Want to move house but ....

Are you on Facebook? There are people who can come in and declutter for you, it’s become a thing. Maybe tackle your ‘stuff’ first? As a goal? then work on your husbands mindset in smaller chunks?

Perhaps it's time to put yourself back on the radar?

It's a big job, moving.

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There are companies that specialise in sorting out houses after problems - next door used one when their plumbing burst (their insurance company sent them in). They will assess the damage and do what they can and recommend builders and decorators etc. We are too far away for this particular company to help but perhaps your house insurers could recommend someone

I think you need to sell and move to a smaller, more manageable house. The flooding might be a bargaining point for potential buyers. Even if you have to sell it for a lower than expected price, just get rid of it. I’m sure a builder will be interested. Good luck !

I couldn't have persuaded my DH to move, though we should have years ago.
He died 4 years ago and at last I have made some decisions.

I am going to move next year.
I have had a couple of valuations though like yours I fear a structural report and home report will be far more realistic.
I need to sell before I can really look at other properties and am trying to keep my expectations reasonable.

I hope you can take control now so that you can choose a place together.
Good luck!

I would definitely move now. Do not bother with repairs etc, just pay for a good clean and rubbish removal and find a place that suits you better. Sheltered housing would be a good option but I imagine there might be a wait for that. If you choose a flat make sure there is a lift if you are not on the ground floor. A communal garden would be pleasant, or a decent balcony. A spare bedroom would give you extra space if you have a lifetime of belongings that you "need" to keep.

Good luck. I can see my DH being equally reluctant to move even though he cannot do his share in maintaining our 5-bed detached house and garden - and has never really had the inclination - but after a year of cancer treatment for me I realise I can't do it all any more - and don't want to.

A feel my DH is being very selfish in not at least seriously considering making a move now, while we still can.

Do not underestimate the stress of a house move. It might seem a good solution, but takes its toll.

Also if your husband is shown a pleasant flat or small house he might be able to visualize it and get used to the idea. You have to box clever, I find . Pick the right moment.

Do think about contacting GP surgery about health issues. There may be more help available than you realise.

I understand your predicament. Your husband is finding the thought of moving difficult and under the circumstances he is probably behaving irrationally! My husband has Alzheimer's Disease and it does make everyday life very complicated at times . I recognize the term ' how do I get through to him' and know exactly what you mean ! May I suggest you speak to an estate agent , your husband may listen to him/ her!
My husband has not had a stroke but his decision making is not what it should be - does he listen to me - 'no', is the short answer to that. It never used to be like this and it is not easy to acknowledge the change in him . Please get someone else to speak to your husband about the consequences of remaining in your present house , he may take notice of someone else. Thinking of you.

Yes absolutely ask the advice of some estate agents.
It doesn't commit you to anything and won't cost you anything.
I find writing lists very helpful.
Start to think about where you might like to move to and start doing research.
Best wishes with it all

Hi, am also Midlands area and want a granny flat as can’t manage the front and back gardens and it’s getting too expensive to pay others… I’m no real help but do understand why you are looking to move now and not later…agree with Skydancer, go into local Estate Agents who I think would be interested in selling your present property and finding you a new home. Good luck 💐

I feel for you.

Perhaps sell as it stands, in need of renovation? Take a lower price - condition updates and improvements cost money as well.

I really do feel for you, it’s hard enough moving house when older but especially with a husband who won’t decide or help.
Get on this problem right away as you know you need to, which means being firm with your DH about it. Get two different estate agents to come and do a valuation on your house.Don’t do much with the house other than everything being clean and tidy.New owners will change kitchen and bathroom anyway.
Make a list of must haves for the next move and the town and location that interests you.
Doing those things is a step in the right direction and doesn’t mean you have to follow through if you change your mind.

Definitely definitely ask the opinions of a couple of estate agents. Their advice is free. We have moved a few times and have found their help invaluable. They can take everything off your hands.