Advice re winding up estate.

My post was intended to be genuine - I feel concerned for his well-being; if he is unwell, then maybe our jokes are inappropriate. It is impossible to know. I was just flagging up this possibility for consideration.

There is no way of knowing about correspondents online; but I was concerned that we should not be cruel, as you say, if there are problems there that we do not know about.

I am not rapping anyone over the knuckles by saying this - just expressing a concern.

I do not understand the cryptic posts above that followed on from my comment, but I can live with that!

Mishap When I made a similar suggestion on one of HUNTERF's much earlier threads, I was severely chastised by other Grannetters from J08 to soop (and that's something of a gamut). I think GNHQ deleted the post. I was expressing concern about the obsessive repetition of the story about the inherited house and the fact that Frank had become the butt of jokes which seemed cruel if there were other issues.

gillybob oh ye of little faith

The question is Mishap who has the mental health issues? Him or Us?

I know which one I am thinking of..........

and its not him

"She has obviously approached me knowing I have dealt with my father's estate recently."

There is nothing "obvious" about her contacting you Frank and I agree with a lot of the comments that others have made. I just haven't made up my mind yet as to whether you are on some sort of wind up or there is some other reason behind all this.

Why do we respond to these posts? - they are clearly a windup. The best way to stop them is not to feed them with responses.

If all that he says is genuine, then there is clearly a mental health issue here that needs addressing and we are not helping him to deal with his problems. His degree of sense of persecution is far from normal; and his inability to respond to posts in a direct way is bizzarre - whatever people say, he just grinds on with what he planned to say in the first place. I do not think he is a well man and that is sad.

Money hid under floorboards is clearly Tax evasion. Frank I think it is your duty to inform the relevant authorities about this ASAP.

Perhaps you'd better take up all the floorboards instead. When I was at boarding school we used to hide the food for a midnight frat under a loose floorboard in the dorm!

You mean your friend has reason to believe her mother actually hid money in the house, Frank? Under the mattress, for example?

Nonu

Thanks for that. I will pass it on if I am involved in the search or not.
Its the most helpful advice I have had so far on Gransnet.
Thinking about it another place to look will be under furniture etc.

Frank

I was sole executor of my DHs Will and as a mere older female managed to deal with it without calling on the services of a man. My DH was also something of a packrat and would hide money around the house. I quite simply searched one room at a time and am sure I have got it all.

Strangely enough I haven't had anyone ring asking for my help in sorting out an estate!

glamanana

I knew exactly where my father's valuables were.
I have just been on to Age UK and they have said they do a book of life in which people record where their money is and they are sending one to me.
My daughter has my will and the other a certified copy in their bank safe custody.
Most of my info is on my laptop and backed up at their houses.
I will have a look at this book of life to see if I have omitted anything.
Obviously this will not help this lady.
They have given me the name of a couple of organisations to try but I suspect this will come to nothing.

Frank

Just a tip , when and if you go searching for the money , do not forget to look on the underside of the drawers , as people often hide things there !!!!

Am I wrong in thinking that we know where our parents had articles of value in their homes or am I from another planet altogether. ?

Hi sunseeker

I have agreed to help her search the house yet.
She has obviously approached me knowing I have dealt with my father's estate recently.
I just can not think what advice I could give her and helping her search the house is all I can think of but as people on here have said it might not be wise.

Frank

Galen you may be right

Could be, prefer Bags' theory!

As I have mentioned before I think Frank is a student who is trying to wind up the wrinklies, alternatively he is a Walter Mitty type who has to dramatise everything that happens to him.

He gets stopped by the police and weaves a story about having been reported as a DUI.

Someone mentions that she has to sort out her father's estate and he tells the story that she needs his help and he would have to search the house for details of hidden money.

Someone mentions they thought his father had left something to a girlfriend and he is immediately the target of elderly people accusing him of all sorts of wicked things.

Then of course there all the different pensions he is receiving!

Sorry Frank but no-one has so much happen to them in such a short time.

It is entertaining though, I'll give you that

If Frank does not tell us why this lady in her late thirties rang him, then I think the whole story is fiction from beginning to end. Women in their late thirties do not just ring Hunters out of the blue and ask them for assistance after the death of parents.

"She doesn't know where the money is".

What money?

I think Frank is playing an online mystery game and is posting the problems he comes up against on gransnet in the hope that we'll solve the next bit of the game for him and he can move to another room or get another strange phone call or knock on the door.

It doesn't make sense otherwise.

I find it strange that none of the properties concerned are everyday two up and two down houses and that none of the ladies concerned have male relatives available.
when your comments are so well founded.

You're not helping Frank - you're creating suspicion about your motives and reinforcing concerns about all those other women you claim to have 'helped.' It goes some way to explain why these locals have been complaining about how you acquired your house, and why social workers have not been friendly towards you. If you are sending out signals that you regularly involve yourself in the finances of older people, you may find official visitors at your front door before long, not just women with some sort of grievance. Why don't you have a think about what you are telling us about yourself?

gillybob, don't! My ribs are still aching from yesterday!

What?? Frank You got kicked in the teeth? Who did it?

Was it one of those queer folk??

Thanks

Just trying to help somebody and get kicked in the teeth.

I can virtually predict the next thrilling instalment in the life of Frank .

"I am being accused of taking things that did not belong to me after
rummaging around helping a lady in her late 30's go through her late mothers house. Queer people are knocking on my door asking where I have hidden the money, jewellery whatever.............."

Oh for goodness sake........ I think I need some kind of counselling just for reading the bloody threads never mind replying to them