Help calm me. house buying and selling stress. Part 5

Thanks Whiff, I thought it was really offensive to instruct me to tell my utility companies 'the house is sold', why does he think he has the right to teach his granny to suck eggs. I've been doing my address changes for weeks and don't need a boy to tell me what to do. Grrr!

I actually popped in with good news! I've got a hamper, my very first, sent as a thank you for the lions, wasn't that nice of them! Bit embarrassing as I was talking to a neighbour outside, she was telling me her daughter's birthday gift parcel had apparently been signed for but she couldn't find out who it was, when a car drew up and a girl asked her where I lived - parcel for me. I felt really confused, then thought my daughter had sent it, no . It's a very posh one full of gorgeous things, I'll eke it out Whiff, you'll be pleased for me, my size 16 jeans are too big and my 14's fit just right so I've lost my cake eating pounds! Can't wear them unfortunately as my psoriasis on my trunk is really bad at the moment.

Thank you for that craftyone, I've copied it down. I need to live somewhere less touristy, that's for sure

Shandy57 hamper sounds yummy. Size 14 jeans fantastic. Still a 16 but ok with that . Will lose the last stone even if it takes me a year. Still 16 is better than being my old 32.

I think when your buyer has the keys after completion he will fine he's bitten off more than he can chew. But you will be laughing because the money will be all yours.

Time to go with Craftyone's list and start looking. New home new life. You deserve it.

that hamper, what a lovely and very thoughtful surprise, enjoy every bit of it you deserve it. A bit of a rest for you this weekend shandy, you have been run ragged, then up and at em next week, serious house hunting

I am shattered, never started busy, just pottered doing jobs in and out. I have a very padded bench seat with a back attached, for the outside bench but it is too thick at the back and the whole lot is too deep really. Brought it in after asking my neighbour if he would like it, was too deep for his too

I am blowed if I was going to waste it, only came a week ago, brought it in and decided to cut the narrow bit through the middle, the fabric joining the bottom seat with the back rest. I did and it frayed horribly and was packed with foam, small bits of airy foam. I pinned and cajoled the pieces together and thought I would use my overlocker to sew and neaten

I am talking about a thick seat cushion with an open edge on the long side. I had forgotten how to thread my overlocker, not used it in 18 months. I started sewing but flipping cushion kept going in its own direction, I sat but had one leg on a set of steps and the cusion either on my leg or on my shoulder. I couldn`t do it

I decided to empty some foam out and only then realised how densely packed and flyaway and static the foam bits were. You can only imagine the complete and utter mess in my sewing room. I stood up in the overflowed foam and promptly knocked my pins onto the floor. I changed tack and eventually sewed a straight stitch. Repeat with the other cushion which got red blood blobs onto cream

They are done and both perfect for my benches. It was shattering, not something I had planned for today

First aid empty box arrived and I filled it, just emergency stuff for me, not putting paracetamol in, they can remain upstairs. I added burn gel and sterile eye wash. I hardly got rid of anything yesterday, don`t care if steristrips are out of date, they would only be for me and the excess can go under my bed

I am having a rest day tomorrow and must go some cycling, done no real exercise all week

Craftyone what a to do. You must be exhausted. Why do simple things always end up being complicated. I can never remember how to thread my sewing machine as I only use it a few times a year. That's why I always keep instruction books for everything.

I haven`t sorted my sewing things since they were put in there at moving. I used to know exactly where everything was but had to hunt for things today. I need to get that done but not yet, it is actually taking over a year, this getting settled by myself. Whiff looking back, I know we have taken it all in our stride but I think that really it has been quite tough, when looking at the overall picture

Craftyone yes it has been but we just get on with whatever life throws at us. All on this thread have been doing the same. What's the alternative you can't give up . What ever life we have we need to live it to the full no matter how tough it is at times. What my son's putting me through at the moment is not is going to stop living my life. He should realise life is to short especially with his dad dying at 47. He was 12 when we had to tell him his dad had cancer and would not live 5 years.
With Covid 19 none of us know who is going to get it next. I am optimistic that things will get better it will just take time . Every morning I still decide what I want to that day and do it. But do get annoyed with myself if my body won't let me do what I set out to do. Like when it took me 3 days to get a root out.

Good morning everyone, it has been a week of ups and downs for me. Fortunately more ups than downs albeit the downs may be more significant.

