Black Dogs 29

Wyllow Im so glad for you that you wont need to face Mr A any more in your meetings. Im sure the result must be down to you working so hard - all that writing and making sure everyone had the facts. Its been uphill going for a long time , and I know the incident will be always there for you but this is great news.
I remember you saying your 'serious consultant' sis put a silly voice on for the dog- Im afraid I do it too!
Oh its been really hot hasn't it- not weather for cycling in.
HVDY Oh no , the fox dug up pet rat. Sounds horrible. Hope he doesnt find any more! Poor lady with the throat cancer - she must like your visits and chats. What an awful lot shes had to deal with.
DH's CT not until July but nearly there now arent we.
EllieAnne I see you arent quite as far up north . I hope Sunday will be good for you. Will you be going to church?Hope you see a friend there.
We are constantly pulling up weeds ,it must be the wet weather.
Scaredycat Oh dear , hope you can find a cool spot tonight - air conditioning would be nice. Enjoy yourself though - must be so nice to have a wide family who see each other so much.
We do have a beach withing walking distance( for some- about 3mls then 3 back) . We drive to one 7mls away as it has long paved area right next to the sandy beach.
Doodle Your wrist must look really painful even if it isnt! Ooh its sweltering where you are. You'll be like a boiled lobster in the theatre- hope at least the theatre production is interesting .

Woke feeling very low today . Had nightmare about dragging a victim of a bad knife assault over the ground to a hospital a couple of miles away!
DH has been so bad with his pain today so we've really just been doing bits of tidying indoors , after we picked up a few things in M&S .

Take care all and wishing you a peaceful night. Xx

Hi all
EllieAnne- Do hope,you see the sun soon. We could do with a bit of your rain it’s so hot,and tiring.
Yes our town like yours ha changed so much. It was a nice county town but now it’s full of awful barbers,nail bars , shops full of dross etc.
SweetPeaSue- oh your DH is still suffering with constant discomfort. Must be nice for him to have Fluffball for
distraction.
I like Doodle live down South and it really is uncomfortable at the moment. I,m dreading going to the party and having to dress up and be with lots of people.
Your pics of Fluffball are so sweet- you really do have the best of both worlds with her. Is your Beach within walking distance?
Doodle- It would be nice to be a young thing sometimes!! Although when I look at our large family - of which I am the oldest I do feel proud and they bring much joy.
Your hair sounds lovely- is it straight or curly?
Like you we enjoy playing i pad games. I tell myself it’s to keep my mind active but really I just love them.
HVDY- Hope you all enjoy your family BBQ. It’s perfect weather for one isn’t it.
Our GDs are 40,38,33,31,25 and 23. It only seems a minute since the eldest was born. Happy Birthday to your GD too.
Poor lady who you visit. What a difficult life she lives so uncomfortable and restricting.
Oh crumbs !! We have 4 cats buried in ours - so far they rest undisturbed but there is a fox - but so far so good.
Wyllow- well that’s a result re Mr A. It should help you not having that continually chipping away at you.You can go to your meetings in peace and the other events some one else can sort out. Not worth dwelling on .
Glad the dress was a success and the meeting with nice Ex.
It’s good you are aware of the danger of alcohol excess but you must enjoy life though. What is the saying - “Everything in moderation” except of course cake,chocolate and other goodies😀
Well I,ve washed my hair ready for the party . We have to be ready for 6!! It’s so warm I can feel it getting damp aoround my forehead already😩
Love to all and as always thinking of all BDs past and present.

Wyllow We've got quite a pet cemetery. Three rats, 6 gerbils, three cats, and a rabbit. Yes, my friend and I don't buy anything from that particular garden centre as everything there is so dear - I got my bedding plants from Morrisons. What did you drink last night? An occasional evening of feeling cheerfully drunk is fine. I can see that it would affect your meds to do it too often.

It's warm here, so the washing dried quickly. I've done some cleaning, and DH went shopping. Seeing the family at Son1's later, so that'll be good. Hope everyone's ok x

I mean I got up at 10am. I had better stop attempting to use my brain.

Not a lot has happened today I got up at 10pm as I was slightly drunk last night and dancing around at 1am to classic FM.

