than her doctor/district nurse. Well that was my response, rather than shock horror

There are books available but you will know when you are ready 3 weeks seems early last thing you need is to dislicate your new hip

Fartooold, my son, who has Down’s Syndrome too, also asked me why I was laughing. I said that he wouldn’t understand, but he said, “ Try me. “ ! Needless to say , I didn’t.

netflixfan

Come on! Has no one got genuine advice for this woman?

Haven’t you read the thread?