The first "up" was that I eventually bought my new car, a Volvo XC60. It should arrive by the end of the month. The "down" to that is that we have managed to fall out with DS1. Hopefully that will resolve itself soon.

The next "up" was that I was allowed to see my mother in her care facility. Sunday here was Mother's Day and although only allowed to visit for 30 minutes it was wonderful to see her after 10 weeks. Even better was to see how well she looked. Being in care agrees with her.

Our restrictions have been eased and we are now, among other things, allowed to have 5 visitors in our homes. This brought the next "up" when DS2, DiL and 2GS came to visit yesterday. It was wonderful to see them all again. The boys have grown so much in the 8 weeks since we have seen them. They were just as excited to see us as we were to see them which was lovely.

I'm not sure if this one is an up or a down, a bit of both really, was a visit to the Orthopedic Surgeon, the result of that being I am booked in for a knee replacement in just over 4 weeks time. The "down" of this is the surgery and recovery but the "up" is that I should have a better functioning knee which should be pain free.

Open Inspections for houses are now allowed with some limitations and on site auctions have returned. Hoping we will see more properties come onto the market over the next month or so, including one that is just right for us.

Franbern, I hope your aches and pains from the fall are soon better and you have not done any major damage. Unfortunately, often our minds are younger than our bodies and forget that we just cannot do things like we did even a few years ago.

Luckygirl sorry to hear your buyer pulled out that's very frustrating. hope you can still go ahead with the new build you like.

Shandy you are coming to the end of the first chapter of your selling/buying adventure. The next chapter - the buying should be much easier as you will be the one holding the reigns. It is not easy though, finding a place that ticks all of your boxes and also deciding on location is a big issue for us. We are so entrenched in the area we are in and want to stay in that looking out of that area is full of obstacles.

We are having some lovely autumn days but winter is well on the way and after a few nice days we are seeing cold, wet and windy ones.

Great to hear from you SueH49. Sorry about your downs but pleased about your ups. That was wonderful you got to see your mom and other members of your family. Sorry about falling out with DSI . As I not really up with the initials and all there meanings that's why I write everything out in full. Is that your son or son in law? The situation with my son is the same no contact from him since that awful email.

The operation on your knee must be worrying. Not just the time recovery but the going into hospital. One of my aunt's had a new knee she was like a new woman after the gruelling recovery. How is your husband is he fully recovered? Your time to be looked after.

Life in Australia seems to moving along quicker than here. But I suppose differences in size of country and population make a difference.

Hope you fine your new home soon. And you continue to have more ups than downs. Sending you a hud.

Thanks for the hud Whiff. I do agree with you about the abbreviations and usually I do write the proper word, just got lazy today. Sorry. It is my eldest son we have fallen out with or I should say has fallen out with us.

Husband is pretty much back to normal, still gets tired quickly but other than that is doing everything and a bit more than he was before the operation.

I think we can move quicker here, with only just over 7000 cases and 98 deaths it is much easier to move forward. Interestingly in Victoria we had some of the strictest restrictions and yet in the last couple of weeks we have had more cases than those states with less restrictions. Our government was somewhat tardy with an outbreak in a meat processing plant and because they did not act when it was first reported but waited until there were 3 more cases there have now been nearly 100 cases from that source.

Going into hospital does not particularly bother me but I am a bit concerned about the blood clots I had when my hip was done happening again. Also the rehabilitation is always a worry. I'm sure it would be much easier if I could shed much of the excess weight I'm carrying but success is not mine in that area.

I am very glad Sue that you have a knee replacement sorted, it does not stop worry but it has to be good, to stop that pain. Husband too, very wonderful about him being almost back to normal and it is still early days for him, he is doing very well

I feel a nice quiet day coming on here and have been doing some planning about this sewing room, sewing was a biggie for me and I need some new tops, not the straight up and down t shirts. I just don`t get enticed to start anything when the room is not right

I need to get that room organised and have spent money, again, when I thought the money drain had stopped. I spent a lot and have ordered well made birch pegboards, pegboard shelves, extra pegs and a few special pegs such as pegs with bulldog clips. 2 tall vertical pegboards, one each side of the window, the right width to miss the vertical electric wiring in the walls. 62 x 114 and a horizontal pegboard with full width shelf 70 x 30 which will go across and over my desk. I will have a total of 6 moveable shelves all 12 cm deep and different widths for the vertical boards

