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Have we lost the ability to make our homes comfortable and cosy?

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M0nica Wed 23-Aug-23 17:31:09

As we are beginning to think of downsizing and moving closer to our children, I have inevitably been browsing Rightmove looking at areas, properties etc to try and refine exactly where we may want to go and what we want to live in.

Without going into detail, our price range, in most areas can roughly be described as 4/5 bedroomed house on new estate. Except we want old and towncentre.

Anyway browsing house details, the thing that strikes me most is how unhomely uncosy and at times, downright uncomfortable and depressing so many of them look.

It doesn't matter whether the house is brand new or three hundred years old, the interior is most likely to be painted grey, the furnitutre will be grey, the kitchen will be black and white. Older houses will be stripped of all their period features and have ceiling with inset lights. They all look as if nobody lives in them and could ever want to live in them.

In the past, say 10 years ago, houses would have different styles of furnishing from high modern to cottage cosy, but all would lookm comfortable so that you could imagine yourself living in the house. Now the interiors are so inhospitable, they put you off wanting to go any further, because the first thing you do is start calculating how much it will cost you to get the house completely redecorated, recarpetted and curtained, before you even move in.

M0nica Sat 26-Aug-23 19:48:18

I've given up explaining. It just shows how we, British, have completely lost the art of making houses look welcoming. No one even understands the concept.

It is so much more than just having a nice tidy living room . What the picture of the old house living room had, which obviously is not something you would expect to see now, When I looked at that picture, it immediately had people in it, from the period, a family enjoying Christmas. Theyw ere instantly there.

Far too many modern interiors seem to have been designed to be looked at and not lived in.

Germanshepherdsmum Sat 26-Aug-23 18:36:58

I think MOnica liked the 50s room Callistemon. Even though we know it’s staged. Or perhaps I still don’t understand her … I’ve given up trying,

Callistemon21 Sat 26-Aug-23 18:22:38

Staceyann

I’m always amused by the terms used in magazines to describe trendy ‘new’ home styles - like these from House Beautiful -

Staceyann my SisIL had one of those cane chairs in the 1950s!!!

There's nothing new in fashion trends. 😁

Callistemon21 Sat 26-Aug-23 18:20:39

Norah

Is this what some call cosy?

Oh Dear!

It was a joke!

As hollysteers said she didn’t mean her photo of the 40s house to be taken too seriously! 😁

Staceyann Sat 26-Aug-23 18:17:52

I’m always amused by the terms used in magazines to describe trendy ‘new’ home styles - like these from House Beautiful -

SuperTinny Sat 26-Aug-23 18:00:34

My DH and SIL have been slowly doing up their first home together. Despite being the daughter of of someone who loves a bit of 'flummery' (her words!) she has very definite ideas about her own decor and has hard floors, window blinds and bare light bulbs. Her sofa is leather...... but wait, there may be a floor rug hmm.
I hate going over to babysit because it's so 'cold'. In fact I'd much rather volunteer to have DG overnight at ours even with the probable night time disturbance and early start!

Norah Sat 26-Aug-23 16:04:38

Is this what some call cosy?

Oh Dear!

Cadenza123 Sat 26-Aug-23 14:57:41

Fashions come and go and at the moment the trend it for clean cut, mono tone. Or maybe with blasts of bright colour. My home has a lot of beige, cream etc. It's what i like but I really think that it is now getting to look a bit dated. Not that I intend to do anything about it!

SporeRB Sat 26-Aug-23 14:03:28

Our house is not modern by Rightmove standards.

It is a 1960s house, so we have 1960s furniture, no shutters but plain net curtain in our windows.

The carpet in our living room is the original patterned 1960s carpet. The carpet is so good after all these years (60+), I am so reluctant to replace it. Terracotta tiles in our porchway.

I don’t like grey but I do like off white for walls.

I will be replacing all the internal doors soon and they will not be white or light oak like those in Rightmove but dark walnut colour to match the existing doors and the internal porch door will be white with 1960s patterned glass to match the double door to our living room. I love old stuff.

If we were to move home, it will be a 1930s bungalow rendered white. I will style the bungalow after the single storey black and white colonial bungalow in Far East with British Colonial décor.

Musicgirl Sat 26-Aug-23 12:39:42

Thank you, Doodledog.

Musicgirl Sat 26-Aug-23 12:38:43

Three different views of the music room. I hope it is a welcoming space.

Doodledog Sat 26-Aug-23 12:35:41

That sounds lovely, Musicgirl, and I'm guessing from your username that it will be a perfect fit for you grin

Musicgirl Sat 26-Aug-23 12:33:47

We have just moved house for the first time in 26 years. The previous owners were a similar age to us and the decor reflects this. Neutral colours throughout, which means that our pictures and bits and pieces fit very well. We were in the fortunate position of being able to do some alterations before we moved in. It has a big kitchen but there was no proper space for a washing machine and tumble dryer. We also have two acoustic pianos and a digital one as well as various other musical instruments (semi-retired piano, violin and viola teacher and accompanist). There was a double garage so the main body was converted to a music room and library) with two doors leading to the part behind the garage doors. One half has been converted to a utility/laundry room and the other half is used for storage. I am thrilled with it.

