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Messy House; Messy Life Thread ??

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FannyCornforth Sun 02-Jan-22 09:50:46

Hello folks ?

I recently mentioned on another thread that my bedroom, and indeed my whole house, isn’t in the most satisfactory of states.

I also think that my messy house is having a knock on effect on all sorts of stuff in my life.

I received a few lovely pm’s from posters saying that they are in a similar situation.

So if you feel like a chat about your messy house / life; please do!

Hopefully we can sort; chuck; organise; tidy; and clean together.

Bin bags at the ready! x

Maria59 Tue 04-Jan-22 18:21:50

I haven't had time to read all the post so apologies if this has been mentioned. I follow 2022 Declutter campaign on MSE forum and have done for a few years the aim is not to have a pristine home but to get rid of unnecessary clutter I do find knowing where most things are makes life a lot less

magshard20 Tue 04-Jan-22 18:23:08

My daughter (now 45) and grandson (now 26) plus dog had problems with their landlord a while back, I said I wouldn't see them on the streets they could come here for a short time (in my mind 3/6months) they came along with almost the whole house packed up in boxes of several sizes.....they are still here 8 years later....with said boxes dotted all over the house !!!!
OH when I say I'm going to start going through the boxes tells me it's their job to do it, I know they won't so stalemate!
To say I'm getting a little bit fed up is an understatement, I'm weak I know but hey ho, I'm hoping to win the lottery and leave them ALL behind me.

Direne3 Tue 04-Jan-22 18:28:30

Happysexagenarian wink flowers

Hetty58 Tue 04-Jan-22 18:35:20

kevincharley, agree completely, it's just not the best use of my time. I'm so glad I don't need neat and tidy surroundings to feel good. It must be an awful pain!

Kim19 Tue 04-Jan-22 19:20:43

Because of the massive pain I suffered when clearing out Mum's home, I vowed I would never do this to my sons even though I believe they would be less emotionally involved than I was. I just can't inflict it on them as any sort of payback for my Mum's lifestyle.

oodles Tue 04-Jan-22 19:25:03

I'm with Hetty, don't much like living my life just to clean. I like to see signs of life. I try and keep the floors fairly clear so I don't fall, for safety, and also if someone comes round they don't. I try and keep the place without a lot of surplus stuff, I'll never be a minimalist, but very unfortunately my ex was a dreadfully untidy hoarder. I couldn't get him to even take his dirty plate through to the kitchen, the place was awful and couldn't have anyone round. I ended up, when he went, having to spend such a lot of time getting rid of his stuff to him, he wouldn't take it and wouldn't let me throw it away. it took so long and was such a hard job and he left me with such a lot of things that in the end he said he didn't want. Because of that, I had not been able to sort my stuff out properly for a long time, he'd put his stuff on top of it, the loft was stuffed as well as everywhere else, there was stuff that he'd cluttered up the garden and shed with too. It did my head in, my shoulder too and the time it took to get people to take stuff away, go up the tip etc took up so much of my life and it had to be done because I needed to do essential repairs that he had made it impossible to do with all the stuff he had in the way. Eventually, I got rid of it all, sorted my stuff, got the work done, well a lot of it, and can now keep the place clean and relatively tidy, so that if someone is coming over it doesn't take long to move a few things to clear a chair. And keeping on top of getting rid of stuff that is out of date, thinking about say not keeping old insurance documents [unless you are an employer] receipts for things you don't have anywhere, clothes that are not flattering or fit or are tatty, hobby stuff that you no longer use for whatever reason, means that I won't leave a huge problem for my children.
I think both extremes make it so difficult for other people and both are most definitely to be avoided.

AreWeThereYet Tue 04-Jan-22 20:09:38

^Not at all you do what makes you happy
When my house is tidy I happen to feel better.^

Ditto.

Lilyflower Tue 04-Jan-22 22:18:39

My DH and I are both tidy freaks. We like our rooms to be as clean, tidy, spacious and elegant as we can make them - not being millionaires in a mansion. The state of our (we think) lovely house influences our sense of calm and happiness. Mess makes me anxious and even ill.

But each to her own.

Lucca Tue 04-Jan-22 22:36:22

Hetty58

kevincharley, agree completely, it's just not the best use of my time. I'm so glad I don't need neat and tidy surroundings to feel good. It must be an awful pain!

No it’s not a pain. It’s just a preference. And it definitely doesn’t take much time away from other activities.

