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Granny1 Sun 19-Jul-15 22:05:17

hello One month from today we will, DH and I, be moving 275 miles south to be closer to DS DDiL and DGD + ? . DH having experienced the traumas of frantic cross country dashes to help MiL in need, we all decided if we were closer it would be easier for an only DS in the long term. We also wanted to move to live, have another adventure, rather than leave it till it was a move to die conveniently closer!
Business sold , house sold and now the move. It is exciting if daunting and stressful. DH bearing up well though he insists we will NEVER move again! We had a nomadic first 25 years of married life and he was particularly settled.
I have ideas for settling in quickly to a new town and making friends when you no longer have a job to go to but would value some suggestions - new house needs lots of work so that will make a good start I expect. smile

Granny1 Tue 28-Jul-15 18:04:31

Thanks SloeGinny et al. We will need to camp in the house while it is rewired etc. Trying to sort out the order for approaching it all is subject of much debate with DH. confused

downtoearth Tue 28-Jul-15 17:08:52

Lona..I can feel a faint stirring,and have a glint in me eye type of thing.....actually love pam Ayres....wonder if shes free one day..grin.

and not so much of the respectable if you don't mindgrin

merlotgran Tue 28-Jul-15 16:50:06

I remember Northwold when it was a lovely village. It had a post office and general stores, butcher and pub. The butcher delivered to where we lived in neighbouring Foulden.

They were very happy days.

Lona Tue 28-Jul-15 16:06:09

downtoearth I've only just caught up with this thread and I'm sorry that I have nothing helpful to add. But, as we spent many happy times in Lil's bar, I wanted to say that it's lovely to have you back, even if you have gone respectable now! wink
I hope you find something to fill your time. Maybe you could write smutty poems a la Pam Ayers and sell them online! grin

janerowena Tue 28-Jul-15 14:58:20

Swaffham - I drove through there the other week, it's really pretty. There's a plant nursery north of it that we love. There are decent supermarkets, too. I live on the Norfolk/Suffolk border, I can see it from my house!

I agree with what another eastangular gransnetter said - you have to be very picky when it comes to location. A typical example is the village where Gillian Shepherd lives, Northwold. Anything further from Southwold's prosperity you cannot imagine, it is really run-down and they lost their post office too, a couple of years ago. They used to have restaurants and shops, only a few years back, and it was lovely. Now it's like a ghost town and looks a little the worse for wear. I suppose it's full of people who commute, along with the poor people who retired there thinking they had a PO, restaurant and village shop.

downtoearth Tue 28-Jul-15 14:13:02

Granof11 Thank you ,and thank you to all of you who listened to my whingeing and moaning yesterday,I hope it hasn't put any of you off of your plans..moving even for the right reasons is such a huge leap of faith so I will watch this thread to see how you are all coping....dare I suggest a virtual housewarming partygrinmight be able to persuade Lil to run the bar for us for those of you who remember her,I hear she is at a loose endgrin

grandmac Tue 28-Jul-15 12:48:45

granof11 thank you for the warning! I agree with you and it does need a lot of thought. I think if the move does happen it will always be 'their' house and I will live in my 'annex/granny flat', so hopefully there will be a dividing line. Trouble is where I live now in a smallish village I have a lovely doctors surgery and dentist, an array of useful shops (including an undertaker!) and wonderful sea views so it makes it difficult to move. The bus service is dire but as I can still drive it doesn't matter at the moment. Wish I had a crystal ball!!

downtoearth I do hope you find a solution soon. flowers cupcake sunshine

Pamish Tue 28-Jul-15 11:57:04

There's always saving the world. Campaigning - local issues pop up everywhere and working with people for a common cause is very bonding. There's also political parties, many flavours to choose from. I moved five miles across London so can still see my old friends, but once I got stuck into the local campaign to save a threatened market from demolition ('regeneration') my address book filled up quickly.

Doreen5 Tue 28-Jul-15 11:52:07

Hope your move goes well. We are looking forward to moving to a new house 20 miles away and just 10 minutes walk from our daughter and family. Very excited as we've been in same house for over 30 years and have never moved into new one. On the edge of the village but also minutes from shops and church. Not downsizing as seeing this move as an investment.

SloeGinny Tue 28-Jul-15 08:57:16

The new house sounds great Granny1, fingers crossed everything goes through in time for a seamless move. Yes, the process should be simpler - or at least quicker!

I know just what you mean about the difference in house prices, the South East is scary, but going for a doer-upper is a good move and means that you make the house your own. Are you going to be able to live in it while you do the work a room at a time, or is it more fundamental than that?

NfkDumpling Tue 28-Jul-15 07:47:13

Good luck Granny1. It sounds as if you're going to be really busy! Dogs and babies are always a good way to make new acquaintances but house/garden alterations is up there too. People are nosy and around here they just have to stop and chat to find out what you're up to!

Eloethan Mon 27-Jul-15 23:51:46

Good luck with your move Granny1. There are some lovely places in Kent and I hope you soon settle in.

