My grandson is 9 and he has in the past 3 years 2008,suddenly lost his Nan, my wife whom he adored and in January this year his mother who was my daughter and lived only 10 miles away whom he also adored.
Currently he is residing alone in term time, with his father 200 miles away, but a case conference last week made it clear and it was agreed his life with his father was unsatisfactory for so many reasons, including the fathers total lack of parenting skills. At the case conference, the school head said he is the most problematic child in the entire school. ( What a label.) Hence a Child Protection Plan was unanimously agreed.
My daughter couldn?t fight for permanent custody when she left the family home in 2006 because her personal problems could be used against her.
If the child Protection Plan doesn?t work I have been told, by Children's Services, he will come to me rather than be put into care. What happens to him in the meantime?
I have the back up ability and resources to look after my grandson full time, but of course as a grandparent I have no rights.
The father does not want to release him to me voluntarily and in spite of evidence regarding current and past failures of the child he will fight tooth and nail to keep my grand son. The father has no time for him and does not look after him, clothing or hygiene wise. Neither does the child have any home life except for sitting with his dad in the house listening to music or playing electronic game machines.
The child has no friends and is severely bullied at school. The only time he has any sort of life is when he comes to me 200 miles away for school holidays, when he interacts with other children and is quite a normal 9 year old.
How can I without enormous financial legal resources help my grand son and provide a permanent better life with me?
It is now the weekend and the Child Protection Plan agreed last Thursday will be brought into effect as soon as, but it is not 24/7 so even weekends or evenings, anything can occur.
I have tried Solicitors but all they refer too is the multi thousands it will cost me to pursue residency with no guaranteed outcome.
My daughter in her last will and testament, stated quite clearly she wanted my son and I to be my grand sons legal guardians on her behalf, in the event of her demise. The chances of such a request being enforced are negligible.
Please help me as I am desperate to help my grand son who has suffered as I recently discovered an intolerable upbringing since 2004 when he was 2 years old.
Only the Social Services report of last week detailed the situation of which I clearly had only partial knowledge up until now.
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