I hate being 60

Davida1968

One of my relatives would say: "What's the alternative....?"

All of mine would say it 😄

Crossstitchfan

Thanks Oreo!
I feel so much better now that you’ve confirmed that, at 80, I’m elderly, a word I loathe for the picture it conjures up!! ☠️

😂😜You’re welcome.

I still have the photo of me at 60 on my bus pass which was the best present ever.
I have travelled the length and breadth of Scotland on it.

My 60s were also the years when most of my DGC were being born. I have 7 now and that's me lot!

My 70s haven't been quite so wonderful what with losing DH after a rather long illness and plenty of friends too.

But I'm learning a new language (Gaelic) I have been to NZ to stay with DS, on my own.

I have a new hip and 2 new eyes after operations.
I still make pottery and exhibit it.

I am still very busy and life is full.
I've just this minute booked theatre tickets for Saturday night and I'm making plans to go by bus and ferry to stay with a dear friend who has retired to the Western Isles.
There ain't enough hours in the day. I'm 77.

Ofcourse there are times when getting older isn't much fun but as long as we keep as healthy as possible there's lots to enjoy.

I wish Franski - ie re no pressure to even try being beautiful.

I was never beautiful or pretty - but I did find out how to be attractive and I miss that and so I'm blowed if I could even tell you the last time I looked in a mirror (as I don't recognise myself). Even though I basically pretty much officially terminated my "dating" back in my 50's (due to many mens wish to have a higher-rated woman than they are themselves so to say - which is not good from a womans pov) at 60 I think people tend to still be fairly recognisable - but at my early 70's it's definitely "Who is she?" if I do catch a glimpse of myself. I so envy the occasional woman still looking pretty good in her 70's - and wonder how much that cost ....

My take is that the 70's are a sort of "in between decade".....and have a very varied mix of feelings about it if I reach 80.

Honestly 60 is great, and I am not rich and not going on fab holidays or living it up. But somehow you get to your 6th decade, menopause behind, no pressure any more to even try being beautiful. You can relax into who you are and still young enough to really take pleasure in all the things you never noticed or had time for. I am loving it. I think 80 is when old age starts proper!!

Please get out and about. I traveled easily when I was 60. Today over 75 I am a bit worried about health insurance if I leave the EU, so I just visit EU cities for 5 days at a time. Otherwise, join local clubs and walk everyday to keep healthy. Take advantage of only being 60. I still work at the local townhall ‘doing’ English conversation groups, I can’t call it work.

What person in their right mind would wish to wallow in misery and worry?

We are allowed our feelings, we are permitted to throw them out here and seek kindred spirits.

We are allowed to feel unwell, worried about winter, disappointed with family and so on.

I know I was kidding myself but I thought of myself as middle aged until 70, then decided I was later middle age and stopped thinking about it until I was 77 this year, when I had to accept I am elderly. If I say out loud that I am 77 I think I am talking about someone else, it can’t be me, can it? The 60 s party girl? Yes it can.

I keep busy, joined u3A, love walking with two different groups, started to paint, not very well, and enjoy the garden. Lunches out with friends are lovely though the conversation tends to focus a little too much on health issues but luckily I am fairly fit at present, so to me 60 is prime, don’t waste time worrying , you are still young enough to take up new hobbies, make new friends because we all know the alternative….
I wish I was still in my 60 s, I would definitely have travelled more.
Enjoy, enjoy and if your husband isn’t bothered then join things on your own as I did. I have met so many pleasant people over the last few years. Life is good.

When my first child was born, my father was in his mid-60s. He felt he was too young to be a grandfather.

Whitewavemark2 Same age as you and my thoughts exactly. 60!!!! My youth

Kandinsky

Thank you Wyllow3
It’s actually really uplifting & inspiring to read posts from women 10/15/20 years older than me still really enjoying full & active lives.

I feel just the same Kandinsky

You'll get there x

And please, can any hint of you are wallowing in it be kept out of this?

People feel what they feeling.... you cannot just "switch" out of feelings just because someone else thinks you can or should

Lots of great encouraging oldie posts here, love it WWM and similar.

