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HOUSES THAT ARE UNTOUCHED FOR DECADES

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CariadAgain Wed 11-Jun-25 05:35:05

As many of us do - I still check out properties for sale - even though I bought my current one a few years back and have no intention of moving.

When I bought mine (ie a 1970s bungalow) I had darn nearly everything ripped out. It really needed work - and all that's left is I kept the windows (as they were upvc), kept the internal doors and most of the skirting boards. Everything else got ripped out from both the house itself and garden.

Mine really needed it - poorly-planned 1980s kitchen, tatty 1970s bathroom, etc. All that - despite the fact there's been two owners in between the first owner and myself and the last owner did buy it this century.

Anyways - at long last it's done now - new kitchen, new bathroom, new floor coverings throughout, garden gutted and turned into my style, new decor throughout (had to be replastered before that could be done), all exterior doors changed, etc.

I still struggle with just why, in particular, the house still had a 1970s bathroom - despite those owners no 2 and no 3 since then and it was one that didn't even work well (high bath, trickling little shower, 1970s wall fire!!).

Since then - I've seen someone I used to know sell her house here and buy a 1960s bungalow here and do absolutely nothing to it (not even changing the 1970s carpets and having it decorated) - despite the fact she would have had quite a bit of leftover money from selling her last house. Me - I was walking through her "new to her" house when she moved in enthusiastically making suggestions for what a new kitchen/new bathroom could be like (yep...the house needed that) and defo taking it for granted she'd change the old 1970s/1980s carpets throughout and decorate at least (it needed it).

I was also very surprised to see that a neighbour bought an adjacent house and she would have had quite a bit of money over from her (noticeably dearer) last house and yet all she's had done was there was a painter in for a couple of days and so I think she's probably just had one or two rooms painted. She didn't even bring her own furniture with her when she moved - and is just using the previous owners furniture.

Looking at houses for sale (specifically bungalows - as that's what I bought - and I'm seeing 1980s or maybe even 1970s kitchen after kitchen/bathroom after bathroom. 1970s/1980s carpets). Cue for me thinking "It's obviously a probate house - and nothing much looks like it's been done since the 1970s/1980s. Have they had that house for 40-50 years personally that they don't seem to have done anything much to it? But it appears they must have bought it more recently than that and that means they're living with stuff from a previous owner a couple of buyers ago by the look of it?

That puzzles me personally - ie to move into a house that's basically not been touched for 40-50 years and do nothing at all (even though some of them will certainly have the money to do so). I would understand if they didn't have the money to do the work - but it often looks as if they did.

Very puzzling to use someone else's old furniture - I'd be wondering what the heck might have happened over the decades to the sofa I wanted to sit on and could be "harbouring" all seats of spills/dog hairs/etc.

Thankfully I have got the renovation work on this house finished before feeling I'd run out of energy to chase the "manana and unreliable" workmen this area seems to specialise in.....and so I can 'put my feet up' and just keep it up from here onwards.

The thing that surprised me most with my own current house is that owners no. 2 and no. 3 had obviously both kept the tatty old Rayburn, hybrid central heating set-up and oil tank in the garden that owner no. 1 wanted. I came in and thought "I wouldnt even know how to work that stuff" and out it came and I've got a normal gas central heating system and the Rayburn got taken out.

Certainly what puzzles me most is even living with a previous owners furniture....but I see it happening...

Scribbles Mon 16-Jun-25 12:55:51

@David49 as I understand it, there is no law in England to prevent you being naked anywhere, private or public. No offence is committed unless and until somebody is made offended by your nudity and makes a formal complaint.
Personally, I've no desire to test this by taking my clothes off in Tesco or the Albert Hall but each to his own - and I did briefly consider pressure washing in the buff when I did front and back yards last year. 😆

Ziggy62 Mon 16-Jun-25 12:22:38

BlueBelle

That thread about the nude gardener was on Gransnet

There is one on MN as well, strangely

Jaxjacky Mon 16-Jun-25 12:15:47

Well I’m not normal according to you David as I did when we lived it Françe miles from anyone, I was clean too as we dipped in and out of the pool.