I've written to the nice local safeguarded hoping for a "musing quakerly chat" nothing heavy as I had been told it could be possible, and did some washing: I do feel lighter today but have to watch the alcohol (crosses with meds and creates a new dependency)

But washing out and no gym or bike as I'd planned just hanging out as its hot. How are people coping with this heat, I cant imagine in a theatre without a fan.

I hope you have a lovely day tomorrow, Scaredycat. Please report back. Was there birthday cake...

I loved those photos, Sweetpeasue. Fluffball looks a bit like my sisters cuddly dog. So cute. I'm glad to see you were at the seaside.

*EllieAnne and Doodle. I count myself very lucky when I read about your towns. Living in a city, but non the edge of it near lovely countryside, I do have the best of both worlds. it is a very alive and vibrant city with lots of different "local" centres that thrive. I do have to drive to my Costa (unless I get active on my bike again and cope with the Hill) and there are some areas which are sort of losing their heart a bit, but really, very few. The actual City Centre isn't what it was but that doesn't matter becuase there are thriving local centres.

The burnt orange dress had a very successful outing indeed and it was good to talk with Ex1.

Will join you in a mass paper shred, EllieAnnebut I have been mega avoiding it as I have a tiny shredder and a big black bag of paper. I do hope Sunday brings sun.

Oh dear....werent there quite a few burials there?

Well, MrA is not in my meeting, but has yet to be worked out as regards other local meetings and especially big joint events, of which there are a few I would like to go to when I get some energy back. I don't deserve to be confined only to my meeting like a prisoner, thats where we were back in the autumn, isn't it? But as I say, to be worked out.
However, it is effectively - I hope something that will shake him up a bit.
The original event still comes back, and its maybe only time that can heal that.

Regarding you and friend at the garden centre...perhaps its just as well you talk non stop (sounds like me with friend P)...because the plant and other temptations at a garden centre are very strong, and tough on the debit card! 😳

ScaredyCat My friend and I never look at plants or anything in the garden centre! We spend all our time talking, non-stop . Fancy you having a 40-year-old GD - you don't seem old enough. Hope you have a lovely time. Our GD1 will be 15 tomorrow. Some of her friends and all our family are going there for a BBQ. It's been so humid today, not pleasant.

EllieAnne You're keeping busy and getting your house sorted out (I need to clear some cupboards out). Hope the weather improves for you soon. It's been 26 and muggy here.

SweetpeaSue My friend and I had coffee and cake. Sorry your husband is having all that pain. When does he have the CT? Fluffball is adorable. It must be great to live near a beach.

Doodle The man's wife doesn't see anyone. She can't eat food, as she had extensive surgery on her throat and tongue (had it all rebuilt, etc.) for cancer, 11 years ago, and has lived on FortiSips and yoghurts ever since. She's (obviously) very thin, about 6 stone. Poor woman. I hope you've got a handheld fan of some kind to use at the theatre tomorrow. I like warm weather, but not this humidity.

Wyllow3 That's an excellent outcome. Now you'll be able to attend the Quaker meetings without the fear of seeing him.

DH discovered a big hole at the bottom of the garden - Foxy had dug up one of Son1's rats that was buried there. . It's gone in the rubbish to the tip. Hope everyone has a good rest tonight x

So tired, a brief pop in, and I have read all.

Rotten rain! Unfair!

am rather spaced out on extra meds so will be brief and catch up properly tomorrow.

MrA has been banned from meetings. No time limit Is to be told today.

Oh my would I like to have been a fly on the wall. I'm only human.

Not a lot else got discussed as nice lady from HQ was not there, there were stand-ins who are not Safeguarding specialists and had not read my briefing.

But Quaker L (the sensible one who isn't particularly keen on MrA) did give me enough feedback after me agonising a bit on paucity of feedback for the time being.

It is uncertain who MrA's 'supporters" are but they do not seem significant and someone from Safeguarding is going to come and talk to our whoever meeting to explain why MrA isnt coming or it may be veiled language to not ID him but thats not my problem as enough will guess.

She hinted I may be able to talk informally a sort of debriefing with one of our local Safeguarders M who is kind tho not a leader but thats enough just to help me on my way.

