marymary62 Can quite understand and empathise with your feelings of not being able to make decisions!!
I am usually a strong decisive person - but when in that horrible process of selling and buying - I found that every time the sale fell through, I was devastated as I so wanted to make that move - BUT every time, things seemed to be going smoothly - I was terrified that I was making the totally wrong decision and could only think of all the disadvantages.
I was moving - as you are - some 150 miles away. From a house to a flat. Never having lived outside of London in all my life. It was a big decision and a one-way journey. I had nightmares in which I saw myself, the day after the move being in tears and saying 'what on earth have I done?'
In fact it turned out the opposite - and from within 24 hours of making that move, I just marvelled as to how fortunate I was and how wonderful if all was. Even now, nearly two years later - I find myself thinking this every morning when I wake!! About a month after I moved, my daughter found me in tears one day and when she asked what was the matter I told her I was having a panic attack as to how close I had been of not making the move - and how much of a disaster that would have been for me.
Do take on board that in the first twelve months after moving (as others have said), money seems to go through your hands like water - always something to spend on - probably between twenty to thirty grand!! I am still spending, but it has slowed down and I now have to save up for work I want carried out.
Having had new lovely Karndean flooring laid throughout my large Living/Dining Room and hallway - I am now having the two bedrooms sorted out by the same company. It is the upheaval which is the hardest - fortunately, they will be doing each bedroom on a different day - a fortnight apart.
A second viewing - close to time of actually removal, is useful for doing final measurements and then a plan as to where you want large furniture placed. Also, mark on your own plan exactly where such things as electrical points are placed. I kept a large shopping bag in which I placed ALL my electrical extension leads, etc. Took that in my car, so they were easily available to me right from the start.
I also found it took away a lot of the worry and hard work to use a removal company that also did the main packing for me. Okay, they do use more boxes than you would if you did it yourself, but I found it an immense help. I do have a large display cabinet and many items in that are irreplaceable and quite delicate - I did pack those myself. (unpacked them after I moved din and then had to re-pack them when I was having the new flooring!!!)
It is probably one of the biggest and most expensive things you have ever done - however, you can see on this site - that all of us who have managed it are so happy in their new homes.
Be prepared for worries and stresses over the next few months - try to stay positive. Use a Solicitor (if possible) who is close to where you live now so that paperwork etc. etc. can be taken in by hand rather than trusted to the post.
You will be asked many, many questions by them about your existing house - if you do not know the answer just say so. A form from your new property should show you exactly what things are being left (light fittings, curtain fittings, curtains, blinds, kitchen appliances, etc. etc.) Also where electrical and gas meters are placed, etcDi
'Do not linger on what you are paying for the new property. Just think about how lovely it will be when there and close to your family. Do keep coming on this site so we can all follow your journey.
GOOD LUCK