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When to resume sex after hip replacement

(218 Posts)
ftm420 Wed 30-Oct-24 11:16:12

Sorry if this is too explicit but if you dont ask...

I'm now 3 weeks post total hip replacement and am starting to think about sex! Trouble is, my DH is (ahem) very overweight and I'm quite skinny, so the thought of missionary scares the life out of me! I also can't widen my hips much (physio has given me a 'clam shell' exercise as part of standard physio and my knees just will not part).

I can't kneel down and get back up and I can't comfortably lie on my side to just 'do him'.

Should we just wait a bit longer, given that he is feeling a bit frustrated. He has 2 hands after all! Or is there a position we could try?

TIAblush

Allira Wed 30-Oct-24 21:00:29

It's not wrong but it's personal.
Everyone is different!

LucyAnna2 Wed 30-Oct-24 20:54:40

chocolatepeanuts

I think it's a fair question. I don't have an answer as I've never had a hip replacement, but if you aren't ready, then don't seems sensible. Maybe you could ask your doctor for advice?

Note to self: Never ask any sex questions.

No, most on GN think it’s wrong to talk about sex.

Iam64 Wed 30-Oct-24 20:54:27

Poppyred

Marydoll

I'm not shocked, nor a prude, but the original post has unfortunately conjured up an image, that I cannot get out of my head.

I'm of the opinion that what happens in a marriage, stays in a marriage. Why would anyone want to write about it on a public forum?

As I have posted before, why haven't you asked your clinicians, the people who know your medical history?
None of us have any knowledge of your physical condition, so are not qualified to advise..

This! Far too much information. 🫣🫣🫣

Exactly 👍🏻.
It’s strange to ask a group of grannies such a personal question. I know we do have some posters who worked as doctors or nurses but why not ask your medical team 0P

chocolatepeanuts Wed 30-Oct-24 20:52:19

I think it's a fair question. I don't have an answer as I've never had a hip replacement, but if you aren't ready, then don't seems sensible. Maybe you could ask your doctor for advice?

Note to self: Never ask any sex questions.

Allira Wed 30-Oct-24 20:47:29

MayBee70

Esmay

MayBee
Scrolled through the health forum and found the post about peeing .
You must have a brilliant memory !

It was only last night and you and I were two of only three people that replied to her query which is why I remembered it. It was the post about dogs claws.

Well, I didn't contribute because I took my dogs to the vets to have their claws trimmed.

Fartooold Wed 30-Oct-24 20:40:21

Thankyou ladies for making me laugh out loud! My daughter with Down Syndrome asked me why I was laughing! I did not enlighten her.

Jaxjacky Wed 30-Oct-24 20:39:43

If you search on user name the poster has made comment on many subjects.
I too don’t see any issue with the OP’s question, we’ve had discussion on urination, constipation, menstrual issues etc, making love is a healthy and important part of many relationships - so I keep being told 🤣🤣

Debbi58 Wed 30-Oct-24 20:35:01

What about the spoon postion, can be quite gentle

MayBee70 Wed 30-Oct-24 20:26:39

Esmay

MayBee
Scrolled through the health forum and found the post about peeing .
You must have a brilliant memory !

It was only last night and you and I were two of only three people that replied to her query which is why I remembered it. It was the post about dogs claws.

Marydoll Wed 30-Oct-24 20:23:11

Thank Poppyred!

Poppyred Wed 30-Oct-24 20:19:42

Marydoll

I'm not shocked, nor a prude, but the original post has unfortunately conjured up an image, that I cannot get out of my head.

I'm of the opinion that what happens in a marriage, stays in a marriage. Why would anyone want to write about it on a public forum?

As I have posted before, why haven't you asked your clinicians, the people who know your medical history?
None of us have any knowledge of your physical condition, so are not qualified to advise..

This! Far too much information. 🫣🫣🫣

Esmay Wed 30-Oct-24 20:15:02

MayBee
Scrolled through the health forum and found the post about peeing .
You must have a brilliant memory !

Esmay Wed 30-Oct-24 20:09:40

MayBee
I had a vague recollection , but having checked I couldn't find any posts from the OP .
I answered without hesitation because three weeks is too early !

David49 Wed 30-Oct-24 20:03:05

Having had a hip replacement recently, 3 weeks is rather too soon for amorous activity, we all recover at different rates, you will know when YOU feel it’s comfortable.
Take care a failed hip replacement can be a real nightmare.

MayBee70 Wed 30-Oct-24 19:59:25

Esmay

I don't think that you've posted before If this is a serious question :
Three weeks is too early .
Healing will permit sex between six to eight weeks after the incisions have fully healed .
Full healing around the joint itself takes a full three months .
If your hubby is overweight he needs to do something about it . He shouldn't lie on top of you .
You'll have to pleasure him manually .

And most importantly :
you need to consult your doctor .

You actually replied to a previous post by the OP.

Marydoll Wed 30-Oct-24 19:57:18

I'm not shocked, nor a prude, but the original post has unfortunately conjured up an image, that I cannot get out of my head.

I'm of the opinion that what happens in a marriage, stays in a marriage. Why would anyone want to write about it on a public forum?

As I have posted before, why haven't you asked your clinicians, the people who know your medical history?
None of us have any knowledge of your physical condition, so are not qualified to advise..

Poppyred Wed 30-Oct-24 19:57:08

MissAdventure

--faints--

🤣🤣🤣

MissAdventure Wed 30-Oct-24 19:53:33

She has posted before, about having had a hip replacement!

Esmay Wed 30-Oct-24 19:51:48

I don't think that you've posted before If this is a serious question :
Three weeks is too early .
Healing will permit sex between six to eight weeks after the incisions have fully healed .
Full healing around the joint itself takes a full three months .
If your hubby is overweight he needs to do something about it . He shouldn't lie on top of you .
You'll have to pleasure him manually .

And most importantly :
you need to consult your doctor .

MissAdventure Wed 30-Oct-24 19:49:49

Well, I did suggest facing away from the husband, so at least you wouldn't have to look at hi enjoying "congress". 🙀

FoghornLeghorn Wed 30-Oct-24 19:38:36

ftm420

Good grief. You'd think I'd written a porn novel from some of the reactions. I honestly can't believe no one has thought about this before!

It's the sort of thing I've read from mumsnet over many years before I transferred to gransnet. Does everyone just stop when they are over 60?!

Quite. I’m sorry you’ve received such ridiculous responses for your perfectly reasonable question. It’s like we’ve been transported back to 1950. I hope when you do manage to recommence your sex life that you remember to turn the lights out and just delicately raise the hem of your winceyette nightdress.

Galaxy Wed 30-Oct-24 19:34:41

I would think it was a troll on MN too as would many on MN, its nothing to do with age, it is to do with the fact that there are lots of trolls. This doesnt mean u are one it just means there are a lot of trolls.

FoghornLeghorn Wed 30-Oct-24 19:33:59

Goodness. What an uptight and easily offended lot you all are. Gransnet indeed!

ftm420 Wed 30-Oct-24 19:31:46

Good grief. You'd think I'd written a porn novel from some of the reactions. I honestly can't believe no one has thought about this before!

It's the sort of thing I've read from mumsnet over many years before I transferred to gransnet. Does everyone just stop when they are over 60?!

Visgir1 Wed 30-Oct-24 19:28:49

If you Google it, it suggests 3 months.