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downsizing your bed

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EkwaNimitee Tue 06-Apr-21 14:45:17

Has anyone, having been widowed or for other reasons, decided to move to a single bed?
When my late DH died, I moved from our aging queen sized bed to a standard double where there's more than enough room. I'm moving house now and thinking of getting myself a single bed and putting the double in the guest room. I haven't slept in a single bed for decades and when I look at them in a store, they do seem rather wee. I'm a medium sized person, not a restless sleeper and I think 3 foot should be a sufficient space in theory. I will have a reasonably sized new bedroom but hate being cluttered and cramped. I like plenty of open floor space. Has anyone tried this and regretted it?

Corkie91 Wed 07-Apr-21 12:17:23

Why would you want to sleep in a single bed the bigger the better, with plenty of room to spread out I say

missdeke Wed 07-Apr-21 12:04:49

I changed to a single bed when I found it more and more difficult to change the duvet cover on a double. I now manage much better and find it perfectly comfortable and roomy, and I've never felt like I was about to fall out of bed!!

Soozikinzi Wed 07-Apr-21 12:00:24

Another vote for the 4ft small double but with standard double bedding here . It’s only a foot wider than a single but a nice compromise .

Davida1968 Wed 07-Apr-21 11:56:27

King-sized beds in our house - I'd have super-kings if there was room! Never, never, never, do I want to sleep in a single bed again.....

Kiwigramz Wed 07-Apr-21 11:55:11

I am lucky enough to have purchased a three quarter bed for my husband when he was ill because he needed his own bed. It is great for a smaller room. I use double or king size quilts.
Not sure if you can still get this bed size.

grandtanteJE65 Wed 07-Apr-21 11:51:02

Buy a reasonably cheap single bed, but a good mattress.

That way if the bed turns out to be too narrow for your comfort, you won't feel so bad about changing it again.

Or simply swopping the guest bed and your bed round and buying another single bed for the guest room if you have couples visiting.

geekesse Wed 07-Apr-21 11:41:44

polnan, I wouldn’t want to share a bed every night with a person, but once in a while can be quite pleasant. I wouldn’t ever want to share a bed with a dog or cat - yuk! My animals have always lived downstairs and are banned from bedrooms.

Nanette1955 Wed 07-Apr-21 11:40:39

When I lost my DH we had been planning to get a new bed, which I put off for a while. However on downsizing from a large house to a 2 bed bungalow I decided now was the time.......and I brought another king size bed! Downsizing my bed was never an option, I now sleep in the middle, in the summer there is always a cool side to roll on to, and as I move around in bed, and suffer on occasions from restless legs I can always get comfy. A single bed is very restrictive, as I know from saying on one at my daughters, so please think very carefully before you downsize. X

geekesse Wed 07-Apr-21 11:37:24

EkwaNimitee, you said ‘I think I am past expecting gentleman callers but I guess we can always live to be surprised.’

Live in hope! The day you give up your double bed is the day you decide it’s never going to happen again. Whilst it isn’t impossible to do the deed in a single bed (though harder as your joints get less flexible), any kind of sleep afterwards isn’t really an option if you only have 3ft of space for two bodies.

chazwin Wed 07-Apr-21 11:34:00

EkwaNimitee

Has anyone, having been widowed or for other reasons, decided to move to a single bed?
When my late DH died, I moved from our aging queen sized bed to a standard double where there's more than enough room. I'm moving house now and thinking of getting myself a single bed and putting the double in the guest room. I haven't slept in a single bed for decades and when I look at them in a store, they do seem rather wee. I'm a medium sized person, not a restless sleeper and I think 3 foot should be a sufficient space in theory. I will have a reasonably sized new bedroom but hate being cluttered and cramped. I like plenty of open floor space. Has anyone tried this and regretted it?

Don't do it. You can't toss and turn, or stretch out, if you want to, in a single bed.
You are likely to end up with aches and pains in the morning.

