When to resume sex after hip replacement

MissAdventure

I find it equally hard to believe that so many are squeamish about it.

I know. FFS!

What's so offensive about this? What's the matter with you people that a mention of sex is so upsetting? I think the table option sounds pretty safe and rather fun but you might want to put a cushion on it (the table) so as to be comfy.

I find it equally hard to believe that so many are squeamish about it.

Sex is a completely normal activity and I see nothing wrong with talking about it openly. If some of you are too prudish or even offended, then that’s your problem and your loss. You don’t neeed to read it if you don’t want to.
Good on you ftm20 for asking a completely valid question!
And the answer to keepingquiet is a definite YES! Good sex is healthy and makes you feel good at any age. I’m 74 and still enjoy it very much.
From behind is probably best when you have had hip replacement, and he needs to be very gentle. And, as you say, ftm20, he also has hands… Best of luck!

I find it hard to believe that many over 60s are still interested in sex.

Dcba

Does anyone screen posts before passing them through to be posted? If this happens where were they when this one slipped through?

Errrr....why?

It's a part of life - and so I guess anyone screening was purely objective and therefore realised "No big deal - part of life - why on earth would we censor a post about life?"

…OP … GET A ROOM … as the kids would say😆

This post gets better and better!

Dcba

Does anyone screen posts before passing them through to be posted? If this happens where were they when this one slipped through?

No reason whatsoever why it shouldn't be posted.

I love this post ftm420!
Interesting how many prudes there are on GN :-)
What about spoons? Can you lie on the comfy side? - or isn't there one?
Why not peruse the kama sutra!
Good for you both!

heath480

What a stupid question to ask strangers on the internet!! Must be a troll post.

Why not ask faceless strangers on the internet? It's not as though you and ftm420 are going to meet up to discuss the issue. Maybe she is too embarrassed to ask someone face to face. If you don't ask you won't know. If you didn't like the question then you could have scrolled past after the first sentence

Dcba

Does anyone screen posts before passing them through to be posted? If this happens where were they when this one slipped through?

This is ridiculous it does not need screening, for god's sake we are in 2024. Its was a straight forward questions that just needs a straight forward answer, which I sadly don't have as I have not had a hip op as much as I would like one as I need it desperately.

No they don't. They rely on us to report.

This was fun so I doubt anyone did!

keepingquiet

People still have sex???

Oh yes but I would advise the OP to tone it down a bit. No more positions like standing up in a hammock.

Does anyone screen posts before passing them through to be posted? If this happens where were they when this one slipped through?

3 weeks is too soon but please ask for medical advice first. In the majority of orthopaedic units, the subject is not discussed and it is not on the list of does and donts.

PamelaJ1

Seems that the kitchen table might come in handy!…….so sorry everyone I couldn’t resist🤦🏼‍♀️

But make sure you clear the tea things off it first in the case it gets extra lively🤭

I think that if you still wish to have sex with each other and you've always had a healthy sex life, that you would know ways to satisfy each other.. but if you are worried about damaging your hip then I would speak to a nurse or GP at your surgery..

LucyAnna2

chocolatepeanuts

I think it's a fair question. I don't have an answer as I've never had a hip replacement, but if you aren't ready, then don't seems sensible. Maybe you could ask your doctor for advice?

Note to self: Never ask any sex questions.

No, most on GN think it’s wrong to talk about sex.

Certainly the impression I'm getting and most surprised by that.

If I could find a man I fancied I wouldn't expect to give up on having a sex life per se - but, in my early 70's and not recognising myself any longer (ie just who is that 2 stones overweight/white-haired woman I keep catching a glimpse of? Agh!) = that seems to have been that back in my 50's.

Darn it!!

But I'm certainly someone who thinks "How are things to get any better if we don't actually know what's what?" Thank goodness, for instance, that younger women are often telling it like it is as to what pregnancy, childbirth and the aftermath of having given birth can be like for a lot of women. As I do know that back in my era (born 1950s and so any children I had would have been born in the 1980s/my 30s) there was very little information around and all I knew was "Childbirth is painful - and then one's body presumably goes back to exactly the way it was before no problem". I'd have hated to have had children on the basis of so little information! ....and boy would any mums I knew be in for an earful for NOT telling me how it could be....cue for nicer new set of friends.

I'm sorry that there are so many prudes who felt the need to comment ! For safetys sake and in the interests of good long term healing this is definitely a question for your surgeon In the meantime you both have two hands and a mouth each and could have very satisfying sex using them it's not all about penetration and orgasm is good for your general wellbeing

Should someone be worried that people might find out they're having sex with their husband
It's already established that op isn't new and has posted before.

Farmor15

I'm pretty sure it's a genuine post- OP started another thread about having to get up to pee in the night often, and mentioned the hip replacement.

Why wouldn't someone ask this after all?

To me I'd just think "He's very overweight and I'm not = I don't fancy him anyway....so I'll just say No". But am guessing OP isn't as put off the thought by overweight as many of us would be - and it's a genuine question. After all - illness or no illness and many of us still expect to "have a life" - and that includes sex (if we do still fancy them).

Some people are obviously not having any sort of advice whatsoever on "living one's life" after a hip replacement - as I remember being shocked when my elderly mother had one that no-one seemed to be giving her advice or physiotherapy and cue for me just telling her to go to a suitable physiotherapist and the cost was covered by a suitable scheme I'm in myself (and carefully didn't mention that I'd be using up "my ration" from that scheme and there'd be none left for me and I'd have to pay for anything else I wanted for myself).

So yep....not at all surprised if people aren't told how to "continue with leading their lives" and wondering who they are supposed to ask about ensuring they still can.....

I worked on a sexual health line for 10 years, the idea that caution on the internet = prudish is a bit tedious.

Of course it is.
It just makes people who feel uncomfortable about it feel better to insinuate otherwise.

What a lot of prudes there are on Gransnet! Did all the Disgusted, Tonbridge Wells, responders all have Immaculate Conceptions and Virgin Births? I remember having this issue after a hysterectomy and deciding "Side by Side by Sondheim" was the best initial strategy.