Neighbours from Hell

i agree cut back the hedge and park on your side. all you are doing is aggravating the neighbours, you not giving into them ,its called being neighbourly.

The man is probably mentally ill
Is he known to the police ? If intimidation has been going on for ten years and as bad as intimated surely he will have been reported a number of times Can he really have given an elderly man a black eye with no one doing anything
Didn’t the people who lived in the house or sold you the house mention it aren’t you suppose to warn people of troublesome neighbours or didn’t they have trouble with him
I d go for a peaceful life I m afraid and park somewhere else for a while anyway

I feel so sorry for you; you must have no peace of mind owing to this vile person. I'm praying your situation will improve.

Don’t forget you can also take out an injunction against your neighbour using the civil courts. It does cost a court fee to do this, and you will have to show the court the evidence you have collected to demonstrate why the injunction is needed. But the injunction could stop him coming within a certain distance of your property, as well as prohibit him from speaking to you or your children.
This is a last resort I realise; and I would suggest you see if the HA and police do anything useful first.

Thankyou Synonymous..HA will be visiting neighbour this week to speak to him. He is going to pre warn us about visit just incase of any repercussions. I know that most think cut the bloomin hedge back but this does mark our boundary which to be honest by law includes up to the edge of the green. The maintenance of our part of the unadopted road is our responsibility which interm means we own,even though rented,this part of house frontage. To merely chop away hedges to facilitate a monster is demeaning and will only allow further intimidation. He does not live on our road ..he lives around the corner on another road.

Its horrible when neighbour trouble flares up!! I've had a little of this over the years, so you have my sympathy.

I was hoping you might be back with news of how this is progressing?

Thinking about the man with the black eye, if he really did get it from the disgruntled neighbour, have the police followed it up? Because if he can do that, maybe its a sign of things to come!! Fore warned is fore armed!!

Anyway, I hope your daughter is doing ok after her hospital stay.

We live in a ruaral area..I am not parking outside anyone's house just a green.. A neighbour from around the corner began this fiasco and he can't even see my small car from where he lives..

I thought this meant that the car couldn't be seen by the neighbour when OP parks by the green. He sounds like a nutcase.

I think she has already reported it to the police who are treating it as a hate crime.

It is easy to say cut the hedge further, but once a hedge has had its spring haircut, to cut it further doesn't mean another run round with the shears. It means a major attack on it with loppers secateurs and a pruning saw and physically hard work that not everyone has the strength and energy to undertake and it is a job that can take days to do depending on your energy reserves. I speak with feeling, I have done it.

I understood her to say the complainant cannot even see her car when it is parked beside the hedge.

Well that sounds like a police matter,Monica , perhaps I have missed some posts

Having read the post again, M0nica, I can see that the lack of speech marks confused me which is why I asked the questions. Obviously it wasn't as clearly elucidated as you seemed to think or I wouldn't have been confused. I did ask in a nice way. I just find the way things are written slightly difficult to understand instantly or even a second time I read them because I did go back to check before I posted. Obviously my brain was more woolly than usual.
I didn't say the hedge was running wild, I did manage to ascertain that the hedge was regularly trimmed. However, lots of people on here are asking why she doesn't just cut it back. If it marks her boundary she may not want to because it can cause confusion especially if the neighbours have a non linear boundary.
If her other neighbours are happy with where she parks and the hedge whilst the aggressive neighbour is unaffected, I see no reason at all why she should accept his behaviour. He is obviously a bully and I suspect that if she give way on this, he will find something else to make her suffer for as the 81 year old gentleman can probably attest to.
I make no criticism of her either for leaving disabled adult children alone either. It may well be that she had no choice or they would have been perfectly safe if the gentleman (I use the term loosely) had just left them alone.

The OP has also said she is parking outside no-ones house but by a green.

icanhandthemback It was the elderly neighbour who had been intimidated for 10 years not the OP. The 81 year old was sporting a black eye inflicted on him by the aggressive neighbour

The OP has also said that she cuts and trims the hedge, so it is not a hedge she is letting run wild.

These issues have been clearly elucidated further up this thread.

I think some people are being very hard on OP. She has just, moved into an HA house with two disabled adult children. The neighbour intimidated the children when she was out of the house causing them to have seizures and now sits in his car staring at their house. What else must he do, kill one of them before some posters can see what side the problem lies?

Either it’s Jackanory, or just plain ludicrous,as others have said cut the hedge, park outside your own home, why wouldn’t you ?

