When sexism and ageism combine...

^If a man is "Sir"

and a woman is "lovey"

what is it then?^

But this isn't what was complained about in the OP. At least, the OP-er did not say she was calling the man sir. She could have answered, for example, "Yes, Your Reverence" to get her point across.

Or she could simply have asked him not to call her young lady. A bit of assertiveness works wonders. Far better than getting all huffy anyway.

Why not Alegrias it's what I really think? Basically don't sweat the small stuff.

Aveline

Amazed you're so worked up about this. I'm not so insecure of my identity and worth that it bothers me.

Oh, not this again.

If a man is "Sir"

and a woman is "lovey"

what is it then?

I have a few words we can use.

Amazed you're so worked up about this. I'm not so insecure of my identity and worth that it bothers me.

Or sexism.

Or ageism.

I don't think it is misogyny.

Alegrias1

Not bothered about people being disrespectful? That's what it is. Call me madam! ?

Only uppity people like us care about that.

We really should just relax and let the misogyny reign. ???

Not bothered about people being disrespectful? That's what it is. Call me madam! ?

Just not bothered!

If a man in the queue was addressed as "Sir" and I was addressed as "lovey", I might not have been polite enough to call her "little girl".

Good for you faringdon59.

My father was often referred to as a spring chicken by his carers when he was anything but. He thought it hilarious. Personally I have no problem with being referred to as anything, Just doesn't bother me.

‘Young lady’ riles me. It did at work when I was actually young, and it does now I’m old! The comment seems to come from a particular type of misogynist creep.

I would be a bit miffed if someone said 'mind the old lady'.

I have never had a problem with being called anything, love, lovey, me duck, darlin', sweetie, my dear, although I never get called gorgeous now!

good for you.
that is the point i was trying to make on another thread, about familiar terms of address in shops etc.
people were saying it's just friendly, but would they presume to use such familiar terms to higher status people, eg men.
when i got my second jab, the middle-aged man, who did not introduce himself by name or job, called me, my dear.
it rankled with me, but din't feel i could say anything, given the context, grateful for vaccine, never see him again etc.
but i bet he didn't say that to a male person.