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Advice re winding up estate.

(160 Posts)
HUNTERF Thu 21-Mar-13 11:23:12

Just had a phone call from a lady in her late 30's.
Her mother has passed away and her father passed away some years ago.
There is a will.
The problem is she does not know where the money is but she knows the house is owned by her mother.
The only help I can think of giving her is to offer to help to search the house for evidence of money. I will not feel comfortable looking through other people's cupboards but I will do it if she wants me to.
Anybody got any other suggestions.
When my father passed away I had his money recorded on a spread sheet and I knew exactly where it was. I just think there is a chance a Gransnetter has been in this situation.

Frank

HUNTERF Fri 22-Mar-13 12:27:59

Oh. I have just had another phone call.
Why do they think I will be interested?.

Frank

gillybob Fri 22-Mar-13 12:23:22

Frank I didn't mean who wouldn't want you kicked out of the house. I meant who wouldn't remember the story ! confused ? you soon will be !

Galen Fri 22-Mar-13 12:19:24

Bagsgrin same wavelength.

HUNTERF Fri 22-Mar-13 12:06:04

Hi gillybob

I did not say to this woman that I wanted to inherit her home which is substantial but not as valuable as mine.
What annoyed my father was she wanted me out of the house and our dog.
Another thing she said was she did not like dogs. If that was the case why did she befriend dad in the first place knowing there was a dog in the house and why did she allow me to go spending money on the house if she intended to get me kicked out.
I did not bother to find out which hospital she is in so I can't send her a card.

Frank

Bags Fri 22-Mar-13 12:05:11

galen

"Open the pod doors, Hal"

I'm sorry, Dave, I can't do that.

2001: a Space Odyssey

Emotionless computer...
Needs reprogramming

wink

gillybob Fri 22-Mar-13 11:55:09

Oh Frank The thing is you don't have to watch money so much. You choose to and I stick by what I said earlier that you seem to have some kind of obsession with it.

Yes I remember the lady who wanted you kicked out of the house (who wouldn't?) but the fact is you own the house legally so she will just have to accept that and move on. Why would someone telephone you to tell you that this lady who has been making your life a misery for so long is in hospital? I find that weird. You should send her a get well soon card and write "I hope you will soon be fighting fit" in it...........

I am sure someone who is winding a lot of people up around here. smile

gracesmum Fri 22-Mar-13 11:55:05

I think your comment to gillybob
I quote:
"I find it very annoying that you have to watch money so much."
was rude and uncalled for. As for anybody "winding you up" - well I think you'd know about that wouldn't you?

Elegran Fri 22-Mar-13 11:35:47

If it aint in the database it dont exist.

Galen Fri 22-Mar-13 11:33:40

Error no124
Does not compute!

HUNTERF Fri 22-Mar-13 11:28:41

gillybob

I find it very annoying that you have to watch money so much.
As you may know a lady wanted me to be kicked out of the house I am in and own and she had about 20 supporters.
I have just had a phone call to say she is now in hospital and do I want to send her a get well card.
I am sure the person was winding me up.

Frank

Galen Fri 22-Mar-13 11:27:39

IVE SOLVED IT. EUREKA!

Frank is a very simple computer who has been preprogrammed with a very limited range of responses. Probably by a Chinese student computer engineer!

gillybob Fri 22-Mar-13 11:09:53

Frank I really pity you. All you seem to ever think about is money. Whether it be inheritance, pension, wills,benefits etc.

I know you will find this shocking but there really is so much more to life.

How can anyone be happy when their entire life seems to be taken over by this obsession?

HUNTERF Fri 22-Mar-13 10:52:06

kittylester

How does this relate to this forum?.

kittylester Fri 22-Mar-13 10:49:18

Harking way, way back - phoenix sorry if I stole your idea. Would you be up for writing the screenplay? grin

HUNTERF Fri 22-Mar-13 10:29:21

Hi absent

I would have had some sympathy with the man if he had to leave the house as he would have been homeless.
I don't think he could have been kicked out the minute the court made the order for him to leave.
I think the court would have given him reasonable time to find alternative accommodation.
What people are not realising that when the father married the second wife at that point the children were half owners of the house and had a title to the house.
They made an agreement for the second wife to be able to stay in the house on the basis that they would get all of the house when the second wife passed away.
They just wanted that agreement honoured which was perfectly reasonable.

Frank

whenim64 Fri 22-Mar-13 10:16:41

What prevents you giving a straight answer to a straight question, Frank? It's impossible to have any meaningful dialogue with you when we are met with these single-track responses. I'm interested to know how you have fallen into this helping role.

absent Fri 22-Mar-13 10:15:07

HUNTERF No one was suggesting that he should have been allowed to stay. I think you have misunderstood the posts.

HUNTERF Fri 22-Mar-13 10:10:51

Elegran

The above mentioned gransnetters have not come up with any valid reason why the children should not have thrown the second husband out of the house.

Frank

Elegran Fri 22-Mar-13 10:00:30

I've been absent from here for a long time, absent Frank either can't or won't change track, or is enjoying frustrating everyone who tries to let in a chink of light. Or perhaps he is a figment of someone's fertile imagination.

absent Fri 22-Mar-13 09:20:23

Ditto Bags. I shall make myself absent.

HUNTERF Fri 22-Mar-13 09:19:41

Bags

I agree it was hard on the second husband but what would have you expected from the children under the circumstances?.

Frank

HUNTERF Fri 22-Mar-13 09:17:54

Bags

The children had jobs but legally the house was theirs.
My daughters visit me at my house but only live about 2 miles away.

Fank

Bags Fri 22-Mar-13 09:17:16

Tunnel vision.

Baggying off.

HUNTERF Fri 22-Mar-13 09:15:03

Hi absent

I think the second husband was stupid in not making sure accommodation was there if the wife passed away.
No arrangement was made with the children so they were within their rights to throw him out.
They owned half the house anyway before the second wife passed away.
He should have checked the ownership of the house at the land registry and got the advice of a solicitor if he was unsure.

Frank

sunseeker Fri 22-Mar-13 09:13:52

It's nice to now Frank approached the idea of marriage in the right frame of mind hmm