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De-cluttering, the never-ending process

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karmalady Tue 21-Mar-23 07:49:13

De-cluttering can be emotionally and physically draining. We, when we were two, started the process from the family home and that was in 2006. The big de-clutter

Since then we moved house twice and had two more de-clutters

Then we became just I and I moved again to a new build with much less storage but I got storage made and I developed room for stash

Now at 75, I am on another mission, to remove what I don`t need or will not need. Last remove was from my garden just two days ago, tall planters, short planters and the contents

That bit of help, advice and encouragement is all we need. We know what to do but it is, or can be, psychologically difficult. Slow and steady is key

Nannashirlz Wed 18-Oct-23 14:22:47

Being an ex military wife I can’t remember how many times I’ve moved and not just in this country but overseas too and back to uk and I’ve just done my last move 6 weeks ago I’m moving no more I’m happy with my bungalow

Doodledog Wed 18-Oct-23 15:50:46

the thought of that fills me with dread, Nannashirlz. We've only had three houses in the 43 years we've been married. Having said that, maybe if we'd moved more often I wouldn't have so much 'stuff'.

Anyway - three bags to the tip and five to the charity shop today. I am about to book a collection for the books to go next week, too. It's been a slow process, but I'm starting to see light at the end of the tunnel.

Doodledog Wed 18-Oct-23 16:24:26

I've just been reading about the 20/20 rule of decluttering. The gist is that you can safely declutter anything you are keeping 'just in case' if you can replace it for less than £20 within 20 minutes of your house. According to the authors, that should cover 99% of 'just in case' items, as 'just in case' rarely comes to pass, and it would certainly apply to the vast majority of the books I am hanging onto. Hmmmm.

RosiesMaw Wed 18-Oct-23 20:58:44

Well it wouldn't for me!

Doodledog Wed 18-Oct-23 22:09:06

The books?

I know - I hate getting rid of them, but I have bookcases in every room, and they are all full. If I ever want to read another new book I need to thin them out. My children both read, but don't hang onto books - they read them and pass them on. They don't have reference books either, as they can Google everything they need to know. It's a different mindset, and I can't quite get into it, but it makes sense.

fancythat Wed 18-Oct-23 22:39:09

Doodledog

I've just been reading about the 20/20 rule of decluttering. The gist is that you can safely declutter anything you are keeping 'just in case' if you can replace it for less than £20 within 20 minutes of your house. According to the authors, that should cover 99% of 'just in case' items, as 'just in case' rarely comes to pass, and it would certainly apply to the vast majority of the books I am hanging onto. Hmmmm.

Interesting.

I can now see that the last job will end up being the loft. Shudder.
I have had a couple of goes over the years. But need to be more ruthless this time around. Need to do it thoroughly.

Not at all sure how much could be replaced for under £20, Not a lot I dont think. But have not thought of the loft in those terms before. Hmm.

fancythat Wed 18-Oct-23 22:41:13

Glad I have done the books.
I quite like decluttering. But books held me up.

I have only moved the once.
And didnt have that many possessions when I did. Which was more than 30 years ago.

karmalady Thu 19-Oct-23 06:48:10

Books are so nice Doodledog, to hold and to read and I empathise. Passing them on would give someone else that same pleasure. I think that many books are meant to be shared on and on down the line. The books I don`t let go are all technical in some way, materia medica, specialist crafting and there is a thick tome about woodworking. They are all staying with me.

I liked that 20/20 concept, it makes good sense.

Doodledog Thu 19-Oct-23 11:04:51

I think it’s a good test of how much you want to reread a book if you have to buy a new copy to do so.

Today I am doing my son’s old room, which has become a dumping ground like all the bedrooms. He is working near us next week and planning to stay here overnight, so I plan to get it finished for then. If I get the wardrobes sorted out (more overspill in those) and sort the ‘to be sorted’ pile it will be a good start.

MayBee70 Thu 19-Oct-23 13:20:40

If I’ve loved a book I feel as though it has become part of me and can’t part with it.

Doodledog Thu 19-Oct-23 13:36:09

I know. It’s not easy. But the truth is that I rarely reread, as I always have a queue waiting. If I wanted to read something again I could get a new copy, or read it on Kindle. That doesn’t work with cook books or poetry (for me, anyway). I like to flick back and forth in those, and use actual bookmarks rather than electronic ones.