Josieann Tue 04-Jan-22 22:41:31

Lucca

Hetty58

kevincharley, agree completely, it's just not the best use of my time. I'm so glad I don't need neat and tidy surroundings to feel good. It must be an awful pain!

No it’s not a pain. It’s just a preference. And it definitely doesn’t take much time away from other activities.

I agree again Lucca, I still have time to walk the dogs for over an hour each day despite the suggestion there might not be time to do so.
It's not a pain.

Lucca Tue 04-Jan-22 22:43:19

And believe me if the house is untidy but there’s a game of tennis on offer or lunch with a friend or a nice walk then it stays untidy for that day…

f77ms Wed 05-Jan-22 10:36:22

Each to their own but i cannot relax if the house is untidy. I can't stop looking at the mess and it makes me very agitated until i have tidied it away. I don't think i have a problem as such but think it is years living with 4 boys and an untidy husband!

Naninka Wed 05-Jan-22 13:25:07

None taken, OP.
I have lived in some very small flats/houses. Vertical cube drawers would have been a godsend. I like the fact that you can take a whole box out, pop it on the floor and have a leisurely rummage through whilst sat down.
I notice a lot of these home organisation lifestyle programmes have clever cubes to aid "systemising"!
Good luck!

FannyCornforth Wed 05-Jan-22 13:36:08

Thank you Naninka, I will definitely look at those cubes!

JaneJudge Wed 05-Jan-22 13:41:43

I noticed my neighbour had some of those cubes on top of her kitchen cupboards (those that fit in those ikea kallax units) and I thought what a good idea to keep everything out the way....so I bought some and I found they fitted in my landing cupboard shelves and it looks much tidier now smile

JaneJudge Wed 05-Jan-22 13:42:20

I noticed my neighbours cubes whilst I was looking after her dogs btw! I haven't been spying on her I have really they get up to funny antics

AreWeThereYet Wed 05-Jan-22 19:05:11

Gosh now I have to wonder about what amazing lives some of you lead. I thought I had a pretty busy life but I still find a few hours here and there to tidy up. It's not an every day occurrence, and as Lucca said, if something interesting turns up the tidying can wait another day.

When we were younger Mr A and I were much less tidy, we just weren't home that much. Plus it's difficult anyway if there are kids around. It just makes life so much less annoying to be able to find the scissors in the drawer first time instead of hunting for them, or the book you wanted to read. Once you've actually done the tidying up and got things where you want them it's a case of minutes putting them away again, not hours.

AreWeThereYet Wed 05-Jan-22 19:05:59

JaneJudge

I noticed my neighbours cubes whilst I was looking after her dogs btw! I haven't been spying on her --I have really they get up to funny antics--

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AreWeThereYet Wed 05-Jan-22 19:20:04

FannyC I used to have some of those Ikea cubes when I lived in a small flat. They were perfect for all those little things that clutter up drawers but you want to keep together. I had some in the bedroom where I kept hairdryers/tongs/creams and lotions/etc. and some in the kitchen that I used partly as shelves for cookery books. The cubes were nice and bright and different colours so I could mix and match colour schemes. Well worth taking a look.

Calistemon Wed 05-Jan-22 19:21:45

But they haven't got doors so, unless something is artistically arranged, it could annoy me ?

AreWeThereYet Wed 05-Jan-22 19:27:58

Calistemon

But they haven't got doors so, unless something is artistically arranged, it could annoy me ?

They have removable cubes that slot in to each space so you can't see what is in them. Always like having doors ?

Casdon Wed 05-Jan-22 19:58:17

You can get doors for the IKEA cubes, both glass and plain that blend in with the unit. I love them, they are an organiser’s dream.

Mom3 Wed 05-Jan-22 21:43:39

I'm not bothered by clutter. It makes me feel cozy, but I have been decluttering gradually because my husband likes things to be neater. I almost always know where scissors and other things are. I like to have the kitchen and bathroom sanitary and I change bedsheets twice a week. My bedside table is a mess with piles of books and magazines.

Calistemon Wed 05-Jan-22 22:44:34

AreWeThereYet

Calistemon

But they haven't got doors so, unless something is artistically arranged, it could annoy me ?

They have removable cubes that slot in to each space so you can't see what is in them. Always like having doors ?

I didn't realise, that's interesting.

Teacheranne Wed 05-Jan-22 23:47:12

FannyCornforth

What has everyone done with their dvds?

Binned them years ago, along with music cassette tapes, computer storage discs and DVD’s - I’m ruthless at times!