Callistemon21 Sat 26-Aug-23 12:30:08

paddyann54

doodledog I think everyone has a different idea of what a home looks like ...I certainly wouldn't want things strewn aross the room.there might be books or paperwork on the sideboard or things on the stairs to take up but they dont stay there .
I dont understand what Monica means because comfort to me is a bright,clean reasonably tidy space.If someone arrives here without warning,as happens often,I can open my doors and let them in without moving "things" off chairs or floors.
Thats not a cosy house in the old picture upthread ,its untidy and dated

I don't think that was M0nica's choice, paddyann!
As hollysteers said paddyann54 I didn’t mean my photo of the 40s house to be taken too seriously! 😁

Actually, I think it is more of a 1940s house than 1950s. It's someone's idea of what a 1950s sitting room looked like.

The picture of that room would have got my mother making us tidy up before tea, getting out the duster, polish and hoover and ordering a new suite, carpet, getting out the Singer sewing machine to make new curtains.

Oh - and a new fireplace and a modern radiogram 😁

Sara1954 Sat 26-Aug-23 12:28:22

If our house was in the centre of the town I would like to live in, there would be no way in the world we ever would have been able to afford it.
Eventually we hope to downsize to a smaller house or apartment there, but I don’t feel ready yet.

hollysteers Sat 26-Aug-23 12:25:19

Monica that photo is a stage set. It’s in a museum somewhere, I don’t have the details.

Doodledog Sat 26-Aug-23 12:24:50

paddyann54

doodledog I think everyone has a different idea of what a home looks like ...I certainly wouldn't want things strewn aross the room.there might be books or paperwork on the sideboard or things on the stairs to take up but they dont stay there .
I dont understand what Monica means because comfort to me is a bright,clean reasonably tidy space.If someone arrives here without warning,as happens often,I can open my doors and let them in without moving "things" off chairs or floors.
Thats not a cosy house in the old picture upthread ,its untidy and dated

I agree that everyone has different ideas. I don't want things strewn all over the place either - are you confusing me with someone else?

My post was about location versus the house itself, in response to someone saying the same thing.

hollysteers Sat 26-Aug-23 12:21:19

Oops 50s house.

hollysteers Sat 26-Aug-23 12:17:41

*paddyann54 I didn’t mean my photo of the 40s house to be taken too seriously! 😁 I just came across it whilst reading this thread. I don’t think anyone seriously wants to live like that now…

DaisyAnneReturns Sat 26-Aug-23 12:13:23

I think it's sad that, on a thread about "House and Homes" we have to have the standard "My opinion is better than yours" culture wars headline.

It is interesting to hear what makes a house a home for each individual, but it so often seems to be set out as a competition.

paddyann54 Sat 26-Aug-23 11:39:09

doodledog I think everyone has a different idea of what a home looks like ...I certainly wouldn't want things strewn aross the room.there might be books or paperwork on the sideboard or things on the stairs to take up but they dont stay there .
I dont understand what Monica means because comfort to me is a bright,clean reasonably tidy space.If someone arrives here without warning,as happens often,I can open my doors and let them in without moving "things" off chairs or floors.
Thats not a cosy house in the old picture upthread ,its untidy and dated

Blondiescot Sat 26-Aug-23 11:36:20

I quite like a browse through estate agents' websites - which is a bit strange, because I've never moved house. Not once. I still live in the house in which I was born and grew up - which has been in my family for several generations. I find I can admire houses of various styles and designs and picture myself living in them, although I can't see us ever moving from here.

Doodledog Sat 26-Aug-23 11:26:04

A friend of mine has a lovely bungalow. It is large and very well-appointed, but it is on the outskirts of a grotty town, and there are no amenities nearby, so she has to take the car to go anywhere. Because of the lack of amenities she rarely sees the neighbours (everyone goes out in their cars) and it is a lonely place to live.

The same bungalow in the centre of a pleasanter town would cost a fortune. I love her house, but wouldn't swap it for mine, which is very conveniently located and has a lot going on around it.

Germanshepherdsmum Sat 26-Aug-23 11:24:24

I agree that location is very important. It has to be a combination of the right house and the right place. I’m lucky to have achieved that here. I see some lovely houses on RM, but the location has ruled them out for me. I love peace and quiet, no near neighbours.

Sara1954 Sat 26-Aug-23 11:17:57

Farzanah, I’m not sure I agree. I’m not keen on the village we live in, we bought this house twenty years ago to be nearer to one of our children’s schools, our intention was to stay here for four years, and then move again.
I would love to pick up this house and move it, but every time we consider moving, we decide we would have a lot of difficulty finding one we like as much as this one.