Grandson was place in foster care too

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The mother goes to court on Monday so we will see what happens. The DHHS states that they look for relatives for the child to be place with. This is true unless u live out of state. Our goal is to provide my grandson a safe place and stability. He has been to so many schools and he is only 10 yrs old. The mother has moved a lot. We have offered to continue visiting privileges with his mother ( we would drive 6 hours one way and stay the weekend) and we understand that he can be place back with his mother. We would love for his mother to get back on her feet and get it together. We believe the child needs his/her mother. His step brothers and step sisters have family and they should step up to the plate and offer to help ( I heard some have)... The caseworker states that the court generally do not like to separate the kids. Its not my fault that the mother failed to do the right thing. If the state truly cares about the child to succeed they should do the right thing and place him with us. My wife and I both have good jobs- good income and can provide for him. We always have.

Hope you are lucky tomorrow.

Please let us know what happens, nuyork and good luck. What a worrying time for you and the children.

nuyork Wishing you all the best for a successful outcome.

Good luck in your endeavours

Good luck, that little boy needs some stability and lots of love.

It is obvious that you can offer your grandchild all the love and support he needs, I pray for a good outcome for you

Good luck.

Not knowing the USA childcare system, it is hard to suggest much that you could do. The different state laws system and distance difficulties in the USA are huge compared to the UK.

I do know that here in the UK, unless one knows the full details behind any such "child in care" situation it is difficult to make any comment on what might or might not be a best course of action.

I hope things work out better for the child. He does seem to have been moved around a lot.

I hope all goes well for you nuyork

hope you are able to enjoy the Christmas which your looking forward to....

hi can anyone help me i have a granddaughter who is in temp foster care i am going for kinship of her.Would i be able to ask the sw if they could place her with me while my assessment is done or will she have 2 remain in her foster home until it is all complete would love her here for xmas.

Pate37 You need to discuss with Children's services. There are so many things here, that the social workers will need to look at. It will also depend on whether or not there are court proceedings involved.

You should also discuss with the social workers about possible funding for kinship caring. Some local authorities do provide foster parent funding for kinship carers, others try hard to avoid paying family members to do this.
but depending on your family finances it can be a very big financial strain.

I think some local authorities try to blackmail relatives by suggesting that if you really love your relatives children you should take them on regardless of the financial costs.

Put this into Google " local authorities paying kinship carers" I found a number of different sites who had information on this.

I was not at the hearing today because we did not have to be there, but I hear another date is set. And disposition should be in Jan 2014 which I will probably go to.

Last week I sent an e-mail to the case worker because I have not have had contact (Call ) from my grandson within two weeks and he was move to the another foster care home.

My wife did get a call from my grandson today under the supervision of a case worker helper. Now this call was monitored by the helper. My wife and I did nothing wrong so I don't understand why we would be the subject of " call monitoring". Seems like this last couple of weeks the case worker s against us for some reason. You would think we would be a great placement option- No criminal record- Married for 30 years- Employed with employer 17 years wife 18 years. Own our home with extra bedroom for our grandson.

Maybe they just don't like because we do have communication with the mother. This is a must because she is the mother of our grandson. Communication is important. I feel like the DHHS do not meet there missing statement

" The mission of the Division of Children & Family Services is to provide the least disruptive services when needed, for only as long as needed to:
give children the opportunity to succeed as adults, help the elderly and disabled live with dignity and respect, and help families care for themselves; resulting in healthier families and safer, more prosperous communities."

Even one of there regulation/memos talks about placement with family and that seems not to be happing.

Hope my Attorney will contact me soon. At times I wish want to contact someone from the media to see if they want to cover a story on DHHS.

nuyork, i have just passed an assessment for a special guardianship order for my 3 month old grand daughter. she too was placed in foster care rather than with me, and i didnt understand it either, but i think thats just what happens in some cases.
i didnt understand why she went to foster care, started bonding with the foster carer and then could be moved again, possibly to me. but they didnt know if i would pass an assessment so i guess thats why.
in the uk they have 26 weeks from start to finish to get everything 'sorted' so there is minimal disruption to the child and the adoption process runs along side at the same time.

i wish you luck.