Husband In Hospital Needs Operation.

I have struggled with getting different opinions from different cardiologists - one said a pacemaker was not appropriate, another was very clear that it was the best treatment. It is so unsettling.

I hope your husband will be on the mend soon/.

Nanato3

Thank you all for your kind messages.
Hubby has been in hospital for a week today and in that time he has seen 3 different doctors all with different views.
Dr number 1 said he doesn't need surgery yet.
Dr number 2 said he needs surgery now and
Dr number 3 said he can't decide until he's had more tests.
Hubby should have had a test yesterday but it never happened and the porter came for him to go for surgery after he'd had breakfast Hoping that he has a test today.
I know consultants are busy people but a week in hospital with no treatment at all isn't on ! It's no wonder there are no beds !

When someone is admitted to hospital with a problem like that, the condition is not fixed at that moment.

It may improve because they are resting in bed with good nursing care. Or, it may worsen because other (unknown) medical factors are in play which will only be detected by observation, further tests, more detailed exams (MRI, x-ray, scans) recording multiple readings (of urine output, BP, oxygen levels etc).

So its possible that Drs 1, 2 and 3 were all perfectly correct.
Their differences may reflect alterations in the patients condition; new information from observations, the new information requires further tests . Avoiding doing the wrong thing, is just as important as working out what is the right thing.

In-patient daily care, observations and medication are all part of treating and managing the condition and looking after him.

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Gosh I do hope there are plans for next week. He must be exhausted x

Sending healing prayers and love to both of you...wishing you well and healed soon..xx❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏

Thank you all for your kind messages.
Hubby has been in hospital for a week today and in that time he has seen 3 different doctors all with different views.
Dr number 1 said he doesn't need surgery yet.
Dr number 2 said he needs surgery now and
Dr number 3 said he can't decide until he's had more tests.
Hubby should have had a test yesterday but it never happened and the porter came for him to go for surgery after he'd had breakfast Hoping that he has a test today.
I know consultants are busy people but a week in hospital with no treatment at all isn't on ! It's no wonder there are no beds !

Thinking of you. Please do as others have said and try to get help fir yourself.

Sending you my deepest heart love and healing for you and your husband.

♥️🤞👃
XXX

I've just seen your message Nanato3 regarding your husband's condition with possibly surgery coming up and your own health problems. A prayer from New Zealand has just been prayed by me for you both. All the very best.

So sorry for you both. Sending prayers and hope that the operation can go ahead soon.

Saying prayers for you and your husband. Cardiac surgery has moved on so much these days. Perhaps your dh is going to have stents fitted. In which case it is likely that your dh will be absolutely fine. My brother has had three fitted and that was a few years ago. All is well. God bless you.

Thinking of you and your dear husband, Nanato3, sending love and prayers. 💕🙏

Just a thought, if you have WhatsApp on your phones, you can make free video calls.

Praying for you both. God Bless 💐

Will certainly be thinking of your DH. Is there any way you and he could facetime? You will be desperate to see him.

Thinking of you both nanato3 🫂

Praying for you and your hubby Nana x

Ring age concern for advice. They can provide support if you need it. you will both be assessed for being able to cope until he recovers which in the absence of family, may mean a stay in a convalescent facility for him and/or a care package to assist you both before he will be allowed to be discharged which may delay things while it is organised. They will want to install a key box and panic alarm. You will be means tested and you may well need to pay if you have funds. Your family really need to assist if they can. If the hospital can’t operate there are very effective medications which really work, so if they offer an operation rather than drugs that’s a positive thing. Prayers sent on their way for you both 💐

Will do

Thinking of you both and sending love and prayers. Naturally you're worried and I hope you reach out and ask for some support through the coming weeks xx

Thinking of you and sending love and prayers. Please try to get some help at home through the GP as your first port of call xxx

Call Adult Social Services..they should get someone to help you in the home arrange food etc.
I'm so sorry to read your worry. Takes me back to lockdown when my husband was in hospital no vistors at all..I sincerely hope someone arranges help for you now as well as when your husband comes home. Hopefully the hospital will arrange a care package for you both xx

Nanato3 you and your DH are in my thoughts and prayers.

Nanato3 please don’t take this the wrong way and I know our kids are busy but if you are housebound and nearly bed bound you need more than someone popping in to do a few chores once a week
Please please consider looking for some temporary help if you can afford it yourself, or ring one of the charities or ask for a social worker to visit They can arrange so much in the way of help
Who is cooking you meals and helping with your care and safety I know your husband is very poorly but the doctors and nurses will be seeing to this needs I m worried about your needs
I don’t know your age or family situation ….have you grandkids old enough to be helpful any family near by please ask for help people always presume you’re ok even when you aren’t

Thanks everyone for your kind words, it means a lot .
I am able to speak to my husband on the phone , but the signal is terrible and we often have to text, but at least we are in touch.

I have a daughter, she called in yesterday evening and did a few household tasks for me but until then I had seen no one for 3 days has she works full time. She can't get to the hospital until the weekend due to her work, she would take me but I spend most of my time in bed due to my health conditions.

It's the waiting that gets to you and the not knowing when they are going to operate. Patience isn't my strong point I'm afraid.

Thinking of you both nanato3.

Please ask those round your for support, your husband is being cared for by professional staff, important not to forget your own needs. A video call would be a good way of keeping in touch, it really does help to see someone we’re worried about. My love to you both.

You are both in my thoughts Nanato3.
Stay strong for both your sakes💐