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De-cluttering, the never-ending process

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karmalady Tue 21-Mar-23 07:49:13

De-cluttering can be emotionally and physically draining. We, when we were two, started the process from the family home and that was in 2006. The big de-clutter

Since then we moved house twice and had two more de-clutters

Then we became just I and I moved again to a new build with much less storage but I got storage made and I developed room for stash

Now at 75, I am on another mission, to remove what I don`t need or will not need. Last remove was from my garden just two days ago, tall planters, short planters and the contents

That bit of help, advice and encouragement is all we need. We know what to do but it is, or can be, psychologically difficult. Slow and steady is key

Callistemon21 Mon 12-Jun-23 15:30:56

Tiny Tears anyone?

Greenfinch Mon 12-Jun-23 15:03:15

Creative use of hampers. Good for you !grin

Callistemon21 Mon 12-Jun-23 14:48:59

Greenfinch

Oh, why not? What do you use them for ?😊
This is wanted for a school raffle prize. Good cause🥺?

Well done.

They have dolls in one at the moment; really I should get rid of the dollies but no-one wants them. Then I could fill it with yarn 😀

Another one has spare bedding in it in the appropriate bedroom.

Another one has yarn in it - you get the gist 😁

Greenfinch Mon 12-Jun-23 14:46:20

Oh, why not? What do you use them for ?😊
This is wanted for a school raffle prize. Good cause🥺?

Callistemon21 Mon 12-Jun-23 14:42:41

Greenfinch

Hurrah! Someone on Freegle has just asked for a wicker hamper and I have one. Another bit of decluttering. I hope they come to collect it!

No-one is having my wicker hampers 😲

Just saying .....

Greenfinch Mon 12-Jun-23 14:39:09

Hurrah! Someone on Freegle has just asked for a wicker hamper and I have one. Another bit of decluttering. I hope they come to collect it!

karmalady Sat 10-Jun-23 08:04:21

wink 5 new items of clothing in, all at half price and items I wear for winter. The older ones are getting tatty and will be removed. I suppose I should call this maintenance and not de-cluttering, unless I can remove 6 or more items in which case slow mo de-cluttering continues

SueDonim Fri 09-Jun-23 00:13:44

Cardboard and glass went to the dump today!

MayBee70 Thu 08-Jun-23 23:19:32

cornergran

Oh I like the sunshine maybee. That’s the problem, I’m outside all the time not giving a thought to what’s lurking indoors grin.

It’s outside work I’m having to do at the moment so it’s working out quite well! Mind you it’s supposed to be raining in a day or so.

cornergran Thu 08-Jun-23 22:47:52

Oh I like the sunshine maybee. That’s the problem, I’m outside all the time not giving a thought to what’s lurking indoors grin.

MayBee70 Thu 08-Jun-23 21:59:44

cornergran

Still plodding on here. Somehow life - and sunshine - seems to get in the way of focusing. A couple of supermarket sized bags, one of clothes the other of ‘stuff’, went to a charity shop this week so definitely not given up. I’ve not seen that programme maybee, will have a look, could inspire me.

Sometimes the sheer enormity of how much I have to do overpowers me. But I’m the opposite: warm weather and I find an energy that I don’t have in winter. I was actually getting a bit worried about my health because I was so tired and achey but after a week or so of warm weather I feel like a new person.

cornergran Thu 08-Jun-23 18:33:07

Still plodding on here. Somehow life - and sunshine - seems to get in the way of focusing. A couple of supermarket sized bags, one of clothes the other of ‘stuff’, went to a charity shop this week so definitely not given up. I’ve not seen that programme maybee, will have a look, could inspire me.

FishandChips15 Thu 08-Jun-23 18:28:26

I have a new method. Everyday I am dumping, recycling, donating or giving away ONE thing from the garage or inside the house. So far so good and it feels quite refreshing. Little things please little minds!!