David49 Mon 16-Jun-25 12:02:11

Normal people don’t go gardening in the nude, if you have a private garden there is no law that prohibits it, in the same way some like to sunbathe naked in a discrete part of their garden.

It’s not just old back to back gardens that have privacy issues, modern estates are also back to back with clear views into opposing windows and parts of gardens.

BlueBelle Sun 15-Jun-25 23:51:47

Haha now I ve really gone down the rabbit hole …’off with their heads’

Allira Sun 15-Jun-25 23:05:34

Back to back as in the olden days?

I don't think they had front gardens either.

Lathyrus3 Sun 15-Jun-25 15:20:19

You mean the backs of all houses should be windowless?

Or houses should be built with a road between each row so that the backs of houses looked out onto the fronts of others?

Or…….

Actually I’m struggling to think of a layout where you have close neighbours but can’t see their garden.

What would be a good design?

Allira Sun 15-Jun-25 10:04:30

Good grief, it's getting worse.

builder bad design

We should all have 10 secluded acres surrounding our houses, of course.

BlueBelle Sat 14-Jun-25 20:48:00

That thread about the nude gardener was on Gransnet

CariadAgain Sat 14-Jun-25 19:18:16

No wonder Earth has disagreements from top to bottom of Society....as some people insult and/or otherwise don't accept a different viewpoint to their own.

But could be worse....could be Mumsnet....where today's threads included a woman that had decided to be outraged and offended by a man sunbathing in the nude in his own back garden. Duh...it's his OWN garden. The thread seemed to be split 50/50 between those who were pointing out "It's his OWN garden - up to him" and those who had decided to be shocked and offended (errr....why......given builders are so prone to having windows of other houses looking down into what should be private back gardens and so some people do decide to be "nosy and offended") - rather than pretending it's not builder bad design (as it is) - as back gardens should be private.

Apparently someone decides to be outraged by nude sunbathing every year regularly on Mumsnet (when they are the ones that decided to look down into what should be somebodys private back garden).

RosieandherMaw Sat 14-Jun-25 15:29:06

smilesmile

Scribbles Sat 14-Jun-25 14:55:09

RosieandherMaw
Or was it all just an excuse for OP to write at length about her own prejudices?

A pretty fair summing-up, I'd say.

Lathyrus3 Sat 14-Jun-25 14:51:31

Thank you Norah.

Done and dusted a few weeks ago.

Now I can eat cake again😬

Norah Sat 14-Jun-25 14:28:06

Lathyrus3

Here’s my mother/mother-in-law of the grooms outfit.

Dead common, that’s us😬

Pretty. Have a lovely time!

NotSpaghetti Sat 14-Jun-25 14:16:10

My lovely mother-in-law (mentioned earlier) who did lots of work just about 5 years ago and does truly love this "new to her" home said this week "what is the point of being 101?"

Two weeks before there seemed to be a lot of good things in her life.
She is not well ( and may not totally recover) so feels unlike her (formally busy) self.

How we live and any alterations we make is probably partly to do with how we feel.
flowers - to anyone feeling a bit low today.

RosieandherMaw Sat 14-Jun-25 13:45:27

BlueBelle

This thread is all about nosiness and oneupmanship and I don’t think it’s a nice thread at all
Crissstitchfan ❤️stay strong
My 35 year old friend is in a big old battle and just been told she has new areas effected it’s heartbreaking
There’s so much more to the world than new furniture and posh decorations

I too find it incomprehensible and pointless.
What business is it of anybody’s how or indeed whether people decorate their own house?
How judgemental and then insensitive to post such hurtful comments about living /end of life when given the GN demographic, there were always going to be those for whom some more years would be a privilege.
Or was it all just an excuse for OP to write at length about her own prejudices?