I have also asked for some resources to have a break away, a few days/seaside just to be fed and watered and not to have to take care of myself for a few days. That will go via M.

No more MrA unless he.....? Well, that not my problem, is it?

Ellie Anne like you our town is full of empty shops and coffe places. No where to buy clothes or shoes.
Sweetpeasue wrist doesn’t hurt. It’s healing quite well in fact although a lovely shade of purple. You’re right I am far south and it’s so hot here I’ve got doors and windows open and two fans on. Been a very hot day. Tomorrow I’m going to a theatre that doesn’t have air conditioning, Phew!
I do envy your proximity to a beach and the sea.
Scaredycat I have thick hair, Always have. I have to have it layered as there’s so much of it otherwise. It takes ages to dry but just because it’s thick doesn’t mean it doesn’t get frizzy of fly away. It does that too.
Can’t imagine you with a 40 year old DGD. I still think of you as some young thing. You’re so youthful in your approach to life. Hope your have a wonderful time with the family.
HVDY it’s good to chat to different people. Nice of you to sit with that man’s wife when you take him home. I bet she looks forward to your visits if she doesn’t get out much. Your day centre sounds a fun place.
Ellie Anne I play lots of games on the iPad and enjoy them. Probably spend at least an hour at night playing games. It’s a good way to pass the time. Love your cross stitch, beautiful.
Wyllow I hope this is all sorted soon with Mr A. That’s an interesting bit of news you just found out. Glad you’re meeting up with your Ex have a lovely time at the gardens.

Sweet pea sue I’m not as far north as Argyle.
Actually in Ayrshire. The forecast says maybe better on Sunday. The weeds are enjoying the rain.
Wyllow I never find anything good in the charity shops now. We have a hospice one, a cancer research,Bernardo’s, Marie curie ans two local ones. Our town used to have good shops but now so many nail bars and empty shops.

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Fluffball waiting for stick to ne thrown.

EllieAnne You don't sound much with the housework( son's too) gardening, walking, driving, choir and church. Youve so many talents and the crosstitch picture is lovely. Im sure the person receiving it will love it. Not sure your exact location but I looked it up and if its nr Argyll you might be in for a sunny weekend - I hope so.
HVDY We do take tiny dog treats out on walks to encourage obedience too. Dont give her them under the table when begging though. I think next time we'll take a chewstick to see if that helps.
Hope youve had a pleasant luch and a good natter with your friend.
Scaredycat We like a bit of supernatural too. DH has read a lot of Stephen King. I have to go careful though as I can easy have nightmares! Pets can be funny with food. Fluffball more often than not hasn't eaten her morning food when we pick her up so been told to bring some back here for lunch but I often do scrambled egg and she loves that. Son's labrador would eat anything! Yes, think if we can distract aunt with something else the goodbyes might be easier. Not always poss with a quiet lounge of mainly sleeping people!
Thanks for asking after DH. He has pain in shoulders,hips, neck arms - waiting for chest CT as constant pain in chest too. I just dont know what to do anymore. Tbh I dont think the chest pain is muscular as hes had it over a year. We'll just have to wait.
Oooh special day for your family tomorrow. Goodness a DGD of 40.
Wyllow Dont worry ,youve done everything you can with a well thought out letter to the Safeguarding people and with that addition of the email- well you cant do more really.
Great getting 2 nice blouses like that and - burnt orange? -dress. Ideal for this warm weather. Hope youve had a good catch up with your ex today.
Doodle It must be quite a nuisance not having the use of that wrist. Glad its not painful though. Hope its not been too hot where you are. I think you're right down in the south and its been so hot there. We're all a funny lot aren't we - too hot/cold/ wet/ windy - yet we're lucky really in this country. Think of you often. x

Bit of shopping this morning and Costa
then back to pick up F and take her for run on the beach.
Love to all.x

This constant rain is getting me down. Especially when down south is getting sun. It’s cold too.
Costa this morning. This afternoon I have cleared out a lot of paperwork. I just need to shred it now.
If this weather continues I will have the whole house sorted out.

