I'm not going to go into detail here because even now it's too painful...my mum was diagnosed with a particular disease, despite a regime of various medications, it was confirmed that the disease was 'drug resistant' and her condition was terminal. It was suggested to me that she could be transferred from the hospital to a hospice, after talking to her, we both decided that being at home was the best thing...at that point her prognosis was 4 to 6 weeks. She died 8 months later and I'm convinced that being at home, helped us to have that extra time and I truly cherish all of it.. nothing was left unsaid.
However, her death was utterly appalling and she died screaming at me to help her, she was absolutely terrified and there was nothing I could do except hold her. This wasn't pain...it was something else.
In the aftermath of it all, I spoke to the Doctor and asked why nobody had told me about what could happen, he explained that death didn't always occur in that manner with her condition but even if she'd have been in hospital etc, there was nothing that could have been done for her.
In the final weeks of her life, she often spoke to me about wanting things to end, mentally it destroyed her......
So, while I totally agree with the argument for good palliative care, even that, in some cases isn't enough and while I appreciate that some people have a strong religious belief, I also believe they have no right to use that belief to cause distress and suffering to others....