I saw a GP for painful hands, referred to physio, who took one look and said I cannot give you any exercises, they would be too painful for you. Knowing what the waits were like I asked for a private referral to a specialist hand surgeon. Lovely chap, showed me the x-rays, no cartilage left at all, joints were just bone rubbing on bone. He recommended replacing two PIP (finger) joints, the worst ones, one in forefinger and one in ring finger.
I had those done 16 months ago, and am now virtually pain free in that hand, only pain when something knocks against one of the other fingers. Excellent movement and have got my strength back in that hand.
I am now in trouble in the other hand, at the base of my thumb. On Friday I am going in to have two joint replacements there. Life is now more complicated in that I am a 24/7 carer for my husband, who has had a bleed on the brain, and therefore am having to employ a live in carer to look after him as I won't be able to, and in fact will need someone to look after me.
I would say, if you are in a lot of pain, don't hesitate to opt for surgery, it can transform your life, especially if you are having to haul your husband around on a transfer stand!