I am still considering the book issue, as I am still working on son’s room.

Skydancer Thu 19-Oct-23 13:40:44

I declutter and then stuff seems to appear from somewhere. But I have been quite ruthless of late. Lots given away on Freecycle, some sold for small amounts on Facebook, stuff to charity shop, At least I feel others are getting use from things rather than them going into landfill. It IS difficult to do but we have recently renovated our main bedroom and are being ruthless as to what goes back in. It is quite minimalist and, to be honest, makes me love being in there.

Doodledog Thu 19-Oct-23 15:00:22

I am so looking forward to having it all done and the bedrooms decorated. I struggle to do it, and as most of the clutter is mine, Mr Dog can’t really help, other than to keep taking the bags to the relevant drop-off places, but it will be worth it in the end.

Esmay Thu 19-Oct-23 18:52:32

My decluttering is a perpetual thing :

Chatting to a young guy the other day - I discovered that he is a passionate baker and I've given him my huge collection of Bake Off books .
He was thrilled and I'm delighted that someone is going to use them .
And someone else has been given masses of bed linen which I wasn't using so a cupboard has been emptied .
Over the weekend , if the weather is OK - a young girl with a blank canvas is getting a lot of extra plants .

Doodledog Fri 20-Oct-23 09:15:36

I made decent progress yesterday. Today I am busy from 11-1.00, which is a nuisance as it takes up some of both morning and afternoon, and I’m out this evening, but I should be able to finish the room I started and get on top of normal household things today, ready for another blitz at the weekend.

ADD makes this so much harder, but I am making the most of a ‘focus’ phase to get a lot done in short bursts.

I’m starting to feel a lot more confident that I’ll get there in time. Having space in cupboards will make it so much easier to keep on top of things when it’s done, too.

Cabbie21 Fri 20-Oct-23 09:30:22

I had planned to take a car load of decluttered stuff out to various destinations this morning but the weather is horrendous and roads semi flooded, so that will have to wait. A charity is coming tomorrow to collect four items of furniture.
I had better crack on with the paperwork today.

Doodledog Fri 20-Oct-23 12:15:10

Doing paperwork declutters the mind.

Callistemon21 Fri 20-Oct-23 14:49:48

Doodledog

Doing paperwork declutters the mind.

Shredding it is even better 😁

Cabbie21 Mon 23-Oct-23 07:10:58

Two of my items were rejected by the restoration company so I guess they will have to go to the tip. Too bulky for my car. The driver admired various vintage electronic devices and told me they are of value but I don’t want to use EBay or similar and have to post them nor do I want random people coming to my door.

I am now waiting for three different people I know to fix a date to collect various specific things. A book dealer has not replied at all and I have no idea how to get rid of so many specialist books. I had a mental target of the end of October for several things but the only one within my power to reach is my tax return!

Doodledog Mon 23-Oct-23 09:41:10

I use these people for books although they will take other items too (not furniture or bedding). They collect from your doorstep and sell for charity. Books are too heavy to take to the charity shop so I arrange for them to be picked up. Having a date concentrates the mind, too

Doodledog Mon 23-Oct-23 09:42:10

Posted too soon!
anglocollections.co.uk

Doodledog Mon 23-Oct-23 09:43:46

Sorry - www.anglodoorstepcollections.co.uk

RosiesMaw Mon 23-Oct-23 09:48:24

Thank you Doodledog for the link. At the moment I just fill a couple of carrier bags (double bagged for strength) and keep them in the car until I can park close enough to the Oxfam bookshop but it’s worth knowing other channels, especially if they collect.
However I thought of all the “declutterers” when I saw this recently gringrin

Doodledog Mon 23-Oct-23 10:45:24

Ha! I will live to be 200 in that case grin

annodomini Mon 23-Oct-23 11:14:32

A year ago, planning a move from my 2-bed terrace to a 2-bed retirement flat, I got stuck in to de-cluttering...or so I thought. How did so much of the clutter manage to get into the removal van? I never realised how many pictures used to hang on my walls. Now, do I really want them? I hope the charity shops will welcome some of them. Likewise with books which my son says I will never read as I mostly read on Kindle! But I'm kind of attached to them. Honestly, If I ever drive up to those pearly gates, I will have a boot full of - let's call a spade a spade - clutter.