My suggestions would include many of the things that others have said. There is U3A, the WEA, WI, adult education classes, choirs, art clubs, book groups, etc., in most areas. If you have a dog, it is easy to strike up conversation with other dog owners when you take it out for a walk. Also, if you will have any time to do voluntary work Beanstalk is always looking for reading volunteers in infant/junior schools.

Granny1 Mon 27-Jul-15 23:32:42

21 days to move. At least,we have to be out then but not sure about the other end! Hopefully everything will get sorted though solicitors seem to be drawing things out.We need a simpler system for buying and selling houses I think! We are moving to a small market town in Kent from the North East. We have found a fine house but it will need lots of work and as prices are so much higher we will need to do it ourselves as much as possible. DS and DiL and DGD will be only an hour away as opposed to five to seven by car at the moment so much easier for all. We have checked out all we can think of and it seems great/ideal - up to us now to make the effort and follow suggestions for making new local friends and becoming involved in the community. Fingers crossed.smile

downtoearth Mon 27-Jul-15 20:08:57

annsixty yes kingdom was filmed in swaffham,and I believe the beach scenes where filmed in Brancaster.we actually watched some filming going on. Stephen Fry lives in pentney which is 15 minutes down the road his house is on the A47 going towards lynnxx

SloeGinny Mon 27-Jul-15 20:03:20

Good tip about Fakenham, thank you. We're spending time there looking around to get the feel of different places at the moment, it's going to be a scary move.

annsixty Mon 27-Jul-15 19:50:19

Was the series "Kingdom" filmed any where near Swaffham? The scenery was lovely we watched it mainly for that,

NfkDumpling Mon 27-Jul-15 19:41:03

Swaffham is nice. Stephen Fry likes it! If we didn't sail we'd have considered it when we moved, but it's a bit too far from the Broads. Certainly town living makes integration easier.

Sloe have you looked to the east? Fakenham is nice with a lot of open country around it - and Holt reeeeallly nice! Both would be within half an hour (Holt just). We're further east still but the villages get close together the nearer you get to the Broads, so your DH might find it too populated!

Ana Mon 27-Jul-15 18:04:38

Good luck Nellie downtoearth! I'm sure something will turn up...smile

downtoearth Mon 27-Jul-15 17:45:47

Anno Was going to google NWR to see if there is one locally,it hasn't been posted in our parish magazine ,at the moment am grounded due to lack of transport (not bad behaviour) so would find it difficult to get to places,but am pretty tenacious and will keep lookingxx

downtoearth Mon 27-Jul-15 17:39:50

well that sounds positive Norfolk meet ups are a bit thin on the ground,are you sure Norfolk is ready for us..grin

downtoearth Mon 27-Jul-15 17:34:05

Hi Merlot we have to stay put for a while as E is just about to start 6th form that also has an apprenticeship as part of the work she will be doing.Swaffham is probably the best bet to aim our sights at where E is based for school/apprenticeship,...or I win the lottery and can afford another car for myselfxx

SloeGinny Mon 27-Jul-15 17:30:44

Yes, know what you mean about your daughter Down, it does appear to be pretty mono-cultural where son lives, until you hear the Eastern European accents.

This is really spooky! It's North Norfolk we're moving to, we need to be within 30 minutes of Snettisham, so looking as far as Swaffham, and a lot of the places with land are south of Kings Lynn. Being pretty rum ourselves, maybe we'll just fit right in smile.

I think we'll have to have a Grans get-together when we get down there, the 3 of us on a Girls Big Day Out! They won't know what's hit 'em!

In the meantime, chin up Down and keep chatting on here. Have a wine and some flowers

annodomini Mon 27-Jul-15 17:30:01

So sorry about your plight, downtoearth. You deserve better. If you are wary about the WI, have you investigated the NWR (National Women's Register)? They meet in each others' homes and choose topics, preferably non-domestic. Ours also has a book group and if you ask at the local library you might find that there's a choice of book groups, if you enjoy reading. We lived in Norfolk for 7 years, 30 - 37 years ago, in a big, straggly village on the A10 south of KL where, fortunately, many residents were also incomers. I made friends at the school gate because the DSs were still young enough to be met by mum. New friends were members of NHR (as it was then) and I got involved straight away. Good luck to you DtE. I wouldn't want to be marooned in a Norfolk village without transport either.

merlotgran Mon 27-Jul-15 17:19:31

SloeGinny and downtoearth, Don't rule out Cambridgeshire in your search for somewhere to relocate to in East Anglia. Property is very expensive close to Cambridge itself but not so bad out in the sticks. There are some good bus and train links but it depends where you are. Some villages are very isolated but that's typical of anywhere really.

We moved from Norfolk in the late seventies and I have to say I found Fen people really unfriendly compared to Norfolk where we had lots of friends but so many people have re-located here thanks to better employment prospects that it's completely different now.

The scenery is better the closer you are to the Norfolk or Suffolk borders.

downtoearth Mon 27-Jul-15 17:04:32

nfk have been to south lynn grin I am classed as west lynn..