we love our kids i like to help my kids but they drive you mad sometimes,,,,my freind is having an awful time with her abusive son at the momet,,,,,oh dear,,,today i was in town and i was sat next to another lady telling her freind about how she was so stressed over her son it was making her ill,,,,,,,,the other lady was moaning about her elderly father,,,,oh dear we all have problems dont we,,,,all the tapestry of life im afraid,,,,,,,at least i can die happy knowing i have helped my kids the best way i know how,,,,like everyone else may have done,,,,,,,,,,yes we made a lot of sacrifices,,,,my kids when they were young used to say mumthere is nothing in the cupboard what are having for tea theres nothing,,,,,but somehow i used to make a tea,,,i used to pretend we were on a aeroplane and i would do a little bit of this and a little bit of that...i would do little squares of bread with brown sause on , then little circles of bread with jam on......cut up a apple or banana if i had it and that was shared between us....and a bit of jelly that was cheap.....it was great and my daughters still remember it,,, good old days,,yes we had to compromise,,,,,i would burn old news papers to keep warm,,,and burn candles at night cos i had no electric,,it was cut off cos i couldnt pay the bill,,,,,,,,,youngsters these days havent lived,