Voucher for Afternoon Tea

And you can't just use it like a voucher. You have to book the place using the voucher and it wouldn't work.

notgran

I feel quite sorry for adult kids when I read posts on here. Either they don't do enough for their parents or as in this case they are too generous.

Absolutely spot on!

Crossstitchfan

notgran

I feel quite sorry for adult kids when I read posts on here. Either they don't do enough for their parents or as in this case they are too generous.

Absolutely spot on!

And a hear, hear from me too.
“Messes up your day” ?

Words fail

As others have suggested, take some home and maybe give some to your neighbours.

The money is spent. The voucher is bought.

Why not go and at least try to enjoy yourself?

Suzieque66

Hi .. My son gave me a Voucher For Afternoon Tea for £65.00 .. I don't want to use it as it's an awful ammount of money for sandwiches and a few cakes.

The tea shop wont let anymore people come to the Tea .. so it 2 only ..

You don’t want to use it? So give it someone who does and will appreciate it.

It’s an awful amount of money for sandwiches and cakes - yep. But yesterday at a National Trust property we paid £24 for 2 (awful) sandwiches, tea, coffee and a slice of cake.

If you are trying to ‘share’ tea for 2 between 3 people, then no, the tea shop won’t allow it. If a third, paying person wants to attend, I’m sure they wouldn’t turn their money down.

And to the person saying it messes up your day, you could say that about anything that takes place outside of your routine. It’s supposed to be a treat, something unusual, not an obligation to be endured.

I hope you accepted the gift with good grace Suzieque66, and didn’t show your ungrateful attitude to your son.

For my 70th birthday my sister and brother in law gave me a Buyagift Afternoon Tea Voucher book. I chose to use it while we were visiting Harrogate for the Christmas fair. Dh and I chose a hotel from the book and booked it. We were welcomed at the door, and to our surprise we were given their festive afternoon tea, complete with the usual sandwiches and scones but also mini festive pastries and mince pies and beautiful little desserts.
Go ahead and use your voucher. Don't think of the expense. Your son wants to treat you accept graciously.

He must think you deserve it & well worth that amount of money.
Take some foil, or ask the assistant if they wouldn’t mind wrapping up left overs for your tea. Our local high tea place will box up leftovers ☺️

My mum is I like that, will be taken for fancy lunch/ dinner, then sit and dissect the meal & its worth, getting anxious Instead of sitting & enjoying the meal.
I think it must be a war thing, as my MIL was exactly the same.

Lots of good advice on here.
I will just add.... Don't forget to thank your lovely son and tell him how much you (and a friend) enjoyed your luxury treat.

Isn't the point of a gift that it is something you would hesitate to buy for yourself?

My mother ruins present buying by finding fault with everything my sister and I get her. She can afford things she 'needs' so we try to find treats for her but she then complains that we are too extravagant, so we rule out so many things that she would enjoy if she stopped fretting about us 'wasting' our money. The other side of that is that she is very hot on gratitude when it's the other way around, and gets upset when younger family members don't immediately shower her with thanks for anything she buys as presents for them.

I sometimes wish obligatory presents (eg birthday and Christmas) would go out of fashion, as they always seem to come with so much baggage. If people bought things when they saw them and thought of someone, instead of getting sucked in to all the 'bothering with' and showing 'gratitude' that can ruin it all it might mean a lot more.

Crossstitchfan

Cabbie21

I love getting an afternoon tea voucher as a gift. The downside is it messes up the day’s routine meal arrangements. The last one we were able to use it at lunchtime, which made better sense of our day.

Messes up your day?? Rather ungrateful comment, I think. How would your son feel if he knew you felt that way?
It’s quite simple - on afternoon tea day, you have a slightly later breakfast and no lunch. That means you’ll be hungry by the time you eat.
You are lucky to have such a thoughtful and generous son and I can’t believe you can feel the way you do about this gift.

I didn’t say it messes up my day. It messes up my day’s intake of food to eat at 3pm.
I am not the OP, but actually it was my son and his wife who gave me this voucher. His wife suggested that my son come with me, as the previous year I had taken her with me. He was really pleased to be asked and it was by mutual agreement that we went at lunchtime for the reasons stated. We walked it off round the grounds afterwards.

Please don’t jump to conclusions. There was no ingratitude.

I had an early small breakfast and didn’t want anything else to eat until about 8 pm, even though we didn’t eat it all and took the leftovers home in a box. We ordered one sweet, one savoury to share, so there were fewer cakes. It was lovely.

DD paid for afternoon tea for me on my birthday. There were four of us there, it was lovely, delicious sandwiches, cakes and glasses of fizz, sitting in a lovely garden.

It's a treat - enjoy it!

I like an occasional afternoon tea. I wouldn't bother making all the different things at once, so they are a treat, and are almost always for two, so you get to eat them in company, which is an added bonus.

We find it way too much food so take a lunchbox - eat what we want and pack up the rest and take it home for later. Hope you enjoy it.

My daughter has bought me one for us one Mother’s Day and we had a lovely time together and another time for me and two friends for a birthday and my son has also arrange one for my 80th with other family members who paid for themselves as he’s in NZ and can’t be with me my youngest always sends me flowers as they all live overseas.
Although it’s not what you would obviously chose it has been bought with thought and love

I can understand if you were buying it yourself SuzieQue and aren’t over flush with money but when it’s given you as a gift how can you not accept it in the way it’s been given with love and thought
Enjoy your tea with a friend or a husband (if you have one)
I bet you wish you hadn’t started this you seem to be the only one not happy with this present

I wasn't sure when No. 1 son gave us a voucher, but several more afternoon teas later, I really enjoy them. Wear a nice dress and don't forget to crook your little finger.

One good thing about an afternoon tea is that if you go with your DH you probs won’t have to cook that day. You will both be so full that you can give the kitchen a rest.

Your son clearly feels you deserve a treat and I’m sure that’s true! Go ahead and enjoy it.
As for the comment about “messing up the day” it’s ridiculous. Anyway you can get round this. My DH has a strict eating routine after gastric surgery. We booked an afternoon tea at lunchtime and it was perfect. Go with the flow.

I'm with you OP. I usually get one for somewhere miles away and I could have a nice tea locally for half the price. I'm teetotal so the prosecco isn't for me. To me it seems like a present that hasn't involved much thought.

You can take the uneaten stuff away with you. Ask for it to be boxed up and share it with someone else

NotAGran55

I hope you accepted the gift with good grace Suzieque66, and didn’t show your ungrateful attitude to your son.

The trouble with that is they then think that's an easy thing to get mum and you have to go through the oh how lovely pantomime over and over again and once on that path you can't really backtrack.

I personally think that good value for two people, to be waited on for a special occasion with the chance to relax and enjoy the company of a chosen friend to enjoy the experience with and as others have pointed out, take anything left over home with you (to give to all the other people you obviously think you should be able to go with!)

You come across as a right misery.

You could always give it to me, please.
I would appreciate it ☕️