Overstaying lodger!

Just as well we haven't strayed over to Pedants' Corner.. re my earlier post, that should read 'bated breath'. Apologies if it set anyone's teeth on edge

Be completely honest it’s always the best way. Tell her you will help her find new digs ( not financially)
You must have your husband on your side though. Try and explain to him it’s for your relationship moving forward to retirement.
Get him thinking past his football watching and the rest of his life. For instance you may decide to sell up and travel in caravan for awhile. Downsize to a flat. So then this lodger is not in the picture.

Why don’t you take it up with GNHQ then Luckylegs9?

I have just noted that someone else is commenting on posts, name of lucklegs, I am lucklegs 9, I read the post and did a double take, as it was written in such a way that I would never have written it. I don't think it is right to have confusing names like this and wonder why it was allowed.

I think we're all waiting for 31st with baited breath! Good Luck, Anniechip

If she tries that, be firm that you no longer have room for her and suggest she asks some of her other friends to help her for a few nights/weeks/months.

Beware of the 'room in a house for sale' tactic. When a house is for sale there are very long forms to fill in requiring, among other things, to state the details of anyone else in the house and their rights to stay there.

How about on March 31st she comes to Annie in tears saying the person who was prepared to let her rent a room in his house has been told by his solicitor that he cannot go ahead with the rent so he has withdrawn the offer and she has nowhere to go.

My solution would be to have a list of self storage firms and local chain hotels and ring for a taxi for her.

Be prepared for any other last minute stunts she may pull to try and stay 'a littlelonger'

Don't store anything, Anniechip. As I've said before, get those locks changed!!

"This is a shocking way to respond to two people who have given her a home for a year."

But are two people making it clear to her that she has to be gone by the 31st?
Or is one of them telling her not to worry her pretty little head about it?

Annie, definitely don't agree to store any stuff for her. There are bound to be places which store goods, in your area.

Once she's gone, change the locks, I wouldn't put anything past her!

But where is the husband in all this is he following up to make sure she goes or is he just sitting back and letting Annie be bad cop

I don't think there will be any chance at all of her getting back in, once she's out!

My big worry would be that she will temporarily vacate her room for your family yet persuade you or DH to store her stuff for her, then, family visit over, she will worm her way back into your home again claiming homelessness and empty promises of seeking alternative accommodation.

Glad to hear that things are eventually moving, although so painfully slowly that they could grind to a halt.
Passive resistance is the hardest form of opposition to deal with as you have to make the moves all the time.
This is a shocking way to respond to two people who have given her a home for a year. I don't think she fully believes you will go ahead with it.
I still think it is a strange way for a 36 year old woman to want to live.

keep in touch and we will keep you on the straight and narrow so you do what you know needs to be done.

Start gently hinting towards the date by gathering together any of her belongings that have strayed out of her room and put them back in it, ready for her to pack them. 2 days or so before the final leave date, start moving cleaning materials and heaps of fresh bedlineen and towels into the room. . ready to give the room a quick clean before the visitors arrive. If she is really being recalcitrant, take the curtains down, saying you need to wash them.

Well done the worm is indeed turning and chucking the cuckoo out the nest to boot!

The more she is making excuses the stronger you are becoming!

Remember there is always the local Premier Inn or Travel lodge.

If she is still there on 31st hold out your hand and say 'keys please'
you could add
'Our son needs them for his visit tomorrow'

Fingers crossed the lodger will lodging at another address very soon.

Well done Annie. Stick to your guns. Show this woman you are a force to be reckoned with. Has she started packing yet? If not, why not make a start for her by doing some packing while she's at work?
I look forward to 31st March - wish all us grans could be outside your house cheering you on

Keep your guard up, Annie, until she has gone. If she is desperate enough she'll take the 'lovely' one in the house that's going on the market and she can look for another place from there. The person who's advertised the room is obviously aware that lodgers can be turfed out at short notice and wants to maximise income from his property.

Has she fully grasped that she does not have a choice about leaving by 31st March?
And that if she hasn't found somewhere by then she'll have to stay in a hotel or B&B? (And put her stuff in storage.)

She has been unreasonable by not making any effort all this time so any accommodation problems she has as a result of you giving notice are actually of her own making.

Has your DH stopped acting like a wet dishrag, btw?

That's right Annie keep strong this woman is playing you.
Think how relieved you will feel when she is gone.
Good luck.

Good to hear from you annie. Stick to your resolve, she will be gone. Not a situation any of us would choose. Good luck.

Room in a house for sale, more emotional blackmail. The woman is a leech she needs to be removed.

The lodger should take the room in the house thats up for sale.
Conveyancing takes time.
She'll have ample weeks in this "spare room" house after a buyer is found.
She can use the time to find her next accommodation.

Go Girl!!

I don’t think you’re a wimp... just a naturally nice person who’s been taken advantage of. And your DH too. But sooner or later one of you had to make a stand. And you’ve done (are doing) it!! Good Luck!!

Well done Worm. Keep on turning. Good luck ???