Alioop Wed 07-Apr-21 11:30:45

When I was married I had a king size, divorced now and I have a double. I love being able to spread out, especially with my stupid night sweats, to roll over onto the cool side is bliss. I also think I would end up and fall out of a single.

polnan Wed 07-Apr-21 11:30:43

geekessee! LOL who would want a visitor in bed, male or female! I like sleeping on my own!
oh dear, the very thought of it.

anyway, I went into our second, smaller bedroom, some months before my husband died as I was disturbing him, with so many nightly trips to the bathroom, four foot bed, very comfortable..
strange , when he died, I had no difficulty in moving into our Queen size or is it King size? well big... bed..

some people wondered if I would cope with it.. but no, I enjoy the space, and spread... mind you , my cat sleeps on the bed with me,,, if I still had a dog, she would sleep on the bed also.... but just my cat now.

who wants a human being! duh!
(lol)

EkwaNimitee Wed 07-Apr-21 11:18:11

I've been re-thinking the single option overnight. I usually sleep in the middle of the double but last night I tried sleeping on one half. Although I'm not a restless sleeper, I do like sleeping with my limbs especially arms stretched out so part way through the night, my arm is uncomfortably hanging over into space. I'm going back to the middle! Silly maybe, but I felt insecure lying close to the edge. Those who appreciate stretching out are right I think. I've decided to keep the bed for myself when I move and get two singles for the guest room which is a more flexible arrangement. They can always be pushed together if wanted.
Thanks for all your interesting comments. geekesse, I think I am past expecting gentleman callers but I guess we can always live to be surprised. grin

SparklyGrandma Wed 07-Apr-21 11:12:20

“EkwaNimitee” I did this last year, downsized to a single. It has several advantages, you can choose a better mattress because you are buying single, lovely bed linen is cheaper to buy when for a single. Also my bedroom has much more space in it. I went for a padded headboard in dark grey and it’s lovely to lead against when watching things on my iPad! Good luck with your decision.

Lesley60 Wed 07-Apr-21 11:06:10

I have a king size to myself and love it after banishing hubby to a double in the spare room due to his snoring
I could never sleep in a single I think I would feel as if I’m going to fall out

lizzypopbottle Wed 07-Apr-21 10:58:07

(I have not read all the posts!) Our spare bed is a single but is 3' 6" wide. Fitted sheets for it are available on line. You can also still get 4' divans so there's plenty of choice out there.

Juicylucy Wed 07-Apr-21 10:57:30

I’m on my own and would never swap my double for a single after sleeping in one on holiday, far to restrictive even if your not restless sleeper.

JMitch Wed 07-Apr-21 10:54:48

Never mind the width of your bed, please also consider the height. As we get older we need a higher bed, easier to get in and out of and also much easier to change the sheets.

Aepgirl Wed 07-Apr-21 10:53:50

I’ve always had a small double bed, even when I was married. The biggest problem now is buying bedding for a 4’ bed.

grizzlybear27 Wed 07-Apr-21 10:51:01

I have a king size bed, but use a single duvet. Much lighter on my knees, when I turn over. I am a very restless sleeper. My 2 dogs, sleep on the other side of the bed. So much easier to manage, on laundry day.

red1 Wed 07-Apr-21 10:45:38

i tried a single bed after sleeping in a double for over 40 years, it was awful .i nearly fell out, ive thought of a 3/4 bed though.there is also the possibility i may meet someone and have a relationship......

Theoddbird Wed 07-Apr-21 10:44:07

Don't give your double up. You will really miss it. Make sure you get a good mattress and enjoy spreading out in the middle of it. smile

Marzipan Wed 07-Apr-21 10:43:24

I have a small double with storage drawers underneath. It’s smaller obviously than a double but still plenty of room to stretch out. I use a double duvet on it, as I like loads of duvet! ?

amazonia Wed 07-Apr-21 10:42:10

The Linen Cupboard do an excellent range of linen for a small double - including a small double duvet which is also a good size for a single bed. much better range and quality than Amazon.
Make sure you measure the mattress depth before buying a fitted sheet as they vary hugely and there's nothing worse than struggling with aging hands on a sheet that's a bit too tight.

muse Wed 07-Apr-21 10:33:52

Out of necessity I moved from a king size bed (for just me) to a double bed for the two of us. Hate it as I need space. Can't wait for when we move into our new home and back to a king size bed. I'll still have to share it with MrM.