I started by thinking of wall shelving but am glad I stumbled upon the pegboards, they will be much neater

I don`t give twopence about the label on them but they do have a name on them and will be solid and last forever. Now I have collywobbles again about more drilling of holes in the walls. Last time I set to and did it all as though I was on a roll. I have ordered more screws because I like my special fittings for the inner thermal blocks, the inner skin, they crumble so easily with the wrong plugs and screws

I hope you all have a lovely day, try and enjoy the sun

SueH49 sorry it's your son. Don't know what gets into adult children. They should realise we will not be around for ever. But they are adults. Before my husband died we decided once the kids reached 16 that was it we would not interfere in their lives if they wanted to tell us things or ask our advice we would give it. Otherwise we used to let them get on with it. When I think of the awful decisions my son has made since I cringe but it's his life . My son has been with his wife as a couple since they were 17. Both my daughter and brother thinks she has caused this situation. I really don't want to think they are right as I love her as my own. But deep down I know they are right.

Suddenly realised what the date is. It would have been our 39th wedding anniversary. That's probably why I've been in a reflective mood this week. I'm not sad about. Just had a chuckle at all the things that happened on the day. It could have ended in disaster. Both my dad and husband got stuck in traffic jams. My dad whilst fetching one of my bridesmaids and my husband because the hire company sent the wrong glasses and he had to get them changed. I got locked out of my parents house. Luckily one of the upstairs windows was wide open. I went to see how the room was as we catered it ourselves . One of my cousin's had to climb up and get my keys. My mom only got back to the house 10 mins before the cars arrived. It rained heavily. So the wedding wouldn't leave the church so my brother who was best man and my husband got soaked. Once at the church the photographer took so long our the photos I was 10 mins late entering the church. Because of the rain our heels where sinking into the grass for the photos. Everyone just got into the hall across the road for the reception when it hailed. But everyone had a great time and a lot had hang overs and sore feet the next
day. Many said it was the best wedding they had been to for years. So that's why I am not sad. I had a good husband and a good marriage. Full of ups and downs but that's life. It's why I've never wanted anyone else. Still love him to this day.

Morning all, and hello again to SueH49. Glad your op is now arranged. My friend is woken in the night with her pain but cancelled her op last November, she has to look after her grandson all the time and couldn't take the time 'off'. I've just realised it was her birthday yesterday - she ignores mine, so I won't send a belated. Good luck with it Sue, wishing you speedy healing.

Looking up tide tables in a minute, hope to go early, I'm dreading the crowds at the beach today. I couldn't take him yesterday, my legs were too tired. My dog still hasn't settled and if I let him out into the front garden he barks through nervousness - the road is covered by high trees and the fence is high, he can't see as he could in our garden. I was embarrassed a neighbour said they heard him early the other morning and as it 'went on', thought something might be wrong. I was out with him, just couldn't catch him to get him back in.

Big day tomorrow, my husband's fourth anniversary. I'm off later to buy a picnic at M&S for my son and I to have lunch, socially distanced. I can't think any further than that, I am numb. Hopefully the wreath I ordered will come early.

Better shower now and get going, have a good day everyone xx

Our posts crossed, happy anniversary Whiff, love you sharing your day with us xx

Shandy57 try tomorrow to think of all the good times I know it will be hard. Took me 14 years to stop getting upset on his death anniversary and the run up to it. He would have given me hell that it took me so long. Think how proud your husband would be of you. Look at all you've done on your own. Have a cry but also have a laugh at all the silly things he said and did. I know I am grateful my husband and I had the time we had. Some people never find that one special person who is their other half. We where lucky we did.