Hi all
SweetPeaSue- that’s a good suggestion for a book. Nothing twee about that tale. I like Stephen King and Anne Rice too- we,ve always liked a bit of,the supernatural . I have read all the Game of thrones Books too which is my favourite series of all time.
It does sound
Ike your Aunt is settling in A bit better- we always find it’s easier to leave our friend if there’s something going on.
Great idea to take Fluffball a chew stick for her coffee break! Pets can be so annoying over food though. Our boys often just look at their food and walk off as if it was poison.
Hope DH is doing OK.
HVDY- only a minute or two blow drying for my hair as it’s so fine. Yes thick hair must be lovely . All our GDs and daughters have lovely hair - I got left out.
It is so warm here today my glasses keep steaming up. We,ve just given the boys a cold lickie each. They really don’t like the heat.
What a nice meal at the day centre- my cup of tea too. Especially sponge and custard.
Hope you,ve had a nice lunch and chat with your friend at the Gatden Centre. Did you manage to leave without a purchase?
Doodle- our pharmacy is about 20 mins walk away - a bit longer now though as I don’t walk as fast. We,ll have to go tomorrow as it was M and S today. I had some T-shirts
to,pick up - they weren’t there either- after we got home I got a text to say they were in now😩
Your poor wrist but the good thing is it’s not painful. It,ll be as good as new next week.
Cake and Church go together eh!!
EllieAnne- I don’t find it easy to sit and do nothing either. You do some nice things. Your cross stitch is beautiful.
I can’t get on with Sudoko- numbers are not my thing. I like word games and enjoy trying to beat the computer at Scrabble.
Glad you have company tomorrow- try and relax and have a good natter.
Wyllow- Ha Ha we got the coffee in anyway- good old Costas.
Yes we watched the Footie live - such a footie family. I fell asleep though as I,m a lightweight now.
Wow what a great clothes find. The shirts sound lovely. I have a reddy orangy tent with low pockets.Its like going out in your nightie.
Hope you are enjoying your time with nice Ex. It must be such a lovely place to meet up.
Nadateturbe- thinking of you.
PurplePixie- how did your trip go?

Well tomorrow is my GD1 40th Birthday so there is a big friends and family get together for her . Her DH has arranged everything and she just knows she has to Glam up for the Evening. How time flies.

Hope the weekend is kind to all.

Thanks, Doodle The things we have, as women! I'd assumed my days of being examined down there were over. Glad it's all ok though. It's good that you haven't got any pain in your wrist. Can you use it alright?

SweetpeaSue It's worth a try to have a few dog treats in your pocket when out with Fluffball. Son1's dog doesn't beg or whine, but they always have a few dog biscuits for her, so that she's included .

EllieAnne You do keep your mind active. I love that cross stitch "baby" one you're doing. Hope you have a good chat with your friend today.

Wyllow3 I give a lift to a man (then sit and chat with his wife for an hour when I take him home), and am very friendly with a couple there, although I know everyone there and talk to them all. You got some good buys yesterday. Just right for summer. Hope you have a nice lunch with your ex today, and a good old natter. I don't do Sudoku, but DH does.

Meeting my friend for lunch at our favourite garden centre. Hope everyone manages to have a decent day x

Aw that is so cute! 😊 I also admire your doing Sudoku - I cant get my brain around it. Any other Sudoku BD's?

Thank you. I just checked out - MrA will be on the sex offenders register - it never dawned on me to check the law till now - and yet he was instigating people to accuse me of invention.

You cant make it up, can you?. If only ~I'd been well and on the ball enough to pick this up earlier - or Safeguarding should. Anyway I just emailed the HQ lady - not to broadcast it to all, unless necessary to prove to others. (Exit stage right to dry hair, quietly fuming)

Nearly finished

Wyllow I used to do kits but now mainly just do cards at Christmas and special events. I’m nearly finished a baby one for someone in my bible study group.
There is a cafe connected to my church in walking distance so I go there occasionally. If I am in town it’s usually Costa or one at the beach
I hope all goes well tomorrow.

EllieAnne, I hope it goes well with the friend in Costa tomorrow.

