I hate being 60

I cried the day I woke on my 60th no idea why just felt it's all over now.. m I am now 80 and bless each day I wake up and all is working ..aches pains bad knees heart tablets..but I am still here able to see my great grandchildren arrive.my mum died at 62 so I bless each day 🙏 I am here ...enjoy what you can.

Not quite sure what you think “the younger ones” are doing that you can’t do at 60.

You can do all that they are doing and more because you have the freedom now from having to go to work 👏

Well said 🫶

Better than the alternative.

Thanks tsm for starting this thread but also to others.
Life is not a competition not even with yourself, but we get judged and we judge others.

We are constantly asked our age and put in categories accordingly. Everytime I fill in a form or join a website or give a review there's that box to fill in.

Have you noticed when there's a report of a crime, the first, and sometimes only, thing we are told is the victim's age.
It's only right that we shouldn't know the gender, nationality, height, colour in these sensitive times but we can't hide age.

Thanks, fancythat. We are waiting for something, I suppose.
But it's best not to dwell on it but just try to get the best out of every day we have left. I never thought I would live this long after retirement, so I regard it as a bonus.
Well, yes, GN is mainly for older people, although any age is welcome. Other sites are available, but to me GN is the best.
Like I said, you do get used to it. I fully accepted ages ago that
I am old. I think we fight against it at first.

❤️

Thankyou so much to all you posters, just the tonic I need.
I think my mindset needs a reboot and to stop putting so much pressure on myself.
I guess I feel sad as I am very young at heart, and feel I no longer belong in that world ( of the younger ones ) and have to carve myself out a life with the older ones.
But, so many people don’t have the privilege of living to 60 and beyond, so we are still here and need to enjoy what we have😊

StripeyGran

There are those who's cup has had big holes drilled in the bottom too.

I've known people who have had the most awful holes drilled in the bottom of their cups but somehow they came through it and managed to embrace what was still good in life.

That's perhaps what being a cup half full person means?

I think part of it all maybe, well to me anyway, it is like waiting for something. I never do well with that.
So waiting to be old[which is how my age feels to me], is the same as that.
Just had my lightbulb moment!

Thank you henetha.

henetha

I wasn't happy about being 60, I well remember. But you do get used to being old. I'm 88 now and there are so many things I can't do. But most days, unless I'm feeling really down, I still find joy in the things I can still do .

I am glad you said you get used to it.

I am not there yet I guess[in age or emotionally], but fast approaching.

I know someone past 90. She said she never felt old or even thought about it, until 91 or 92.

I sometimes think this forum does not help me.
The subject of age or things to do with it, is daily.
But I cant find a better forum to be on presently.

Plus which, the brickbats, dingbats or whatever it is called of posters[not meaning this thread], make me stronger.

David49

There are those who’s cup is half full and others it is half empty, if you are 60+ with good health whatever wealth level you are there is lots you can do “IF” you make the effort.

You may have 30 yrs in front of you do all the things you couldn’t when you were working or child rearing, if you husband doesn’t want to join you leave him at home do things with friends. Many women find “travel buddies” even if they don’t see each other much otherwise it’s someone familar to go places with.

There are no excuses at 60, 70 or even 80 if you have good health.

Yes! Completely agree

I’m happy to be almost 67, as I’m retired. My DH will be 70 tomorrow.

Although both of us have much declined health we try hard to be positive and appreciate what we have and can do. There’s lots of things we wish we had done but there’s also lots we have done and remember fondly.

Live for today

StripeyGran

There are those who's cup has had big holes drilled in the bottom too.

Yes but the OP does not appear to be one of those

There are those who's cup has had big holes drilled in the bottom too.

There are those who’s cup is half full and others it is half empty, if you are 60+ with good health whatever wealth level you are there is lots you can do “IF” you make the effort.

You may have 30 yrs in front of you do all the things you couldn’t when you were working or child rearing, if you husband doesn’t want to join you leave him at home do things with friends. Many women find “travel buddies” even if they don’t see each other much otherwise it’s someone familar to go places with.

There are no excuses at 60, 70 or even 80 if you have good health.

Some great reponses here.

Why did you finish work? You must have had some idea of what you would do when your working life was over- but you have so much left to give so why not go back to work?

My sister finished work far too early and became old overnight- I am four years older but people think she is older than me. Not so much in looks but in attitude.

Her DH has become the same since he finished work- the pair of them are like Darby and Joan, although he is much older than her and I think that makes the difference.

She 'tuts' when I tell her some of the things I've been doing, as if I am expected to behave in a certain way now I'm 'old.'

If I was you I would find something of service to do for others and throw away the tick list.

What you get out of life is what you put in.

Lovely photo multicolourswapshop

Very interesting reading all these ideas and experiences.

I do think it's harder to be up beat once the aches and pains set in. And the dreaded Black Dog refuses to stay in his kennel.

Sorry for your situation Luckygirl.

I’ll be 77 yrs young this year and yes it’s really only a number. I get lots of compliments because I look so much younger. Time is running by very fast and I’m doing my best to live well, eat well and spend all the money I have - you can’t take it with you

Me too ! 😊

At 80 I never ever think of myself as elderly I don’t feel that name fits me at all I know I m lucky I m still very strong and able and pretty fit I know I work harder than, many young people my work is my enjoyment as is my garden my allotment and my happy place the beach and sea
I’m not stupid and I know there are differences I feel the cold more I haven’t quite as much confidence todo new things, occassional aches or pains but I can honestly say I enjoy it even when I m just piddling around doing nothing much
I haven’t had any age that I ve disliked although I ve had MANY downs as well as ups in my life
AT 60 I was having a ball after two divorces and happily very happily single
Some people are old at 30 and some like my cousin are young at 100

I wasn't happy about being 60, I well remember. But you do get used to being old. I'm 88 now and there are so many things I can't do. But most days, unless I'm feeling really down, I still find joy in the things I can still do .

I lost my mum 7 years ago- then split with my partner of 21 years. Then my dog got diabetes and I became tied to the clock as his carer.
At the same time, I helped with sibling grandchildren when my young grandson endured cancer treatment. Then I had my other daughter’s young children for a month when she had a breakdown. Then I ran my brother to several cancer appointments for months on end until he passed away.

Although I was extremely tied, I set up my own over 60’s group during this time. I’ve made some very close friends.

Finally, I lost my dear little dog in August and it hurt badly.
But I got my freedom back:

I’ve just come back from a fortnight abroad with one of my friends and I’m looking forward to the next one. I have often holidayed alone and have no qualms about doing that again.
I’ve got my social life back and I’m making plans to go out socialising as often as possible.
I’m coming up 70 but I’m making up for lost time. Start making a life for yourself!

Well I hate being 77 with my heart packing up. .....