After being together for around 8 years, myself and my partner are buying our first house together. It all happened quickly, because despite talking about it for a couple of years, we could never find anything we both liked. A chance look on Rightmove earlier this month found us a beautiful house in a nearby, sought after village. We both put our houses on the market last week and mine sold three days later.
The vendors of the house we hope to buy are happy to wait for the us to sell my partner’s house.
Despite being excited by this I am also feeling totally overwhelmed. My buyers want me out by the end of June to benefit from the stamp duty incentive so the pressure is really on.
There are lots of added complications of adult children living with us temporarily at the moment (long story).
It looks like I will have to go to live with DP temporarily in order for my sale to go through. Which is ok but his house is small and very much a ‘bachelor pad’ for him and his son and much further away from my work. It also means my daughter and family will have to move into her in-laws (temporarily) which makes me feel awful as my DGS will be much further away from nursery and as she works from my house, she will need to find a new premises until we are in the new house where we will have the ideal space for her business.
The contents of my house will have to go into storage and my poor cat will have to now move twice - DP has two cats who won’t take kindly to a lodger!
I have 30 years worth of stuff in my loft which will take ages to sort out between working full time shift work.
Then there’s the issue of tying our assets up together whilst protecting our children should anything happen to one of us (we are both totally committed to getting this sorted legally, as soon as possible)
DP is easily the best partner I have had (I have had one divorce and one other 10 yr relationship) and I have no doubt we will get on fine, but I haven’t lived with a partner for over 9 years now, so that’s another adjustment for us both.
I’m sure it’ll all be worth the upheaval and I know no one can make this any easier for me, but I just need to offload 
Has anyone else ‘blended’ two houses/finances and have any words of wisdom to calm me please?!
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