Nice pub lunch there yesterday, HVDY. And good food for hit weather cat the day centre. The games sounded fun. Have you a special friend there, or is it generally nice?

I hope the mugginess wasnt too tiring, Scardeycat. Frustrating! Another direction could have taken you for coffee.

Have you got a nice feathered and layered cut?
That footie game must have been quite something, I only saw bits, did you watch it live?

(Brother comes a week tomorrow)

Oh, how lovely, a woodland walk, Sweetpeasue, sort on for now it’s hotter. Oh dear, the costa Fluffball training still Clearly has a way to go. I haunt read Frankenstein, I think I’ve been put off by the “reputation” and silly film versions. That is one relief as regards the squirrel.

Aunt smiled -oh…and the happier wave - may it continue, it must have warmed your heart.

You certainly drew the short straw with the rain, Ellie Anne
I’m glad you got out to the cafe - do you go to the same one? Good work on the linen cupboard. Yes, I’d be holding back on the kitchen one….you do keep your mind active, don’t you? I’m genuinely impressed. Do you do the cross stitch kits, or make it up?

Ah, it’s all about the company, Doodle. Clearly not a judgmental or competitive group, which is good.
No reason you should like Balducci, I’d just wondered. Oh dear, your arm must be grim to look at…just so relieved it’s not hurting - they must’ve got it right, hopefully.

Need to know. -what was the cake?

I had a scone today, then walked just round the corner to a posh charity shop, what a haul! Two short sleeved lose linen mix blouses, one black, one white (both needed), and a cotton mix reddy orange dress, one of those fashionable tent things with pockets and enough blow the knee to be wearable.

I am relieved this meeting is coming up at last. I known it will produce a mix of feelings, but it will be very hard for them to turn my request down, for a number of reasons: its not and end, but a reset, as there will be some who are not happy - glad I dont have to take part. Tomorrow my first Ex-that-I-get-on- with is coming over for this and that, so we’ll meet for lunch at the Bot Gardens.

Not sure when I will hear the result.

have the best night you can BD's and remembering those not in or just reading. Are you back, PurplePixie? How did it go?

I read a lot, do cross stitch, croswords, sudoku,and various word games on I pad. I can’t sit and do nothing. Even when I’m watching Tv I have to be doing something else as well.
I am ,meeting a friend in Costa tomorrow.
My clothes could do with a sort out too. And the kitchen cupboards!

EllieAnne I know what you mean about rainy weather when its every day. Bound yo get you down, especially, when you need to get out of the house. Oh you've tidied your airing cupboard, thats pricked my conscience- I really need to tidy mine. Hope the weather tomorrow is a bit better.
HVDY Do you know , I should really have thought of that - about the chewstick. She's quite strange with her own kibble dog food and seems to prefer to eat like a human! If shes not had her breakfast kibble Ive given her scrambled egg and she loves that. I think the vet advised them to just give her dog food as they'd been giving her other stuff when she didnt eat it. Very hard when its someone else's dog .
Your chicken salad at the day centre would be up my street.

ScaredyCat I would have preferred a ladder examination. I think you meant bladder, but it was my cervix. All ok, anyway. Do you have your hair blow-dried? Mine is fine and flyaway, with a tendency to get frizzy. I'd love to have thick hair. How annoying that your prescriptions weren't ready. It's been warm and sunny here, and muggy.

Wyllow3 Your draft letter will have laid out the facts about it all, and I hope they appreciate and take notice of the way it has all affected you. Best of luck, hope they do what is fair and right.

SweetpeaSue These squirrels - what a good job you managed to avoid it. Yes, I'm glad not to need any more appointments or tests. When you are at a cafe with Fluffball, and she whines, would she settle down with a chew/biscuit or toy? Glad your aunt waved you off ok when you went and didn't get distressed. Keep distracting her and telling white lies. The carers sound good. They work long hours (12, I think), something I couldn't have done.

EllieAnne Hope the weather will pick up where you are. We had torrential rain last Thursday. People around our way are moaning about it being too warm (26 degrees today).

Nice day at the day centre - chicken salad and new potatoes, then sponge and custard. Various games- skittles, darts, blow football, shuffleboard, and quizzes. Hope everyone has been ok x