I hate being 60

Just wait until you’re 70!
I suspect that you don’t have any sense of purpose to your life despite having money etc?
I retired 8 years ago, I’m nearly 72 and have plenty of interests and things to do, nothing exotic or exciting just hobbies, my dogs and being able to do whatever I like within reason as despite having poor health.
My frenetic working life wrecked me, being able to do what I want, whenever I like is priceless.
Do you have any hobbies or interests L

Can you get on with organising the things you do want to do?
Would your partner stay at home or tag along?
If they would rather stay at home you need to just get out there and enjoy things alone!

Thinking of you

I think you will feel better with things to do... and to look forward to.

I wish I was 60!

😄😄 wait until you are 80.

Actually life is full of surprises at 80.

Every morning I wake up, check everything is sort of working - think - I’m still here and off I go to enjoy my day.

Please, please enjoy being 60. You are still young at 60. Life is for living.
I nursed my husband through my 50's till I was 62. Then he died.
That was 20 years ago. Other deeply sad events have come into my life since then, but I still enjoy my life.
I'm thankful to be as fit and well as I can be at the age of 82.
Currently I am in the process of moving house and county. All very stressful, but I'm projecting my thoughts on enjoying my new home and new life.
I hope your mood lifts so that you can rejoice in just being alive.

I find the time after 60, a strange time.
Did not really hit me until about 62.
Friends about the same age are saying the same thing.

Some are going around ticking boxes.
I dont feel that urge yet. But not ruling it out.

Difficult one - given you can't think "Oh great - at least 60 means I've retired now. Big plus" or my long in mind project was "Get a degree to prove I can - Open University then" (no point now loads of other people have got "degrees" too).

So - maybe there's some new interest that could be quite a major thing for you that you could take up? It does depend, to some extent, imo what part of the country you are in.
I've come from a nice academic little city in Devon - so there's lots of academic type stuff going on somewhere like that and I miss knowing that outlook is frequent/stuff is going on if I want it. I'm now in West Wales and it's very very different - but I've been able to get into gardening/trying to grow foods etc and there are quite a few people here that go in for that/at least understand that and a bit of food-swopping goes on with the nicer neighbours I have. Creative interests major here - not something I'm interested in personally - but a lot of people here are and so they find like minds and quite a high standard of stuff too. Even most of the "amateurs" here are turning out some pretty professional level stuff.

In my academic city - I was well used to "cite the proof...where are the facts?" way of thinking and do understand that way of thinking well/agree with it to a large extent and it was possible to get voluntary work (and I did loads of that). I can't keep any voluntary work here - that's become clear and that is a downside!!!!. But a plus side of this area I'm in now is I can say about more esoteric/New Age type issues and will see a noticeable number of people agreeing with me or coming up with tales. I would never in a million years be able to say to a nearby neighbour back in an academic city of "Oh - I've had someone in to clear a negative energy line from my house" and he just shrugged and went "Oh yeah....there is" and was sorta shrugging in agreement.

So - does the area of the country you are in specialise in/be more au fait with certain interests etc than others and, if so, is that something you could resonate with?

Though I must admit = the main advantage to being over my own retirement age (60) and having done so is how I can think "Thank goodness.....whew...I've been able to drop that horrible horrible job I had to do for years latterly". If you've had a really god-awful job = it is an enormous relief to no longer have to do it (especially if you had to fight hard to hang onto it - despite loathing it - as other options would have been even worse).

Enjoy your freedom...

I am also 82, and the months are flying past. At 60, I gave up my stressful full-time job and found three part-time ones. I had paid off my mortgage (London) and needed to top up my then non-existent savings.

I met a lady at one of my employment places. We are now good friends, email regularly, and meet up for coffee.

Er, 76 here….
60 is Spring Chicken territory, to me anyway…

Must say I’m not looking forward to 80 - now that really does sound old….
But as long as I’m still reasonably fit and mobile - and in possession of a full set of marbles…
Very lucky so far, I know.

At 60 I was travelling around the world. Don’t let these years of no work and good health go to waste in wishing things were different.

If you’re husband doesn’t want to do stuff, think about what you want to do and do it! It’s up to you to make your life what you want. 🙂

Whitewavemark2

😄😄 wait until you are 80.

Actually life is full of surprises at 80.

Every morning I wake up, check everything is sort of working - think - I’m still here and off I go to enjoy my day.