Yesterday, was 21st wedding anniversary for my daughter and her hubbie who live near me now. They have actually been together for nearly 28 years (met at Uni). My SiL is shielding, but she persuaded him to come down to their dining room for the two of them to have a meal together (children were all told to go to their own rooms during this ,and had eaten separately). I gave my daughter the money to purchase a take-a-way of their choice, so giving her the day off from having to cook. She sent me a lovely piccie of how prettily she had arranged the dining table with candles and flowers, and said they had had worst anniversaries.
Between end of April and early June, four of my children celebrate their wedding anniversaries. Normally, I send cards but no presents - but this year I have arranged for all of them to receive flowers from Bunches.
Today, I am meeting my daughter here, and however many of her children wish (probably two), in a large park about a mile away - I can still get there on my scooter, we are taking food with us and will have a picnic there. Be the first time I have been out since I came back from A&E last Tuesday.
Yesterday, in the post, received a special card (Called a HedgeHug) from my youngest daughter which contains a seedbomb of wild flowers. It is she and her family who should have been visiting with me during half-term, and this is in place of that visit. So lovely and thoughtful of her.
I am feeling very philosphical about this virus at present. Whenever, we do finally start to come out we are likely to contract it (about 70% of us). Unlikely to be any vaccine in the foreseeable future - if ever!!! Think if I am going to be one of those unfortunate enough to require medical intervention when I get this illness, I would prefer that to be in the summer months - not during the normal winter pressure on hospitals, etc.
So, whilst I will not be doing anything silly - I am going to start easing up on my own lockdown procedures - such as they have been .
Shandy - Psiorasis is horrible. The stress you have been under for the last months is likely to have caused a flair up. Fresh air and sunshine is good for this condition - try to relax a little during the next few days of good weather and see if some sunbathing will help for this to start to go away. The hamper sounds lovely, and very thoughtful - you must be delighted that your lions have gone to such a kindly home.

carry on matron, its a hoot so many inuendos channel 10 and just started.

Oh Craftyone, that made me laugh....

Just back from the dump. I'd spent ages sorting it all into wood, plastic and metal and picked about a hundred snails off before loading the car. I didn't have to queue long and luckily had proof of address on me. I wasn't happy to be told the metal skip had been taken away so I'd have to keep it, and to put the plastic and wood into the general waste skip. I don't think the men are managing it well

I went to M&S and bought a rainbow cake and picnic things afterwards, we'll be NHS supporters tomorrow. Last time I went I wasn't happy about distancing and it happened again today, people aren't observing the one way system. I won't be back.

Dog walk and then a nap I think, I'm still shattered

Franburn
I've kicked against this from the very beginning but I haven't offended/ frightened anyone ( I hope ?) but next Wednesday I'm going to sort out my friends mothers garden.
Her mothers Gardner is too frightened to come.
I won't have to go through the house and as I normally would, take all my own tools. Can't wait.

Shandy57 I know today with be a mixture of tears and hopefully joy. Tears for the man and life you have lost but joy for all the time you had together. Try and remember all the happy times but also the times when he drove you mad. I always find its best in my opinion to remember the real man warts and all. But remember how far you have come since his passing. All the things you have done that you never thought you could do. How proud of you he would be of all you have done. Think of all the firsts you have done on your own and imagine him cheering you on. Since my husband died I talk to him everyday day but I also tell him off. It has always helped me coped . But as with everything in life we all have to find our way . I don't believe in any god but if that helps other people to believe then that is their way of coping with whatever life throws at them.

Sending you a huge hud.

Huds back Whiff, thank you. xx

to shandy and whiff and anyone else who could do with a virtual hug and a bunch of fresh roses

We had a zoom last night, started at 6 and finished at 8.30. Was too long for me but I sat it out while they were discussing running, cycling ironmans. I am going to have to come clean next one and forewarn that I will be leaving at 7.30, too much screen stops me sleeping. It was lovely though, thoughtful. Yes one dd did not attend, again, it seems many of us have one AC that is different but so be it

I need to get changed but have been busy rescuing veg while they are nice and fresh. Veg juice made for 3 days and mmm it smells lovely, caramelised red pepper and onion, finished with balsamic and thyme. That will also be good for a few days in the fridge

Pleasant out, not too hot, thankfully. I need a lazy day. Let`s go back to how sundays used to be

Craftyone thanks for the roses. Just housework for me today. Washing nearly finished so I can get it pegged out. When I was doing the front garden one of my neighbours asked if he could put a couple of bags in my skip of course I said yes. He's had the front of the bungalows rendering paint and some stuff the workmen had left. We had a nice chat and again said if I needed anything just to ask. His lovely little dog came for a fuss. But she didn't want to go when he called her. She had wondered away from me so I said to get her we where far enough apart. I am so glad I moved here. Love my home , area and neighbours. All the tradesmen I use are all so kind and good at their jobs and haven't cha

Finger slipped again. Charged me the earth. Your juices sound lovely. One thing I have never done is juice veggies must try it one time. Got a chicken stew on the go. That will be my next 6 dinners. Have a relaxing day everyone.