MayBee70 Thu 08-Jun-23 17:56:15

Not exactly a decluttering programme but I’ve just discovered Clean it, fix it on BBC and am binge watching the whole series. So many tips on organising the home and quite reassuring to see other people with homes like mine. It’s the sort of programme that gears me up into tackling jobs. Mind you it’s yet another programme where I don’t believe they do the work in 24 hours. The programme I’m watching at the moment features someone who, like me, struggles to throw things away because they just go into landfill. And, 20+ years after he left my ex is going to clear his stuff from out of the garage grin

fancythat Wed 07-Jun-23 11:45:18

Witzend

Riverwalk

Forgot to add, in places like Ghana any clothes that do end up in street markets, rather than landfill, are ruining the trade of local manufacturers.

A dd worked for a couple of years in Ethiopia, where poverty was widespread and dire. After one trip home she took a stack of pre worn men’s shirts, from dh and friends, to distribute to people she knew - they were delighted with them - anything new was unaffordable.

I particularly remember her anecdote of the old man who was night watchman outside their office - he didn’t even have a proper home, would sleep on a nearby bench during the day. She gave him a work shirt I’d once bought for dh that for some reason he didn’t like and had never worn - it was still in its M&S packaging. He was so pleased - put it on immediately and wore it day after day.

Super for the old man.

I have a relative who used to live in a 3rd world country.
When she revisits, she takes the clothes she doesnt want, in her suitcase, back to the country.
People there are delighted to have them.

fancythat Wed 07-Jun-23 11:43:17

Witzend

lindiann

What could I do with old videos still got old video recorder/player don't know how it works?

We put an ancient Betamax video recorder (bought in the 80s when living abroad) on Freecycle, and amazingly enough, someone wanted it! I don’t think it was even working but he said he could fix it.

A few years ago we had a couple of old tvs. still in working order. From the 90s.
Didnt think anyone would want them.
They do apparently. A relative took them. They get used to play on for old computer games.

Witzend Wed 07-Jun-23 11:20:20

Riverwalk

Forgot to add, in places like Ghana any clothes that do end up in street markets, rather than landfill, are ruining the trade of local manufacturers.

A dd worked for a couple of years in Ethiopia, where poverty was widespread and dire. After one trip home she took a stack of pre worn men’s shirts, from dh and friends, to distribute to people she knew - they were delighted with them - anything new was unaffordable.

I particularly remember her anecdote of the old man who was night watchman outside their office - he didn’t even have a proper home, would sleep on a nearby bench during the day. She gave him a work shirt I’d once bought for dh that for some reason he didn’t like and had never worn - it was still in its M&S packaging. He was so pleased - put it on immediately and wore it day after day.

Witzend Wed 07-Jun-23 11:11:16

lindiann

What could I do with old videos still got old video recorder/player don't know how it works?

We put an ancient Betamax video recorder (bought in the 80s when living abroad) on Freecycle, and amazingly enough, someone wanted it! I don’t think it was even working but he said he could fix it.

Callistemon21 Wed 07-Jun-23 11:05:38

I think she may have a few problems going by previous posts elsewhere

I'm sorry to hear that but it is still not an excuse for such a mean post.

karmalady Wed 07-Jun-23 11:02:09

I am on a snails pace here, very slow but steady but still making positive progress. Even better now that I know my local deli/wholefood selldseg currants loose ie I can buy 4 oz if that is what I need

karmalady Wed 07-Jun-23 10:59:37

Thank you fancythat, I was mean so I have asked for my post to be deleted. I will ignore her future postings

Callistemon21 Wed 07-Jun-23 10:45:45

My precious inherited stuff isn't junk, nor are some of the things I rarely use.
"Do I love it, do I want it, do I need it?"

Some stuff is kept just for the pleasure of it, not just because it's useful.

fancythat Wed 07-Jun-23 08:44:20

May be best not to bite karmalady.

I think she may have a few problems going by previous posts elsewhere.

Feel free to dm me if you would like to, watermeadow.
I will ignore your post on here.

karmalady Wed 07-Jun-23 06:59:22

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

watermeadow Tue 06-Jun-23 20:58:05

I don’t have clutter and suppose that you poor overwhelmed declutterers should never have started hoarding.
I don’t keep anything which is not being used. If you haven’t needed something in the past six months, chuck it out. Give it away or recycle or bin it.
But it’s too late now, you’re surrounded with junk which you don’t want to part with. So hang onto it and stop feeling guilty.