😁

And think "I'm still here!"

I never imagined I would live as long as I have. If I had known, I would have studied for a career ready for when my children grew up. I wanted to be a stay at home mum and that's what I did, but I should have made plans for life after motherhood.

I was great when I was 60. I could do whatever I wanted - gardening, decorating, travelling, visiting art galleries, museums. Since I have been 80 four years ago. I have been so restricted due to falls and other problems. Make the most of being 60. You are in your prime.

You're still youngish at 60, kiddo.
We all feel a bit nearer the edge of the cliff but it doesn't pay to depress yourself thinking about it.
Live in the present and make the most of your health and strength while you have it.
I agree with posters who have said that you should organise things that you want to do if your partner won't join in.
Perhaps join clubs or organisations where you might find new friends .
Good luck

At 61 you are still young enough to travel solo and enjoy doing the things you want to do. I have always felt that being one of a partnership is limiting because there is a danger you will lack confidence uness they are with you. Then when they die you sit about like a broken clock with the main spring gone.

I retired at 60 from employed work, went into consultancy and began a side hustle in antiques which is a nice little earner now. Fortunately I dont have a partner or children to consider. I always said when I retired I would get up and go to bed when I liked. Ive always been a night owl.

Last night I had a relative round for a meal. After he left went to bed at 9pm then got up at 3 am to facetime with one of my international colleagues. We are working on a projhect together. I love being up and doing when everyone else is asleep. It gives me a sense of power and wellbeing as though I am doing something I could not do if I still had a 9-5 job.

Physically my mobility is poor and I have painful arthritis but at 81 I am making the best of all the opportunities.

What did Doris Day say?
The trouble with middle age is that you soon grow out of it.
You are one of our young'uns, and look how lively we all are on this forum.

Health is indeed another angle on this.

I read somewhere recently that people usually have 2 or 3 points in life at which their health takes a "dive downwards". At 72 I'm inclined to believe them - as my own health feels like it's done a "downwards dive" at around 69 or so (though it's all very difficult to disentangle from the fact it could be Covid that caused left ear deafness and loss of sense of smell about then). I think other things that happened around that time are probably not Covid-related and am working on them.

So - be aware that your body might decide to do a "health dive" and then you'll be having to spend time/money trying to figure out what it's done and putting it right as far as possible. People do vary - and a couple of friends of mine have reported their fathers being pretty okay until around 90 - and one of them even went off on a world cruise with his own father at around that sort of age.

So your body might start playing-up or might not in a couple of years or so time....and you need to get in anything visibly more "physical" - in case your body stops you later on.

I know exactly how you feel.
I’ve just turned 62 & feel so old.
The best of everything is behind me, all I’ve got to look forward to is Ill heath & death.
I miss my kids being little. I miss striving for a better life, working hard to provide for them.
I miss the ‘hungry years’. ( as the song goes)
I actually think I’m depressed about it all tbh.

Crikey - sorry op, I’m not much help am I!

I wasn't a granny till I was 64, we were both retired by then and could visit our granddaughter, 300miles away, stayed for a week, and loved it. it was good just being able to do what we wanted at any time. because we were always up early when we worked, I felt guilty for a while having a lie in...but I got over that..now we're both over 80 and quite content to be home as we both have athritis, knees hands and feet, so do the things you want to while you still can, and enjoy the rest of your life

60 for me was fine,72 now and 70 was the one that stopped in my tracks really and started to think about how long I’ve got left what my health will be like.
I am quite healthy at the moment (as far as I know )I still work part-time in a high dementia care home which gives me some purpose
My youngest son is in the process of buying a house and moving out. I took money out of my house so he could have a good deposit. Get a nice house with his girlfriend but it has hit me hard, better now but the thought of him not being here has really Affected me. Is totally ridiculous, cause he’s only getting a house in the same town but can’t control feelings I suppose..
He is 32 and now is the time and I just thank goodness I have the way of it all to give him a good deposit and wish him and his girlfriend well which I really do,…

I’ve just turned 62 & feel so old.
The best of everything is behind me, all I’ve got to look forward to is Ill heath & death.

Good grief!

Like pably, I didn't become a Granny until I was older (nearly 63) and we've visited family overseas, gone to places I'd never visited before, one of them I'd wanted to visit since I was 11!
Took up new hobbies, joined new groups.

so do the things you want to while you still can, and enjoy the rest of your life
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