Off course, unless there is something compelling going on, and tbh, even if there is, living life in the moment is the fullest way we can life life

..its just that I'm still trying to learn how to do it!

(I'm 74 and just beginning to feel frustrated I cant do this or that like I used to, but OTOH...I think maybe I treasure family, and the little kindnesses of others that make life go round, more than I used to?

Thank you Wyllow3
It’s actually really uplifting & inspiring to read posts from women 10/15/20 years older than me still really enjoying full & active lives.

Good heavens! I can hardly remember being sixty. I’m 85 now, brain still very active, body not so much - but functioning. Make the most of being only 60.

I turned 63 recently and tbh, the years since I turned 60 have been tough. My dad and my younger brother died within a few months of each other, my step-son's marriage broke up and I seemed to spend more time at the doctor's than I ever have in my life. I looked after my dad for 12 months, negotiating Social Services, the GP, community nursing etc. Then of course I was co-executor of his estate afterwards. I thought the stress would never end.

Through it all, my partner made sure we had things to feel positive about. We love music so we went to concerts, I met up with my friends as often as possible and we roped in other members of the family to keep an eye on my dad so we could have a couple of holidays.

I now have more optimism about the future. I'm grateful for every day and I'm focusing on sorting my own health out so I can travel and manage without painkillers.

If you can't figure out who you are or where you are, try writing your thoughts down in a journal. It helps to get all your feelings down on paper and you can put things into perspective. Having a sick parent is stressful and you need an outlet for your emotions. It only takes a few minutes a day to jot some thoughts down and you can use the time to figure out what you want to do with the next chapter of your life.

Kandinsky

I know exactly how you feel.
I’ve just turned 62 & feel so old.
The best of everything is behind me, all I’ve got to look forward to is Ill heath & death.
I miss my kids being little. I miss striving for a better life, working hard to provide for them.
I miss the ‘hungry years’. ( as the song goes)
I actually think I’m depressed about it all tbh.

Truly, those feelings are "for the now". Life crisis feelings can happen at all sorts of ages and "this too, will pass". Yes, it does sound like depression, if it keeps on find a bit of help.

Yes, your 60’s is a difficult age.
You’re not ‘old old’ but you’re also well past your prime.
Jobs are almost impossible to come by, even though we don’t get our state pensions until we’re 67. It’s a difficult age to ‘make new friends’ ( I actually can’t be bothered to put in the effort for that now anyway )
Plus I find most people quite boring & irritating - & whilst I might have put up with that when I was younger ( school mum friends etc ) I have no pressure to do that now.

60 seems so young to be having these feelings wait till you turn 80 and then you ll really know how it feels
I don’t feel 80 and often very often forget I am but in reality I don’t probably have that many years left where as you tsm have 20 or 30 years to go
Forget your age and live

60? Flipping heck tsm 106, that is young.

I got to Everest Base Camp at 67, please make the most of your younger years while you can as one never knows what is around the corner.

Thanks Oreo!
I feel so much better now that you’ve confirmed that, at 80, I’m elderly, a word I loathe for the picture it conjures up!! ☠️

Kandinsky
I’ve just turned 62 & feel so old. The best of everything is behind me, all I’ve got to look forward to is Ill heath & death

Only because you think it is.
You don’t say you are in poor health now so I assume you’re reasonably fit and healthy.
We do have some control over our own health - barring being diagnosed with a life-limiting condition, you can reduce your risk of cardiovascular disease, osteoarthritis & even some, though not all, cancers with a healthy diet, regular exercise & a good social life.
A good friend’s mother was fond of saying “enjoy every minute, it will never come again.” That’s my motto now and I’m grateful for every day I have.

Yup! Variations on "I've got a great life/you aren't old/ join things"

Whitewavemark2

😄😄 wait until you are 80.

Actually life is full of surprises at 80.

Every morning I wake up, check everything is sort of working - think - I’m still here and off I go to enjoy my day.

FABULOUS! Whitewavemark2 😎

Think being 60 is quite difficult as one is getting older in the work place ans socially but not yet pension age or freedom pass age.
Life is always a question of choices and plans.
Plan something fun if possible

One of my relatives would say: "What's the alternative....?"