There are a couple of things that confuse me, sorry I am having a senior moment:
1. How has this man been intimidating you for 10 years if you have just moved in?
2. Did the aggressive neighbour hit the 81 year old man and give him a black eye or is the 81 year old man the aggressive neighbour?
3. Has the hedge historically been a metre longer than the neighbours? Is it because the boundary ends in a different place to the other properties?
Sorry, Swolleneyes, I'm obviously having a bad day!

So someone cannot park outside HIS house because you prefer to grow a hedge that prevents parking outside YOUR house? And you left two vulnerable people - vulnerable enough to be tripped into a 'seizure' by a confrontation - alone? There seems scope to be 'reasonable' on your part.

synonymous ^ Please don't let the negativity of those who have not understood what is going on add to your stress levels^
I think we all understand that the OP has a large hedge which juts out by a metre into the road, and because of this hedge, she parks her car somewhere that her neighbour takes exception to.
I’m afraid the solution seems obvious to me as it apparently does to several other posters.

A friend of mine who is elderly and disabled has had her life made hell because of her VISITORS parking on the road outside HER house! She hasn't got a car, so 99% of the time the space is free! Neighbours have bought an old banger and parked it outside her house just so nobody else can park there, they get in it every now and then and rev it up till blue smoke pours out everywhere. You cannot make it up how petty and weird some people are......I feel your pain xx

Sorry, hit post too soon. I was going to reiterate what has already been said about understanding the full circumstances by careful reading but there seems to be little point as that probably won't be read either.

swollen Please don't let the negativity of those who have not understood what is going on add to your stress levels. Sadly this does happen. I do hope your meeting goes well and that the HA will sort out the boundary issues if there really are any and maybe they will take out an injunction to protect all their tenants. You will probably need to ask. Hopefully the Police will bring pressure to bear anyway and you will all be safer. I wouldn't be at all surprised if there are mental health issues involved especially if he is assaulting your other 81 year old neighbourand and that is where your evidence will be helpful in providing the proof.

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I wonder what all the other neighbours think about your massive, albeit "neatly trimmed" hedge. Sticking out a metre beyond your property line, is taking the mick a bit. And look where it's got you - nothing but bad feelings, and stress, which has now escalated to police involvement.

All of which could have been avoided by you just cutting the ruddy thing back and parking where any normal house owner would.

For the sake of your two disabled adult children, if nothing else, I would be taking the shears to that hedge. Then see if the neighbour "from hell" leaves you alone.

Until you do this, you'll never know if he really is "from hell" or just got his codpiece in a pucker over a car being parked in an inconvenient place.

Once the hedge is back to a reasonable size, and the car isn't parked where it ought not to be, then your neighbour should be more than happy to just leave you alone. And if he's not, then you've lost nothing, but gained space outside your house, and as the police are already involved, then they can carry on with their investigations

Honestly, with all the crap going on in the world, I can't believe this has escalated to this point because two neighbours have both dug their heels in. Over a flipping hedge and a bit of unadopted road. Pick your battles. I really don't think a hedge is worthy of this much aggro.

NB
It takes a bit of sifting and gleaning to get the whole picture about swollen's problems to understand the situation. She is meeting with the Police and Housing Association again and the HA will deal with their obligations - hopefully. It may well be that unless an injunction or court order can be put in place this man will just find something else as he has done with the other neighbours.

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I agree lollee and there seem to be so many more around nowadays. I think many are living out their dreams of being in a soap and enjoying their sense of power over others which is sheer nastiness.

We too have lived with this ourselves and finally realised that if you can't actually take the fight to them and face them down they seem to be unable to understand how you tick and so they just keep poking at you. I will give you an example: The people next door to us in our previous home continually played music on their radio which was trained in our direction. This was done at all hours and particularly very early in the morning. One day the postman delivered a cd we had ordered and the first piece on it was Aaron Copeland's 'Fanfare for the common man'. DH is a very peaceable man but even he has his limits so he carried out our stereo system into the conservatory, opened all the windows and doors facing our neighbours house and played it at full volume using the T bass setting to bring out all the bass notes. I have never in my life, before or since, heard anything so dramatic. It quite frightened me, the walls were shaking and I actually thought that the windows were going to break. When the piece ended DH turned the stereo off and put everything away in a deathly hush. We were never disturbed again and the memory of the incident still makes me chuckle.

Do you really want this to escalate?

Grub up the bloody hedge and make room for parking closer to your own house.

Why oh why are there so many awful people in the world who seem to get joy out of upsetting and hurting others? I know there isn't an answer but if we can't live at peace with our neighbours, how do we expect warring countries to find peace?