BlueBelle Sat 14-Jun-25 13:36:57

This thread is all about nosiness and oneupmanship and I don’t think it’s a nice thread at all
Crissstitchfan ❤️stay strong
My 35 year old friend is in a big old battle and just been told she has new areas effected it’s heartbreaking
There’s so much more to the world than new furniture and posh decorations

Cabbie21 Sat 14-Jun-25 13:36:29

I am currently spending on necessary maintenance, some planned, some unexpected, but that’s just part of being a homeowner. I’m a bit clueless as far as decor is concerned and ‘trends’ do not interest me.
If my educational background means I have bookcases rather than a bar in my living room, then my home reflects that. Good.
Each to their own.

Musicgirl Sat 14-Jun-25 13:06:07

I really like both dresses. À

Lathyrus3 Sat 14-Jun-25 11:26:08

Oh I love that! Its gorgeous.

Glad I’m not the only one that loves colour.

👚👗👠👛

Jaxjacky Sat 14-Jun-25 11:19:52

Here is my dress Lathyrus turquoise scalloped edge short cardigan in case it’s cool.

Lathyrus3 Sat 14-Jun-25 10:56:48

It’s one of those throwaway remarks that people make when they are talking about something outside their experience- like terminal illness.

Today is yours to enjoy. I hope it’s a lovely one💐

NotSpaghetti Sat 14-Jun-25 10:52:11

Crossstitchfan
I hope you are able to keep on living life for a good while yet.
flowers

Please don't let a (trivial) conversation about house refurbishment upset you.
I'm sure that nobody would want that.

Allira Sat 14-Jun-25 10:27:49

Ignore it, please, Crossstitchfan, don't let it ruin your day.
It's just thoughtless rather than intentionally unkind, I think. But yes, it could touch a nerve with many people.

flowers

Crossstitchfan Sat 14-Jun-25 10:18:02

CariadAgain

NotSpaghetti

butterandjam - my mother-in-law moved into a "new to her" house at 95.
She rewired, redecorated, put in a new kitchen and bathroom, revamped the utility, took up the carpets in the hall and staircase and had the wood sanded and polished.. she had a new boiler, moved all the plugs and lights about, had new radiators downstairs, ripped everything out of the front garden (and reinvented it) and then had the back garden terraced!

Not everyone will sit tight in their 90s.

Wow! I admire her for stamina....

Well - good for her for still having "life in the old gal" yet....though my own take on old age is more of an "update me" one than an "update house" one.

Part of why I got on with it - as fast as was possible with the tradesmen here that is......is I was thinking "I'm in my 60's (now early 70's) and so gotta get on with it or I won't have the use of a fully-finished (to me) house for very long at all at that age".

My plans personally have all been based around expecting to live until early 80's and having at least 10 years "wear out of" whatever I do to the house. I understand some people want and/or accept a long life - but I'm not one personally and will be likely to be "throwing something at the walls" and putting in an "official complaint in writing to the Almighty" if I hit an 85th birthday (sorta phrased along lines of "What on earth are you DOING keeping me on Planet Earth this long? You must be a sadist expecting me to stay here even longer....haven't I had enough yet?/can I escape now please...").

That's my personal take - and hence basically come my 80's I'll be thinking "No point in doing anything I can help to the house now? I'll keep it maintained and that's it....but I won't be doing anything new at this age/for such a short remaining lifespan."

Like I said - that's my personal take for myself only of "Living past average lifespan = NO thanks!" whilst I understand some people want to go on longer and a local woman I know said she's set herself a target of living to 100!!!!

So - I do think "Well - good for them" if someone decides to take off trekking across the Sahara on the back of a camel in their 80's (as someone told me about a person they met) or taking up some art or bookwriting or something they'd been waiting all their life to do. But my "OMG - I'm still alive (***!!***)" project would also be of a more personal nature - rather than a DIY nature.

CariadAgain - your post made me very angry, and quite upset me actually. In a nutshell, you don’t want to live past a certain age, and will not be happy if you do. I have terminal cancer and I am fighting to say alive. You, on the other hand, will be happy to die.
Well, good for you, and thanks for ruining my day.